Of course no one “owes” their ex anything and to expect him to be your emotional support in a time of need is misguided.
But, so what? That doesn't remotely excuse his crass reply. No one deserves to be mocked and laughed at in a vulnerable moment. I wouldn't treat my worst enemy like that. It is despicable.
My ex of seven years wrote to me that her grandmother had passed away. I don't particularly like the way she ended our relationship or the person she has become since then, but in that moment none of that mattered. I replied, offering my condolences and that i hoped she was ok and had people to talk with (her family is on another continent.) I tried to show empathy while also not offering myself up as her emotional support.
Nah just walk bro , she lied and went to their house , either she testing the waters to see what you will tolerate and if you stay with her then she knows she can cheat or she just cheated…. Either way for me is the same end result , leaving
You are both just too different , she can seperate sex and love , can sex others and not feel bad , you on the other hand can't….. Just leave otherwise you are still going to be hurt just take a bit longer that's all
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Well according to every man in this thread when he watches porn he’s imagining fucking that girl so tell me how that’s not supposed to make me feel uncomfortable
If Sam has explicitly disinvited you, remind your wife of this fact and do not go.
If he did not, I’m sorry to say that you should go. I cannot imagine that you are the only one that Sam is an asshole towards, can you commiserate at the party with everyone else?
Showing chats is a violation of her relationship with him by her own logic, correct?
So why doesn't she care about violating your relationship by flirting with him in the first place?
He's already more important than you in her eyes, and if she hasn't banged him yet, she will soon. I'm sorry you put some years into this relationship only for it to go down like this, but I'd highly suggest figuring out your housing situation after you breakup.
Why would you stay until the house is sold? Sorry if I'm missing something, but why can't you leave in advance and put the house on the market during the divorce process? The longer you stay there surely the longer you are under his control?
Oh, apologies. It definitely ready like the first thing you suggested was giving the baby your name, and then you compromised on a hyphenated one. Have you had a talk about responsibilities yet? Is she going to be the primary caregiver for the child? (Like being a SAHM) it’s definitely more practical having the primary caregiver having the same name for getting legal stuff sorted.
That said, I don’t think it’s fair she’s backtracking on a compromise you made.
Just break up, neither of you knows how to be in a relationship.
Huh? I do not understand these replies.
Of course no one “owes” their ex anything and to expect him to be your emotional support in a time of need is misguided.
But, so what? That doesn't remotely excuse his crass reply. No one deserves to be mocked and laughed at in a vulnerable moment. I wouldn't treat my worst enemy like that. It is despicable.
My ex of seven years wrote to me that her grandmother had passed away. I don't particularly like the way she ended our relationship or the person she has become since then, but in that moment none of that mattered. I replied, offering my condolences and that i hoped she was ok and had people to talk with (her family is on another continent.) I tried to show empathy while also not offering myself up as her emotional support.
Nah just walk bro , she lied and went to their house , either she testing the waters to see what you will tolerate and if you stay with her then she knows she can cheat or she just cheated…. Either way for me is the same end result , leaving
You are both just too different , she can seperate sex and love , can sex others and not feel bad , you on the other hand can't….. Just leave otherwise you are still going to be hurt just take a bit longer that's all
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Well according to every man in this thread when he watches porn he’s imagining fucking that girl so tell me how that’s not supposed to make me feel uncomfortable
Girl, you know the truth.
You know. ?
No problem! People need to be more supportive and less black and white
If Sam has explicitly disinvited you, remind your wife of this fact and do not go.
If he did not, I’m sorry to say that you should go. I cannot imagine that you are the only one that Sam is an asshole towards, can you commiserate at the party with everyone else?
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Showing chats is a violation of her relationship with him by her own logic, correct?
So why doesn't she care about violating your relationship by flirting with him in the first place?
He's already more important than you in her eyes, and if she hasn't banged him yet, she will soon. I'm sorry you put some years into this relationship only for it to go down like this, but I'd highly suggest figuring out your housing situation after you breakup.
Just talk to her about it. Use your words, have a conversation with her.
It might be uncomfortable, but being able to talk about problems is important in any relationship.
So talk to her. It's the only way to resolve this.
Why would you stay until the house is sold? Sorry if I'm missing something, but why can't you leave in advance and put the house on the market during the divorce process? The longer you stay there surely the longer you are under his control?
Both can be true – and most definitely are here.
Oh, apologies. It definitely ready like the first thing you suggested was giving the baby your name, and then you compromised on a hyphenated one. Have you had a talk about responsibilities yet? Is she going to be the primary caregiver for the child? (Like being a SAHM) it’s definitely more practical having the primary caregiver having the same name for getting legal stuff sorted.
That said, I don’t think it’s fair she’s backtracking on a compromise you made.