0 views
SWEET + DEVIL = PERFECT COMBINATION!!! , ♥ LET’S PLAY AND HAVE FUN ♥ AT GOAL INSTANT CUM♥ PVT ON 30TKS ♥ SNAPCHAT 4LIFE 25TKS ♥ SUSCRIBE MY FANSODA FOR $4.99♥ CONTROL LUSH 69 TKS♥ [Multi Goal]
Date: October 9, 2022
Can I make what might sound like an odd suggestion? In a calm conversation not linked to an instance of you doing this, agree a, for want of a better term, “safe word” with your boyfriend. Agree that when you're doing “your bullshit” he can just say the word, or the phrase, and you will STOP. The conversation ends there, you will walk away and take as long as you need to do some calm down and introspection and come back when you've rationalised what you were going to start getting on him about and have gotten over the urge, and he can continue doing what he's doing in your absence.
It sounds weird, but it's pretty basic behavioural training.
Hello /u/burner___account_. We do not allow submissions that involve minors. Should you have any questions, or if you feel this was in error please contact our mod team.
Reposting and changing your age(s) to get around our rules will result in a permanent ban.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
After telling him my concerns, he says he doesn’t understand my opinion. Although, he says if it’s going to affect how I view our relationship then he will just not go. I don’t want to be the one to decide whether he goes on this trip. I just feel that he didn’t really take into consideration my concerns from the beginning which is what is making me more frustrated than anything. He didn’t go about this in a way that I would have preferred and I’m not sure whether he plans on going to Europe still or not.
Hello /u/ScaredIndividual16,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles use the following formatting:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Hello /u/ooljima,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Is he getting help or just not doing it anymore?
Talk to him if you are jealous or feel somethin is up.
This is so cruel. Having belief doesn't make you mentally ill.
Now if you told us you were hearing voices from God or God was telling you to behave a certain way that might be a different story
It happens all the time. Coworkers hooking up.
3 times and with a lot of talking and consent, wow.
I don’t know that you’ll be able to convince her entirely because the societal things others have mentioned, but I think the right dirty talk/not in the moment foreplay would be really helpful. If she’s someone who’s into that, at least.
Like, if you message her early in the day about what you want to do to her when you get home, she might be able to mentally prepare to open up that window a bit, rather than being put on the spot later. Or if you’re starting to get heated and you tell her you NEED to taste her? Hot. I’d also recommend making these attempts one day outside the current window at a time. If it’s something she’s anxious about she may be more receptive to allowing it one day outside the window than a handful, and you can potentially build from there.
from reading these comments – i think you've hit the nail on the head.
spot on.
Since moving in, my mom and I have fallen into a pattern that has been present since my childhood. When we fight, I cry. I’m on antidepressants and anxiety meds, but I cannot stop crying. The fights are never 100% her fault, but she often calls me a cry baby, tells me I’m acting stupid or entitled and ungrateful, and threatens to throw me out. Last night, after my husband left, she called us both babies and it just triggers my crying. She then screams at me because I am crying and feels I am trying to manipulate her. I tell her it hurts me when she calls me names and she doubles down with the general sentiment that her feelings are hurt and she doesn’t cry all the time. She then fake cries to mock me or laugh at me.
I feel like a child. I have had so many years of therapy because I was a bad child. I’ve worked so hot to grow up and make my mental health my responsibility. It is unfair to her that I cannot stop crying and I can’t regulate my emotions. How can I better disengage and get control of myself? If things don’t change, I’m going to lose my husband and my mom. I have no other family (mom has been no contact with them for years). I don’t really know what advice I’m expecting, but if anyone has gone through something similar i am all ears.
I don't really think the issue here is that you can't regulate your emotions. Your mother calls you names, screams at you, and mocks you, but the problem here is that you cry when she exhibits abusive behaviour? THAT'S the problem?
If your mother was a reasonable person, there could be a reasonable discussion about the timeline for the house projects, and if she wants things done more quickly than you and your husband feel is possible, she can hire professionals to do things, on her dime. BUT YOUR MOTHER IS NOT A REASONABLE PERSON. And you can't reason with unreasonable tyrants, which is what she is.
GET OUT. However you can. As soon as you can.
And if you don't have a therapist now, I urge you to get one. (Could you elaborate on your “so many years of therapy” that you had “because [you were] a bad child”? That sentence is so so upsetting to read.