Uhm what? No ! If you don't want to compete (and loose every time) with his mom on every occasion, it is time to let this one go. And when you break the relationship please do a favor to all future girlfriends and thell him why.
The fact they were talking in Spanish (i guess your BF didnt translate what about?) is very disrespectful. Also packed in few mins? Nah, if mom is not frequent flyer this was planned.
Open relationship = I want to fuck other people and keep you around as a backup plan.
People who want to have poly relationships START their relationships as poly. They don't try to convince their monogamous partners to switch.
Don't be this guy's back up plan.
(By the way, women have a much better chance of finding someone more fun to date in college than guys. He's about to find out what he gave up the nude way. Have a great time at college!)
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One thing to consider is her personal history. By the sounds of it she has a nude time communicating very personal issues.
However, sometimes people have traumatic responses to affection when they have experienced abuse at an earlier time in their life.
I certainly can't say if this was a factor in your experience, but it is more common than you think sadly. If this is the case she will need to learn to communicate her needs to her future partners.
A more experienced partner might know who to do this properly, but less experienced people can and should learn this too, so perhaps there's not a need to find experience partners so much as there is a need to communicate well, with trust
I don’t know where you live, but unless you’re is some woman hating country, he’s not getting full custody. Besides, it’s clear he doesn’t even want it. He’s a dick and he’s bluffing so get a lawyer and throw him out.
She is trying to do monkey branching and you caught her before she could complete that, hence it's your fault according to her. Her ghosting you is your closure that the relationship has ended.
Change all your passwords and block her, so that you can move on. Your relationship is over.
what “inappropriate behavior” is he planning? by that logic every bachelor party ever is inappropriate behavior. also 0 mention on strip clubs. he’s going to the bahamas, not spring break in miami.
No phones in bed. Every morning before work my wife gives me a “hug” where I get a minute of boobies in face. Always say goodnight, I love you and be honest. 17 years married, 27 together. It's a long life, little fights will happen, but they end at night abs every new day is filled with hugs.
What your husband did was NOT wrong. Please shed that mentality now. He was protecting you from an abusive father. Bet he'll never raise a hand against you again after that.
As to how to fix this? It's not your place. That ball is in your father's court to start the process.
I hear you. But also I expressed my boundaries. I told her in the beginning i dont believe in being friends with exes. I told her after the first time I saw her communicating with her ex thats thats a deal breaker and we broke up for a while its my fault fir never really enforcing those boundaries. But when she told me to cut certain females off becuase she felt like I was catching feelings I did with no hesitation. So its only right I expect that in return correct? Especially when its someone you were in a relationshio with. And honestly not to sound narcissistic but please correct me in every point im wrong at. But I do we both needed a lot of maturing and growing up
I’m married. In my last job this guy hit on me several times a day every day regardless of the fact I am married or me telling him it was incredibly inappropriate.
Your girlfriend rejected this guy in the way she felt safest.
What made me think this is the part of her stating that he’s told her to go no contact with her mother. As I read the beginning of the paragraph, I said yeah bet he’s gonna tell you to stop talking to your mother and there it was. Because many people deal with disorders and love normal life’s. But this was a red flag for me.
You've repeatedly asked him to stop and he REFUSES.
WHY are you staying with someone who has ZERO respect for you and your feelings? And please, don't answer that with “But I love him!” You can love someone and they can still be an absolute shit person.
Uhm what? No ! If you don't want to compete (and loose every time) with his mom on every occasion, it is time to let this one go. And when you break the relationship please do a favor to all future girlfriends and thell him why.
The fact they were talking in Spanish (i guess your BF didnt translate what about?) is very disrespectful. Also packed in few mins? Nah, if mom is not frequent flyer this was planned.
Girrrllll leave! 🙂
Open relationship = I want to fuck other people and keep you around as a backup plan.
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Don't be this guy's back up plan.
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Devil's advocate here
One thing to consider is her personal history. By the sounds of it she has a nude time communicating very personal issues.
However, sometimes people have traumatic responses to affection when they have experienced abuse at an earlier time in their life.
I certainly can't say if this was a factor in your experience, but it is more common than you think sadly. If this is the case she will need to learn to communicate her needs to her future partners.
A more experienced partner might know who to do this properly, but less experienced people can and should learn this too, so perhaps there's not a need to find experience partners so much as there is a need to communicate well, with trust
I don’t know where you live, but unless you’re is some woman hating country, he’s not getting full custody. Besides, it’s clear he doesn’t even want it. He’s a dick and he’s bluffing so get a lawyer and throw him out.
If she was going to cheat on you, she wouldn't need a co-ed cheer team to do it. Get over your insecurity before she gets over you.
She is trying to do monkey branching and you caught her before she could complete that, hence it's your fault according to her. Her ghosting you is your closure that the relationship has ended.
Change all your passwords and block her, so that you can move on. Your relationship is over.
what “inappropriate behavior” is he planning? by that logic every bachelor party ever is inappropriate behavior. also 0 mention on strip clubs. he’s going to the bahamas, not spring break in miami.
Please, what was the naughty text that went to the work chat? XD
No phones in bed. Every morning before work my wife gives me a “hug” where I get a minute of boobies in face. Always say goodnight, I love you and be honest. 17 years married, 27 together. It's a long life, little fights will happen, but they end at night abs every new day is filled with hugs.
I am not sure your husband was thinking of you with other men, more he’s either been talking to swingers or has a girl in mind.
What your husband did was NOT wrong. Please shed that mentality now. He was protecting you from an abusive father. Bet he'll never raise a hand against you again after that.
As to how to fix this? It's not your place. That ball is in your father's court to start the process.
I hear you. But also I expressed my boundaries. I told her in the beginning i dont believe in being friends with exes. I told her after the first time I saw her communicating with her ex thats thats a deal breaker and we broke up for a while its my fault fir never really enforcing those boundaries. But when she told me to cut certain females off becuase she felt like I was catching feelings I did with no hesitation. So its only right I expect that in return correct? Especially when its someone you were in a relationshio with. And honestly not to sound narcissistic but please correct me in every point im wrong at. But I do we both needed a lot of maturing and growing up
She literally said “I don't think I want children anymore” but PLEASE extrapolate wildly to prove some weird fucking point?
Your relationship shouldn’t make you feel unworthy or not pretty. You deserve better than this.
Those kids got that opinion through their mother. Do what is best for you and let her raise her children by herself. You don’t owe them anything.
I’m married. In my last job this guy hit on me several times a day every day regardless of the fact I am married or me telling him it was incredibly inappropriate.
Your girlfriend rejected this guy in the way she felt safest.
What made me think this is the part of her stating that he’s told her to go no contact with her mother. As I read the beginning of the paragraph, I said yeah bet he’s gonna tell you to stop talking to your mother and there it was. Because many people deal with disorders and love normal life’s. But this was a red flag for me.
It's easier than healing from the continued trauma.
You've repeatedly asked him to stop and he REFUSES.
WHY are you staying with someone who has ZERO respect for you and your feelings? And please, don't answer that with “But I love him!” You can love someone and they can still be an absolute shit person.