You need some serious therapy. You’re dealing with a huge portion of the population if you don’t want him to even breathe in the direction of someone with bigger boobs than you.
I second the user that said you are too insecure to be in a relationship. You are imposing your traumas on someone else. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Has he “forgotten” any other occasions? Is he dropping the ball in other areas too, aside from child care?
If this is a pattern of behavior for him, and he's being inconsiderate in other areas after it's been explicitly laid out to him, then you have to seriously think about your options moving forward.
If this the straw that breaks the camel's back, I would highly suggest trying couples therapy, or at the very bare minimum, getting yourself some individual counseling. 10 years is a long time, and you have a baby together. If you decide you aren't going to put up with it, make sure you have additional supports in place for you and your baby.
Awww,I think your doing great, you won't stop liking her immediately of course that's now how humans work but this is such a sweet way to how you guys are still trying to be friends
I love pets too but this new place is no place for them. I'm going to agree that it did come across as a red flag especially because the way she phrased it wasn't if “I” was going to get a pet but when “we” would get a pet
I get that you are in your feelings. However, is running away from your family going to solve anything?
Does your mother truly love your sister more? I don't personally know her, but I question if your perceiving it that way because you are overwhelmed. Your mother is spending most of her time with you. Is it possible that it seems like she prefers your sister more, because they see each other less often? So, she seems happier around her than she does you.
As to the financial misunderstanding. A lot of people do not understand what a CD is or how it works. Have you explained to your mom and sister exactly what and how you are handling her finances? If she still has issues with what you are doing, tell her that you would be happy to let your sister or a court appointed executor take care of her financial affairs.
Talk to your wife. Tell her how you feel. If you want more from your marriage and want to work on things, you've got to start by opening up about your feelings.
Honestly that’s how I feel. I feel alone. No matter how much I express how I feel life just continues and she’s still here. And no to a certain extent she isn’t the problem, she does do things and oversteps quite often and that makes me not want her here but at the end of the day she is doing much better for herself and as a person I don’t have any problems with her other than just feeling overwhelmed like I can’t just be free in my own home with my children. I can’t get up in the mornings with my hair a wreck and my short shorts or no bra on running to make bottles or make breakfast for my children. I just feel watched all the time. It’s almost as if I’m living in someone else’s home. When it’s our home. Ya know. Or even when I’m in my room with my door closed playing with the baby or in the mornings when everyone’s still asleep and she hears me awake she just walks in and comes sit on my bed. Like , no? And I don’t want to be mean but no. We don’t do that. Lol so what do I do lock my bedroom door? I feel like I shouldn’t have to do that in my own house ya know. but yes outside of that I do feel alone when expressing all of this to him and a part of me knows like maybe my he is trying to make up for that part of his life when his mother wasn’t in it and she chose that life to not care for them. But in my mind it’s like she walked away from you and your siblings. She didn’t care. But now y’all want to repair that? And to a certain extent I understand. But like you’re an adult now with your own children.
Yes
You need some serious therapy. You’re dealing with a huge portion of the population if you don’t want him to even breathe in the direction of someone with bigger boobs than you.
I second the user that said you are too insecure to be in a relationship. You are imposing your traumas on someone else. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
I think you guys need to talk about your boundaries; what you want in the form of physical intimacy and the other in emotional
Has he “forgotten” any other occasions? Is he dropping the ball in other areas too, aside from child care?
If this is a pattern of behavior for him, and he's being inconsiderate in other areas after it's been explicitly laid out to him, then you have to seriously think about your options moving forward.
If this the straw that breaks the camel's back, I would highly suggest trying couples therapy, or at the very bare minimum, getting yourself some individual counseling. 10 years is a long time, and you have a baby together. If you decide you aren't going to put up with it, make sure you have additional supports in place for you and your baby.
Awww,I think your doing great, you won't stop liking her immediately of course that's now how humans work but this is such a sweet way to how you guys are still trying to be friends
Ya know maturity!
I love pets too but this new place is no place for them. I'm going to agree that it did come across as a red flag especially because the way she phrased it wasn't if “I” was going to get a pet but when “we” would get a pet
She sounds like a real gem.
The fact that she purposely tries to start fights with people shows just what type of person she really is.
Believe her.
Of course you expect him to give up his last name because you’re so disgusted that women usually do it yet combining the two is out of the question.
You act as though this is some honourable thing, it’s not it’s just hypocrisy
LMAO
trueee
I get that you are in your feelings. However, is running away from your family going to solve anything?
Does your mother truly love your sister more? I don't personally know her, but I question if your perceiving it that way because you are overwhelmed. Your mother is spending most of her time with you. Is it possible that it seems like she prefers your sister more, because they see each other less often? So, she seems happier around her than she does you.
As to the financial misunderstanding. A lot of people do not understand what a CD is or how it works. Have you explained to your mom and sister exactly what and how you are handling her finances? If she still has issues with what you are doing, tell her that you would be happy to let your sister or a court appointed executor take care of her financial affairs.
Talk to your wife. Tell her how you feel. If you want more from your marriage and want to work on things, you've got to start by opening up about your feelings.
Honestly that’s how I feel. I feel alone. No matter how much I express how I feel life just continues and she’s still here. And no to a certain extent she isn’t the problem, she does do things and oversteps quite often and that makes me not want her here but at the end of the day she is doing much better for herself and as a person I don’t have any problems with her other than just feeling overwhelmed like I can’t just be free in my own home with my children. I can’t get up in the mornings with my hair a wreck and my short shorts or no bra on running to make bottles or make breakfast for my children. I just feel watched all the time. It’s almost as if I’m living in someone else’s home. When it’s our home. Ya know. Or even when I’m in my room with my door closed playing with the baby or in the mornings when everyone’s still asleep and she hears me awake she just walks in and comes sit on my bed. Like , no? And I don’t want to be mean but no. We don’t do that. Lol so what do I do lock my bedroom door? I feel like I shouldn’t have to do that in my own house ya know. but yes outside of that I do feel alone when expressing all of this to him and a part of me knows like maybe my he is trying to make up for that part of his life when his mother wasn’t in it and she chose that life to not care for them. But in my mind it’s like she walked away from you and your siblings. She didn’t care. But now y’all want to repair that? And to a certain extent I understand. But like you’re an adult now with your own children.