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Oooof no
My ex ended up having more than one on-line girlfriend behind my back. He called me jealous, insecure, a misogynist, and god knows what else because I didn’t want him to fly to Argentina to meet some chick he described as “smoking hot”.
Please don’t allow this. It’ll get worse.
Maybe he is just joking and you are clearly over reacting at the heat of the moment
You’re right – the edit has tipped this over into clear misogynist creep fanfiction.
Porn is for lonely people.
Exactly what I was thinking. OP you talk to much and trying to convince us that you don’t have/don’t want to have feelings for SIL. My advice is to steer clear of her for now and let this shit blow over.
Of course she shouldt just run away, but they definitely need a serious conversation, I dont think it will be useful tho
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Okay, because they say “to the baby”…
oooh sorry. I can usually read sarcasm but I've had so many downvotes I figured maybe no one understood I was being facetious.
You set boundaries and expect your boyfriend to respect them. A relationship is a partnership and it ranks higher than friendship. She wouldn't be doing those things if he didn't allow it, and he wouldn't allow it if he respects your feelings.
Moat of those behaviors would be over the line for me, too.
You really hit the nail on the head here! That's the exact interaction I was hoping to get by posting this. It was a healthy conversation with no blame or guilt involved, just solutions! I think that's the main goal of this sub, and Im so glad I joined and posted.
Girl, don’t justify your self on here! These men wouldn’t birth a baby if you paid them! 9 months of incubation, the delivery, and getting your baby past newborn stage. Total that dollar amount and hand it to him. You’ve much more than earned your few months of keep! Good Lord!
It didn’t…
I have subtly shut her down, but she didn’t take the hint.
Of course I don't think that, I never said I did. Aromantics do generally feel love though, so this is irrelevant to OP and me.
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Have you told your husband you can't deal with this stress anymore and need a break? He probably is trying the best he can in this fucked up situation
No it would not be a mistake. He's taking things out on you. It sounds like he has some anger issues over the divorce and is verbally abusive. My ex-husband was verbally and emotionally abusive and I stayed with him 3 1/2 years too long. Your husband needs to be in therapy to address these issues. You can not be a verbal punching bag every time your husband gets angry.
Tell him that you WILL contact his wife with proof if he ever contacts you again, then wait because he will text you probably lying and apologizing and giving you a BS excuse, then send her everything you have and tell her to stop her husband from contacting you again! Then block and delete.
The fact he lied is a bad sign.
But are you happy? Does he meet your needs? Is he good to your children? Does he validate them and love them unconditionally? Does he love consistently and in a predictable way on 99% of days? (We're all human and allowed a shit*ty day or 2)
Or does he chop and change so you never know if you're getting? Is affection unpredictable? Is it massive highs, withdrawals and lows where you beg for scraps of attention/affection?
You need to step back and ask some serious questions.
Mental issues Check
Sloppy Drunk Check
Cheater Check
Liar Chek
But let me guess, she’s your soul mate.
Cheers to you!
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I personally find it strange that he let himself buy drinks and actually drink them, so that he get drunk while working there. Normally they fake drinking or so, because they can't get toxicated while being on job. And also there he mix his medication with alc.
And actually what on this job is helping him with his mental health that he can't get at any other job? Did he ever told you?
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Getting only your side of the story and not knowing what your arguments are about, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you're not a pos that drives your gf to these lengths (I had a terrible ex who would drive me insane and brought out the worst in me)
Generally, a person who loves you and has your best interests in mind does not act this way. Full stop. Become independent, reflect on what led the relationship to get to this state and what motivated you to accept this kind of treatment, then as a healed person find yourself a healthy loving partner.
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and who cares that she was drunkß she shouldnt be your wife anymroe. break up.
Don't people set boundaries before entering a relationship? i have a list written down with dealbreakers…so i can respect myself if something happens. So I don't make stupid emotional decisions.
Cheating is a dealbreaker for me. If someone crosses that boundaries we are done.
If you tolerate that…go ahead. but then you wouldn't need to post on this subreddit. Leave her if you love yourself
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Came here to say this too. An ex of mind explained it to me as me being so independent that it’d be nice to know that I needed him/wanted his help even if was just carrying groceries in from the car (I truly thought I was saving him the hassle).
Your summary seems to be the most accurate way going foward
Even if I’m open to staying here?
I don't understand why you feel the need to send your message though? If it's just casual sex why are you telling him you're going to invest energy somewhere else for something serious. Why would he care.
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Honestly, it was an immature, pointless question. How is it a constructive idea to ask someone you are dating to list the other, real people in his life that he would like to sleep with?! You both are responsible for this. She asked a dumb question, got an answer she didn't like, and now can't deal. You cluelessly should have just given some vague response.
You need to apologize for upsetting her and say she caught you off guard and you didn't know how to respond. She needs to stop being immature and actually talk to you rather than cutting you out.
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Some guys just get really exhausted after, especially at 50. I'd wager though he holds onto resentment for when you left him.
Your boyfriend is an asshole and you need to dump his ass if this is a regular occurrence.
This is for real legit financial abuse.
She’s an adult. She just needs to pack her bags and leave. It’s literally that easy.
Run, OP!
Jesus, a 24 y/o guy dating a 16 y/o is already a huge red flag. It doesn't surprise me that his brother is also a sleaze. Go home to your family and don't come back.
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Probably a juggalo
Oh wow your weakness for not wanting to be the jealous type screwed you over. She is definitely sleeping with him and his dealer more than likely. May want to grow a backbone and break up and ghost her.
Buddy, are you 100% sure she’s awake during the entire time? I have masturbated while asleep and I’d wake up right when I orgasm.
Technically, I’m having sex dreams that get so real that I end up masturbating as I’m dreaming. I don’t know how long I last doing this while asleep, but my husband says I tend to slow down, then go faster, and slow and can definitely go on for a bit. The first time it happened, right when I finished my husband something like “gosh, that was awesome” and I was completely confused, embarrassed, and had no idea what to say. I got also a bit worried he was going to start asking who I was dreaming with and things like that because honestly I didn’t even remember.
But one thing I can tell you, if I’m awake I won’t spend hours masturbating. When I masturbate, it’s usually because I’m lazy but horny, so I just want to get off quick. To spend hours at it, I’ll wake up my husband
I’m not saying, it’s not possible she’s lying about it. She can be lying about it and doing it while awake, but she can also be doing it while asleep.
So she does nothing with the dog all day and gets upset about some whining to the point she wants the dog gone?
Wait’ll she finds out how much work and noise a baby makes.
I would not be rehoming my dog. I would, however, build him a heated dog house in a fenced yard and put him out while I’m out, weather permitting. She would have to put up with him when it’s too cold outside. I wouldn’t trust her home alone with him – definitely watch the home cams.
No, I don’t think pregnancy is an excuse for any kind of abuse, animal or human.
The lead thing is pretty drastic, but she sounds desperate for peace during the day. What else can she do? Have you seen the OP’s replies to my comments? He doesn’t take her concerns seriously at all. Sounds like there’s a long history to this dog issue and nothing’s been done about it. She’s probably at her wits’ end, and who knows if she’d even follow through with letting a dog freeze outside all day. OP’s only solutions so far are for her to wear headphones all day, or let his dog out of its kennel so it can run around and bother her while she’s working in the dining room. His comments really made it clear that he doesn’t see/care how much this is bothering her, so she’s probably resorting to threats to get him to actually do something.
And she didn’t abandon her dog. She rehomed it to a farm, which is a great fit for an ACD. There is absolutely nothing wrong with rehoming a dog if you’re overwhelmed trying to care for it. ACDs are not dogs for casual owners, so if anything I’d blame her for getting one in the first place if she wasn’t sure she could handle it while pregnant. But rehoming it is the responsible thing to do if you realize you’re in over your head.
I’ve said this to her!! But she keeps telling me that if I knew that I was attracted to her and was eventually going to approach her, I shouldn’t have slept with someone else. Her logic is that even she had liked me for a while and therefore didn’t do anything with anyone out of respect for her attraction towards me. I mean ok!! Ya I an ashamed of my past but give me a break!! I love her and she can’t see it at all!!
If you want to remain helpess just say that
There are lots of German surnames that just don’t work in English, like ‘Rape’ pronounced like Rah-puh, Dickmann, Schwanz ( also used as a synonym for cock ), even Bitsch.
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What was the point of coming on here and asking for advice if you’re not going to take it?
I feel sorry for your wife it must be really frustrating to be married to you.
Do you think that you would feel controlled if you gave in and did this one small thing for her ?
I think you're doing the right thing, I can't imagine the terror that you faced. You are lucky to have your own personal bodyguard. If your fiance can't accept and be grateful for that due to his own insecurities, fuck 'em.
You dodged a bullet by her dumping you.
Imagine having to deal with these headgames for the next 10+ years. These Jeckyl/Hyde conversations for years would have driven you nuts. She probably isn't sure what she wants right now and you definitely aren't going to hear the truth from her about much of anything. When she was drinking she let her guard down and told you she wasn't happy. She probably left you for another guy that didn't work out, or left you thinking the grass was greener. Now that she is sober, she has her false persona up acting like she lives the best life ever. She seems to be the type that wants you to fail while she appears to have the best life even if it's not true.
Cut your losses, block her. If you want a final jab at her, let her know and says it's because you are so busy with good things, you don't have time for her anymore.
A light, playful slap in the arm could MAYBE be ok as a joke/comedic effect as long as you’d be ok with it and it was clear all round that it was not painful. Slapping you in the face? Oh no, absolutely not, doesn’t matter if it hurts or not, a slap in the face always has the intent to hurt and humiliate. Walk away from this – she will do it again.
That’s not how being bisexual works. Just because someone is bi doesn’t mean they’re incapable of monogamy. This isn’t porn. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Haven’t touched a girl or a guy in those three years and don’t plan on ever doing it again with anyone but him. That’s normal for bisexual people. It isn’t normal to go around having threesomes.
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do you think that the girl feels something for him?
Sorry, right after you mentioned feeling betrayed, you talk about your BFs lack of communication hurting you. That made it seem like he was somehow part of the problem.
What you do is distance yourself from this friend. She’s gonna cause drama and try and do shit with each of you individually if you won’t include her. She’s a twist.
There are millions if not billions of good people in the world. You don't have to stay in a relationship that isn't working for you because they are good. You stay because you are compatible and are fulfilled in the relationship and it's currently 0/2.
Very rare mistakes occur such as switching babies at birth, in vitro fertilization wrong egg or sperm used. But you have to see that the mother is known, the father is implied since he is not giving birth.
Yeah, I'm with him, if my wife did that to me I would eat out or made my own food from this point on as well. God forbid one day he will say that he liked other woman cooking on a house party or smg, you gonna put a full diper in his food next? ffs…
Let's see here…four months ago you were a 32-year-old male asking about condoms with you and your wife. Then six months ago you were 25 years old asking about your 24-year-old ex-girlfriend.
Who are you gonna be next time you post?
Porn is not real life and not necessarily a true representation of our real preferences. Don’t let this bother you that much, but definitely talk to your GF if you cannot let it go.
It didn’t at all!! I truly appreciate the advice!!
THIS IS REALLY FUCKED UP. YOU ON-LINE TOGETHER. DOES YOUR FIANCÉ HAVE A LIFE INSURANCE POLICY ON YOU?
If this is not a concern:
“What can I do next?”
NOTHING. Do nothing.
Next time your fiancée says he is upset about this you say:
“Your lack of concern about my safety is worrying.” (and hang up the phone)
If he keeps going:
“You are an adult man and my fiancé. Why are you upset that I took steps to protect myself until you return?”
And get him to give you an answer.
If ANY answer sounds anything like 'you and the baby adult might end up fucking' then your fiancé does not trust you.
He literally thinks that you will fuck a dixk because it is in the same building as you.
What needs to happen?
HE needs to apologize to you.
You have been traumatized and you took ingenious steps to ensure your safety.
The fact that he is not CHEERING because you came up with a great solution should have YOU side-eyeing HIS character.
This may not be a person you want to marry. You find out who a person is when a 'crisis' happens. You see how they treat you and everyone. This guy sounds like a dud. Sorry.
Like carrying a baseball bat in your car with baseballs and a glove
Updateme.
Cut ties. Just that simple.
My best friend is a woman, and we share the same BED on holiday to save money. I do this with male friends too. I don’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks, and i definitely wouldn’t date any normie hetero woman with fragile femininity who is scared that I’m fucking a friend who is essentially like a sister to me.
Not every criticism of a woman boils down to misogyny
What has DeSantis done to make LBGT and minorities miserable or dead? Prove me wrong and I'll vote all blue in the next election.
Why are you 19 dating this old ass man ?
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Only if it’s a one party state or the recording will not only be of no use but could get her in trouble. She could also be charged with theft over the credit card regardless of how much the purchase is. Also just because she bought plan b that doesn’t mean it had anything to do with him, she could have cheated and didn’t want to have a baby with someone who isn’t her bf. Also she should stop living off of someone she doesn’t want to be with and get out for her own safety because he doesn’t sound safe from her side. Stories have three sides though.
All parents worry about this but that doesn’t mean putting your life on hold indefinitely. Personal growth makes you a better parent.
If you are going to sacrifice your career, then any pre-nip needs to make sure you have enough $$ to raise these children.
That said, I would first work no matter what. No need to make a decision now, is there? See how you like it.
They usually don't. Many times it's a surprise. It's fortunate you found out when you did.
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Get her into therapy.
He loves walks it’s just cold out rn sadly. After seeing this i suggested zoodles and some veggie stir fry. I’m going to see if there’s any fun held that things he wants to shop for tomorrow !
Oh, well, I'm seeking better therapy
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Nope, I think it’s totally fine to comment several hours after the first comment. That’s completely normal on Reddit. My apologies if I didn’t clearly indicate my sarcasm.
Even if you don't get back with your ex-partner, you can see about talking with him and apologize to each other. Be a Rowley, not a Greg.
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Yeah I'd definitely be pushing him out the door and curling up in bed.
There are certain things that you just don't joke about…rape is one if them and high on the list. I'd be freaked out too if my partner said something like that, and his reaction to you being upset is very poor at best.
I play a lot of video games, not gonna lie. It's my favourite hobby. But it'll never take centre stage from someone I love and care about.
This is a discussion for when you're NOT in the sexy times. A sit down in the cold light of day with “hey, we need to talk about this because it's actually wearing on me and causing me some stress, but I need you to respect my boundary and stop asking this because it's causing issues”.
Put it to bed when you're NOT in bed, if you know what I mean.
So he’s asking if you’d be ok with him sleeping with someone local to him because you are basically an internet crush at this stage.
Then when you said no, he’s backtracking and saying he didn’t mean it, and was testing you to see if you would do the same.
He’s dating her. Walk away. You have no control over his sex life because you’ve never met.
Find someone local yourself and have a real relationship.
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Yup. There are no grey areas. Accept this is your life or walk.
This is so sad…I’m sorry, OP. Can you move out and use have regular roommates?
Ok if you keep staying w this stupid man it's because you actually aren't ok w being alone. Gtfo
Time to move on
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You need to put your foot down. Don’t let someone affect your relationship or your mental health due to their own actions. Tell him that you aren’t okay with his actions and that you can’t go on unless he actually does something about it. He needs to pick between you or her.
Don't feel bad. Maybe you just miss what you hoped it could be, rather than what it was.
You have to be your own best friend.
Dude I am actually worried about you. You sound like you’re days away from losing your family. Your wife isn’t overreacting you are under reacting. You need to take immediate action now.
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My ex-boyfriend was, at the time, also my best friend. And he was an abusive a**hole to me. Part of why I stayed was because he was my best friend, and I knew if I dumped him, I'd lose not just my partner but also my friend, and it was too much for me. I finally realized how awful he was when his roommate punched me in the face and they laughed as I left a blood trail running to the bathroom. They thought hitting a girl was hilarious and justified.
You are worth so much more than him, and you deserve so much better. He can (and should) kick rocks. He sounds like a piece of trash.
And, girl, if you need someone to watch Naruto with instead of him, let me know ?
Honestly, Steph has been obsessed with Joel for over 5 years and what it looks like harassing him with unnecessary phone calls, and being inappropriately forward at work.
First, she is unhinged and I seriously wouldn’t consider her a friend. And definitely not enough of a friend to reject an opportunity for true love. Second, she is unhinged and you should be very careful how you handle this. I think it would be insane to let a crazy woman stand in the way of a serious relationship. That’s worth waaaay more than a work relationship. But, she sounds like trouble. So you and Joel should figure it out. .
Except she has commented that she has no intention of even attempting to change. So, yes, she is selfish and shame on her for not listening to her husband and doing something to relieve him of this constantly suffocating relationship.
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My sincere apologies! I missed that totally. Thank you for pointing that out.
Same! They don’t even realize how manipulative it is, and when you end things they blame it all on you.
boundary
You're using the word boundry here, which feels right for things like “don't smoke around me or the kid.” When you're talking about things he might do in private, that's less of a boundry and more of something else, like a control, or a rule, or something. Like if my partner told me she had a boundry where I couldn't eat sugary foods, or something…
Maybe the term doesn't matter in the end, if its something that you all can't agree on, but I think sometimes words matter, since they can frame a mindset.
I agree.
Block her and move away from the drama.
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So what are the good parts of this relationship that are keeping you there?
I feel like no relationship is worth having to turn into Sherlock Holmes or Benoit Blanc to try and figure things out.
If I'm ever at that point in the relationship, I'd just leave my partner. The trust is more than gone at that point.
Your focus is different. You are focused on your schooling, he is focused on after. Tell him that.
You need to focus on your schooling and completing it. Med school by design is hot. It has to absorb your attention, by mentioning and bringing up what happens after is stressing the hell out of you. Tell him ” when I am done we will figure out how to be together, any talk now stresses me and makes me lose my focus on school which stresses me more. Please stop bringing it up till I graduate “.
If he can't respect your wishes or time, he may not be the boy for you
Why? It's been 3 months and she's cheated on you multiple times already. She will continue to do so becuse you're a doormat and let's her get away with it because she comes up with a pathetic sob story. She isn't over this guy. It's not just because of the 17k. Cut your losses get soem self respect and move on. Bothign good will come outbof thsi relationship if she's already cheating on you. She should be 100% into you this early on IF she was really into you. Sounds like you're a rebound for her.
I asked her the next day, but i did not said how i feel. Her answer was like nothing bad happend and its okay to do this and she told we can't be in same parties because Im to tense and after that I had nothing more to say her.
Reminds me of my ex trying baby talk to get me in the mood. Dry as a desert after that. I eventually realized I didn't want sex with him anymore because I didn't like him anymore. If your partner makes you feel icky, it's time to move on.
I OP [31F] and my mother M [52F] have always had a tumultuous at best relationship. From a young age we always had different opinions and she has always prioritized my older brother and younger sister.
Oof. That sounds rough. I'm sorry that happened.
Things took a massive toll for the worse when I became pregnant at 24. She told me I was ruining my life, even though I had a steady bf and was established in my career. 2nd time I became pregnant and the reaction was still devastation. 4 kids, 0 celebrations and a ton of resentment later I just feel done. She has a great relationship with my older 2 who are 6 and 4. She highly favors my 6 as her favorite. She has quit her job to take care of my brother and sisters children, and to this day has not done so much as watch either of my youngest 2. To be fair I on-line over an hour away. But she will meet me to take my older 2 for the weekend or the day. My younger 2 came after my divorce in a marriage apparently no one thought would last, however no one said anything until I told them I was divorcing said ex.
Not having that community support is valid proof of her disdain.
I have tired relentlessly to improve my relationship with her to little avail. She will communicate with me only when I am doing what she wishes for me to do. Things have come to a head about 3 weeks ago when I had to reschedule my 6 first therapy apt due to his wrestling practice. She is the one who feels he is unhappy and is convinced he needs it , with no real argument. My dad comes to the defense and asks her what it is that’s wrong with him and he has no response, she just gets shitty and defense. She constantly plans family dinner/outings with my 2 siblings and leaves me out unless it’s a holiday. I made a huge effort to go down to her place most every week this summer and really had hopes we would form some kind of bond. I was stupidly optimistic, but things were going ok, until said rescheduling. Now she wouldn’t even talk to me at Christmas and can’t be bothered answering any texts in personal chats. She was communicating via family group chats. Last night she sent a pic of the massive amount of food made for New Years and asked if anyone wanted leftovers. I was not able to attend because I had to work. When I texted that my ex could pick some up when he gets the kids she replies , you’d have better luck if my dishes were returned. She never sends me home with any left overs. However she makes a priority to send both siblings home with them even though neither will eat them. So when I texted back that I don’t have any of her plates but it’s ok I will make my own food, she left the group chat. She has always been passive aggressive and honestly just toxic, but only with me.
Honestly. You've already given enough evidence. It's time to go.
She has a good relationship with both of my siblings and their spouses. I will not put my siblings in the middle, but my sister will admit my mom is just shitty with me.
Be prepared for the eventual fall out here. Your siblings have the ability to keep their head in the sand if they choose. And that is a much easier choice for them to make (path of least resistance when clearly your mother is being manipulate.)
Anyway I am just done. I don’t want to put forth the effort anymore, I don’t want to go out of my way to bring my kids to her because she wants to see them, I don’t want texts for birthdays, I don’t want to go visit her with my 2 youngest that she clearly wants nothing to do with, but I won’t revoke her seeing my older 2 as they adore her. When my youngest 2 are old enough she will either have to treat them fair or lose all 4 from Her “circle”. I am going to go nc with her and let her do any kid related planning with my ex, who is fine with that as he enjoys the break from them. So Reddit, do I even bother shooting her a text to let her know I’m done? Or just stop responding as she does to me?
For me, I would just dip out with out saying anything.
Look. You have every right to put her in her place and to feel rage. But, attacking a narcissist will cause them to consolidate their power and defended themselves ruthlessly. And worst of all. It won't change them, even if you change everyone mind about them. They will always double down by becoming more of the victim and louder about illogical things.
That shit storm isn't going to help.
What a narcissist hates is when you are no longer available to be manipulated.
Drop out of her life, and if you get any push back use the gray rocking method.
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I'm going w liar. He knows 17 are gone and missing or he would be like wtf?!!!! He was so calm….
No. She’s likely going to bang whoever she wants.
I wasn't aware of the whole process so thank you for mentioning this I may need to look into it more.
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If you still find this worth fighting for, couples therapy typically offers sessions on the topic of discussing and overcoming adultery. You could suggest it. How seriously he decides to commit to it could be a helpful indicator into whether or not he truly is remorseful. Cheating isn't an innocent little “mistake” one can just play off or blame on substances/circumstances. It's a serious issue that stems from a deeper underlying problem in the relationship itself.
He has also been contemplating telling me since this summer but “timing” has been bad for him.
No, he's just a coward. He was waiting for the sweet spot time period where he knows you'd hesitate to break up with him because you've been together so long.
He claims nothing else has happened between them physically since then.
You don't believe that right? He has made these abroad trip plans since then and auddenly had to cancel them this month? Something worse happened and he's he's using the lesser incidents to justify why he can't hang out with her anymore.
I’m honestly shocked. I feel disgusted, so so stupid, and very alone.
I'm sorry, that's such a shit place to be in.
Do I end the relationship even though he's promised to unfriend her?
You kind of have to. He's been dishonest with you on multiple occasions and gaslit you into accepting a situation you knew was not okay. This was while your relationship was supposed to be stable and loving.
As someone who stayed, the main thing I think needs to be said is that you are never going to be the same person if you commit to this relationship.
I lost a lot of my early confidence and self respect when I stayed with my ex and he ended up repeat cheating. The one currency you have im a relationship is trust and he just dropped yours all over the floor. You don't come back from that, you just slowly get more and more resentful.
So great, but how do I do that and not have her kill herself?
What they do after your breakup is not your responsibility. More importantly: She's threatened suicide before if I leave
That's called manipulation.
It also shows how little they actually care about you. It doesn't matter how much you suffer, how out-of-love you feel; they don't care. As long as they're not alone.
Sure, lying is bad. But you should stop asking about body counts and being obsessed with people's pasts. If you hadn't asked, it wouldn't have had an effect on you
I think putting it aside for a month might actually be a good idea. Give her time to clarify her feelings and see if she still feels as strongly about this one couch.
A suggestion: After a couple weeks, ask her to spend some time looking for the best couch option she can find for, say, $2000 or less. If it weren't possible to spend more than that, what would she get? And after she's found what that would be, ask her to seriously consider whether she thinks the extra happiness she'd get from owning the $4000 couch is truly worth an additional $2000.
If she can say that yes, it would be worth it to her, consider buying the $4000 couch.
This is gonna sound a little ridiculous, but, does the underwear look like itd fit him? I vividly remember a post a while back from someone who found out their partner enjoyed wearing womens underwear and crossdressing, they found out in a very similar way from what I remember – I dont really know why someone cheating would be hiding their affair partners underwear in a glovebox
Fucking this.
Haha no. I was meaning talking calmly, with kindness, no aggression, etc like I'm attempting to do is what people get good at when they talk with/have/work with children. I've rarely spoken to children in my life!
She should never ever drink again
She’s not lying. This isn’t about you, so don’t make it about you. Simple.
At least we know he’s flexible ?
Get back at her by sucking a dick
Thank you I really appreciate the advice!
They do have different expectations I believe. I think I am just going to be honest with my partner about the whole situation, like I usually am, when something similar happened before. He is very supportive and I would rather not hide how conflicted I am feeling about all of this.
I think I will have to be honest and tell him that getting their approval is going to be unlikely. What is more important is our happiness together.
Can't you use condoms, or can't she try different meds? If not it's a fine reason for break up, but do try to solve it (instead of just talking how bad it is) before doing so.
It would have been less disrespectful if she would have been looking at porn. At least then it would have been strangers that she can't meet up with.
Come on seiously?. If someone googled yo5u meds to see what they are for, wouldn't you feel like that was a boundary violation? And you want to ask him about it?
If he's not comfortable telling you, please don't invade the guys privacy
Come on seiously?. If someone googled yo5u meds to see what they are for, wouldn't you feel like that was a boundary violation? And you want to ask him about it?
If he's not comfortable telling you, please don't invade the guys privacy
I don’t take “My time seeing friends would be stressful, always watching the time, my phone and messages then dreading opening the door when I got home to be told off… I slowly succumbed,” to be anything healthy or good.
She might have “let him go out” (that phrase makes me queasy) but that wasn’t in a healthy or positive dynamic if she told him off every time he went out.
Swingers probably trying to break the ice.
I'm still confused. You've been posting comments for several months lamenting your lack of dating success, but here you say this cheating incident happened recently. In a comment 3 months ago you said “You haven't gotten anything at 30.”
Did she cheat on you several months ago and you have been talking to other women since then without her knowing but neither of you have communicated about the status of your relationship since her cheating?
I'm just trying to understand what's going on here.
So she basically threatened to kill herself if you didn't like her? But you do right so what's the deal?
Get an abortion and tell them you had a miscarriage.
Read my post
He’s a predator. Do not proceed. Don’t settle. Give it a few years and you’ll find a guy who actually like and will want to get married and have kids.
Forty felines.
Well do you want to be trafficked? Jfc the fact I even had to read this and OP thinks it’s going to be a fairytale just baffles me.
I think it is possible to come back from cheating if he is honest with you, shows genuine remorse, willing to be held accountable, and wants to change(not keep doing it).
If you have to “force” him to be honest to your initial questions………aka revealing your evidence…….than it would be understandable to not believe their “remorse” and willingness to change afterwards.
“finds you too cute”? lol. I'm a guy, btw and I don't know what you look like, but I have no doubt that's another straight up lie he's telling you.
Uh ew?!?!
Mate there's a man involved. That means it's not lesbian sex. Are people involved in threesomes automatically not straight anymore??? You don't define sex acts by the sexualities of the people taking part in them.
And yeah, we're invited in to OP's post. Not the sex lives of people as a whole. Stop trying to define something you probably have no stake in. As a queer person it is highly fucking uncomfortable that you're so insistent on these strict binaries, when queerness has literally never been about that. Stick to the matter at hand, not try and define it for everyone else.
Put out
I actually think you have one of the best replies!
Stay out of it. She's never gonna tell him.
Don't make him wait. Not cool at all. To me it really seems pretty clear you want to do something he won't be okay with… So let him go
He has plenty of reason to be upset at what happened.
No one said he didn't. But he's still clearly handling it better than she is.
She has none.
Congratulations, that's the most spectacularly obviously inaccurate and unfair take anyone has had on this topic all day. You had some stiff competition too, but there's no topping “being rejected for sex by your spouse is no reason to have silly emotions.” You know perfectly well that she has a reason to be upset; it doesn't make any of this OP's fault, but pretending she's being irrational for her advances being poorly received is almost hilariously disingenuous.
You are saying that the one who cries first should get their way, regardless of the strength of the reason for the emotional reaction, and the one less irrational should do all the work.
Not even remotely what I am saying. Maybe circle back around for another attempt.
Burdening the rational stoic, pandering to the emotional flake.
Somebody certainly is projecting a whole lot of baggage on to a relatively simple interaction.
ima contact everyone and her family and just fix everything and i feel like some will question it
I’m so sorry for everything you’ve had to deal with, and to have your own parents not believe you… just wow. I have no words.
I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself. Having him put the house in your name is not only a smart move, but I’m sure it has brought you peace of mind. I wish the absolute best for you and baby ?
I think she's concerned for you. The way you explain it sounds incredibly immature and naive.
Your part that evening was supporting your partner emotionally, not financially. You aren't just a bank
call them out, in front of friends and family. especially how everyone helped and they are not thankful and talking shit behind you. so they and everyone is clear why you cut them off.
No, it doesn't. It's a “you” problem as far as the difference goes. You are hung up on the usage. Say Mama or Mom or Mommy makes zero difference. The actual difference is context.
we would hold hands cuddle and have sex but there wasn’t a label on it
Well there is a label, it's called fucking your best friend's ex. You say you didn't really know her and then got closer before fucking. So it sounds like you swooped in after your best mate's ex who you didn't even know. Is that correct?
Although I'm confused, you say you on-line with your best mate of five years, a guy, but say you're living the dream of fucking your roommate (his ex). Is something mistyped here or have I misread this?
It may be that he told his friend that he didn’t because he doesn’t. That really sucks, but your feelings might not be mutual. Keep us updated after your talk with him. I hope it goes well.
I feel like it would be too harsh to abandon him when he needs emotionally support. And add another issue on top of what he’s already dealing with
If you can open the door for an Amazon delivery, why can’t you open it for a grocery delivery?
Dump her now.
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Well, what amount of gaming would be okay for her? Did she express that?
I'm not racist, but you're correct.
I am not saying it is all about me. I am worried & scared for him. That's affecting me & my mental health as well. He has told me about all his past & present health issues. He is very open about all that.
It is just when he goes into hospital that he gets weird & I start to panic. We had just settled back into a lovely routine again when boom he's in hospital again.
No, she just drinks more around other people. This is great advice, thank you!
A DNA test can only be done later in the pregnancy. She wants an abortion, the DNA test will never happen. You will never know.
Make your peace with that and maybe talk to a therapist.
OP, this is a serious infraction on his part, especially it is something that could put your life at risk. He didn’t care about it enough to guard the secret. So his actions ruined things, not you.
I’m not sure what he thought he’d gain by divulging this to his ex.
Please do what you can to ensure your safety and protect against his ex’s actions and his actions. It is perfectly okay to have your own dealbreakers in a relationship and this is as good of a dealbreaker as any.
I’m sorry that you are dealing with this.
It’s advice, why would yes or no questions be allowed? It’s supposed to mimic a long form conversation with someone you’re getting advice from.
doggy style will never be the same.
I don’t see you problem here. Move on and call it a day and if you like the friend be happy with her and treat her well.
It’s getting very scary.
Leave. Him. He's not a safe person and he certainly is not safe to go to counseling with.
You say you do things to make her feel loved, but are you helping out with chores? Making dinner? Taking some night time wake-up’s, bath time, taking the baby so your wife can have a break? Men don’t always understand what it’s like having a baby. Your baby is on your mind ALL THE TIME. Nap schedules. Feeding schedules. Diaper changes. Etc.
Also, have a real talk with her about why she’s upset you’re masturbating. Not that she has a right to tell you not to, but if you both had previously agreed it’s not something you do, maybe she is upset you’ve started.
OP to bf: Imma pencil you in for Tuesday. Tuesday rolls along: I’m sorry we have to reschedule. My hamster has covid. Bf: You are always turning me down. OP: Hambo almost died and was intubated. How do you expect me to get turned on.
I’m just not understanding why it has to be this big serious thing like your planning a vacation or something. No wonder the dude feels rejected. My husband and I get super lucky when we can hide in the bathroom for a quickie when the kids are distracted. On the other hand you saying you were sore is a legit thing and he for real called a time out. There was clearly some shit leading up to this for his reaction to be so extreme.
Your wife is giving up her entire body for this baby, the least you could do is assist her and put your hobby aside while you act like an actual adult. What’s the alternative? Her being a single mother while you play with fish all day? How about instead of selfishly worrying about yourself and your wants, you consider your wife and baby’s needs. They need you more at this time. And hey—bright side, in a few years, you can introduce your child to your hobby and have it be something you share with them.
I would sit him down and tell him to get educated or its a deal breaker
Does she know what you think of her art, and the way you talk about her? Jesus, I could never be with someone who said such shitty things about me.
I don’t think you’re concerned about sparing her feelings, I think you know that if she learns how you really feel about her, she’ll be out the door.
It depends entirely on what you want out of it. If you see a future with one of your non-sugardaddies then the sex for money offer is a bad idea. You could sound out the guy you like by gently steering a conversation around to girls who have sex for money and see what his reaction is. Some guys would be okay with your doing it while you're dating them, but most will not.
Remember, they stopped because the guy maybe got offended when she said your name, and not because she realized what they’re doing was wrong.
Is she really remorseful or is only feeling guilty?
I did this to my ex when I found out he was having an affair. He wanted to cheat so the whole world found out. F around with me and mine and find out! Also extra weird that at the time he was 37 and she was 64. Literally older than his mother.
I find others attractive, but my Dick doesn’t start making me act any differently. You can easily go wow that girls a smoke show and remain perfectly happy with your significant other.
If you can’t, you either are faking love, or are not ready for a relationship.
This seems really strange to me. I don’t know anyone with a dedicated “list” of names, though I understand why someone might have such a list. I’ve certainly slept with people whose names I’ve forgotten but I’ve forgotten those names because ultimately those people didn’t end up being important to me. I’ll always have the memories at least until old age but I doubt I’d pull a list to remind myself of a one night stand with Susie Q…
This sounds exhausting, and there comes a point where you just have to acknowledge that your negotiations are at an impasse, and stop. It sounds like you’re there.
So I’d say something like “I’m sorry, but what you’re offering doesn’t work for me. It’s too much cost for not enough privacy and agency. It’s also turning our relationship into nothing but fights about real estate and money. So let’s table moving in together for a year, and we can both move on now to finding other roommates/living situations that are a better fit for our individual needs.”
It might be the common thing but it isn't how I want to go about it.
So no one has ever called you daddy I see.
Dude, incest porn is it's own genre on pornhub and one of the most popular ones at that. I mean you are entitled to be lights off missionary on Tuesday if you want but this is pretty vanilla as kinks go.
Break up immediately. this will only get worse. I'm sorry but you have to protect yourself. And you can only do that by leaving him for your own safety.
Time for some gentle honesty imo.
Give yourself a six week timeline improve or end the relationship.
Sounds like you have hidden your feelings way too much and now fear you'll be 'blindsiding' her if you break up.
By hiding your problems you have also failed to give the poor girl the chance to fix anything.
Time to gently address your incompatabilities/dissapointments…because she could suprise you and make changes ( if she starts to suspect what is on the line.) If not,at least she won't be completely blind sided when you dump her.
Examples of what you could say and a suitable tone….
Exercise.. 'I wish you loved the gym too, it's makes me sad i can't share this joy with you' (sadly)
Driving…'I nolonger believe you seriously motivated to drive and that has dissapointed me'
(Firm but sad)
Sex ..” Why do you offer sex when i'm clearly exhaused?” “Do you think we still have sexual chemistry, because I feel la bit like we are not gelling at the moment?'
( sincere & questioning)
Food/shop. .” I'm so tired of the mental load of shopping & cooking' I sometimes wish I wasn't and adult and could go home to my parents, don't you?' ( in a jokeish way for this one)
Nope. That's where you're wrong. She came gere for validation and Support. She's aggressive in every comment that's not giving her full unconditional support. And says she's not immature but then SPEAKS IN ALL CAPS TO DISAGREE WITH PEOPLE xD What a complete child. Someone suggested above that the genesis of this argument definetly didn't start with this accident, she goes on to say to “stick to this information” or smt like that. She's not here for advice. She's here for validation cause she's having doubts about her childish reaction
So what I'm getting is that you told him “hey btw I'm not really okay with dating other people anymore so I'm going to go back to only dating you” and expected him to just magically do the same without you needing to tell him?
Y'all should go see a couples therapist so you can learn how to communicate properly.
Honestly, thats what terrifies me the most. I love him and dont want to end things with him.
You're not the first to realize this about a cheating partner, nor will you be the last. Discovering more and more ways my ex lied and misled me only made it easier to recognize how important it was to keep her out of my life.
Do yourself a favor and get out soon. The relationship is over, you just don't want to admit it to yourself. Get out and move on.
Boundaries are not about controlling other people's behaviour. Boundaries are about what behaviour is acceptable and the consequences of overstepping.
Not going in your parents' room is a rule of the house. He chooses not to obey the rule, so what are the consequences? Maybe he doesn't get to come over anymore. That seems reasonable – if he can't obey the house rules he doesn't come to the house.
Legally speaking a man cannot be treated by a woman in the UK unless the woman has a penis
Don't give them to her OP. As someone mentioned, texts are easy to fake, and she could be a crazy ex or a vindictive acquaintance. Ultimately, the truth of the situation might not ever be known. However, the fact that she didn't know he passed 8 months ago is a huge red flag. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this op. I'm sending you so many virtual hugs
The only response her it to cancel her gym membership, take the hit for the cancellation fees, never contact her again, and on-line your life. When you do cancel her membership, inform the gym that this is your ex, the breakup was not a good one, and you have decided to cut all ties with her -including paying for the membership. She can purchase her own if she wants it. You are concerned because she is attempting to dictate your gym location and times, but you have no intention of altering your schedule to suit her. Please be advised that you want no trouble, you just want to on-line your life and stick to your routines.
Thank you for your feedback. Art friend is awarding a member of the exhibition an award in the name/honor of the late friend. I am so angry at him for being such a jerk. I thought that he did ask me to reject me, too. Honestly, I could care less about the resume line and am just shocked that he is who he is. I’m also upset that I did not say or do something sooner. ??
thats a problem. doesnt respect your boundaries
I accidentally caught the oldest child of my 42yo sister telling the oldest child of my 39yo sister that “we hate him” (referring to their family in general I am assuming) when he asked him about his opinion of me.
It wasn't the sister it was one of her kids.
The kid got it from somewhere, though.
You truly do not have a leg to stand on in this argument.
She told you she didn't want to be exclusive. You shrugged it off instead of saying you weren't comfortable. So, she slept with other people.
And then 3 months after meeting she finally wants to be exclusive, and all of the sleeping around with the other guy happened BEFORE that.
Next time use your words and say explicitly you are not okay with your partner seeing other people and you will draw a line at that point. You can't just shrug things off and expect it to all go the way you imagine.
He told me that he works long hours doing physical labour as an electrician and that he is in pain.
So, if he was single, then he'd starve to death?
You’re 24 and you don’t know what to do after someone crossed a major boundary?
Sounds like a riot for you (sarcasm)
Sounds like a riot for you (sarcasm)
Is he your boyfriend, husband, or fiancé? Because you call him all 3
Is he your boyfriend, husband, or fiancé? Because you call him all 3
I thought he returned the award in private to his boss after the meeting. So how is doing that privately a big signal and show to everyone else? Or was he just an ass to his boss in front of people?
Man, if he won’t get therapy, how do you build a life with someone of that mindset?
You're young, ya be reet.
Go and have fun and find someone better.
You can't. He needs professional help
You can't. He needs professional help
Your relationship has reached it’s natural end. It is not now, nor has it ever been something you have or haven’t done. Believe the things he’s said to you, because his behavior makes it seem like he’s been ready to end it for awhile but it is too much of a coward to say the words. So instead he’s just quietly stopped being your partner. This is admittedly a strange time to do so with you being the sole financial provider in a living situation that you and he share, but you’ve done your best to address his needs. Do not let him mistreat you because he is suffering. It is hot to leave relationships, especially when you on-line together. But he has already left the relationship, he just hasn’t left the living space. So you take this time to gather yourself and prepare to do what must come next. Come up with a plan to on-line separately and end this relationship. Good luck!
Your relationship has reached it’s natural end. It is not now, nor has it ever been something you have or haven’t done. Believe the things he’s said to you, because his behavior makes it seem like he’s been ready to end it for awhile but it is too much of a coward to say the words. So instead he’s just quietly stopped being your partner. This is admittedly a strange time to do so with you being the sole financial provider in a living situation that you and he share, but you’ve done your best to address his needs. Do not let him mistreat you because he is suffering. It is very hot to leave relationships, especially when you live together. But he has already left the relationship, he just hasn’t left the living space. So you take this time to gather yourself and prepare to do what must come next. Come up with a plan to live! separately and end this relationship. Good luck!
I'll be here watching for the flotsam.
You ok over there mate
A psychopath ruined a sentimental item, a currently warn article of clothing none the less, to feel validated.
Fun Fact: Her communication skills are shit. do better for yourself.
Why am I imagining a MUNCH MUNCH MUNCH lmao
Pussy monster
So…he didn't grow out of it. He just encounters fewer opportunities to fight, but is still extremely ready and willing to use excessive, violent force to “teach lessons.” If he's primed to punch someone for looking at him wrong, he can no longer use the excuse of self-defense. He just likes to hit people.
In your shoes I would just hope he doesn't pull this shit on the wrong person someday and put both of you in harm's way. Punching is pretty useless if someone he antagonizes decides to pull a gun.
Then it's time to do it as a single person and block him
I hope your wife when asked if she’s being abused etc… that she laughs and says the truth. As banter normally allays any doubt. I’m sorry you’re feeling the way you do it must be a nightmare.
First of all, go to therapy so you have a neutral person to talk about this with. And so you can learn to let go of your resentment of your wife. You know this isn't really her fault and you don't want to lose your relationship (I assume?), so you need to process this resentment and let it go.
Second of all, YELL AT THESE PEOPLE. I mean, for real, dude. The person letting it slide is you. Go up to these people and say “My wife is almost 30. If anyone is sexualizing children here, IT'S YOU (the person making the comment) for deciding that my adult wife looks like a child and for assuming that's the basis of our relationship.” If it's work-related, file complaints. If it's school/teacher-related, file complaints. If it's just an asshole of a neighbor/other parent, then tell them they're being sick fucks because they are.
Third of all, your wife needs to yell at these people too. Your wife needs to shut this talk down too. Just letting it slide all the time is resulting in this: a situation where her husband is deeply unhappy and constantly attacked because she won't stand up for him. I don't fucking care if it's awkward. This isn't your fault, it isn't her fault, but unless you both stand up for yourselves as a couple, this pushback will continue. Bullies don't go away by being ignored. They go away by being dealt with.
They don't let you get it after age 26
I disagree that I'm incredibly shallow. I just have preferences, like anyone. And we are sexually incompatible.
I agree that there is nothing wrong with her body.
I disagree that I am the problem. Sometimes there is not a bad guy and a good guy. Sometimes people are not made for each other.
Finally, some or many women who are not pornstars have the labia inside. Your information is incorrect.
He will suspect.
You should get a dna test no matter if he wants it or not. It's just fair.
It's ok if he suspects but if he reacts violently or becomes angry and extremely offensive, take a break.
But do the dna test no matter what.
Thank you ??
She might be, stressing over it does no good. Its just dinner.
Did his family attend the wedding? Have you met them?
Either you are the side piece or some other chick is, but this is definitely not the way honest, faithful people act.
A relationship without honesty is nothing. You owe him the truth, so you did the right thing. But also it's now up to him to decide if he wants to continue in a relationship with you. He has every right to want to end things, moving on from infidelity is hot and often fails or ruins a relationship. What you had before you may never get back.
If this ends the relationship accept that and learn from what you did, grow and be better. There is always room to grow and be better even if your relationship continues, but don't expect it to be easy.
It’s weird as fuck to be aggressively anti children. Everyone was a fucking a child. If you don’t want kids fine but being anti-child is painful stupidity.
Oh honey, you know what he’s doing is a marriage killer.
If you can get the phone take it to a data expert and recover it. If you can’t, then you need to sit him down and get him to spill.
This will eat at you forever until you get the truth.
He clearly doesn’t respect your time or effort, if he did then he would be ready when he said he would. He doesn’t even care if it’s cold or you have to pee is this really somebody you want to give yourself to.
Patch, pill, diaphragm, sponge, cervical cap, vaginal ring… you’re not comfortable with anything at all? That seems pretty strange to me but I guess it’s time to both decide if you’re willing to stay in a relationship where you can’t agree on what contraception to use.
He seemed to have some substance abuse issues, some mental health problems that he refused to address, and they fought very frequently. She said the relationship had been over for months before she finally decided to pull the plug on it.
I'd allow the authorities to confront him. I'd already be packed and gone and no freaking way in hell would I be considering having children with this man.
I would just say congratulations and good luck. Be honest with and kind to each other.
Finding meaningful relationships gets harder to do as you get older.
Another bad lie. Remember, you already told us that you heavily discouraged her from getting the degree program she wants. You wanted her to do CS too so she would earn a lot of money for you.
Yup. Unless OP were on board from the beginning, she really just wants to keep him around for the emotional safety net but still wants to keep her options open.
Your entire post is based on you speculating that Mike is using Mariah. You don't actually know.
Not just the unsent messages, but they had a convo at the bus stop, she immediately decides to not go there anymore, and he asks if it's because of the convo.
Hot to imagine that interaction didn't make her uncomfortable and if I were OP, I'd definitely want to know what it was
I think you two need to slow the hell down. IMHO you shouldn’t have met each others kids yet and you definitely shouldn’t be making plans to move in together. Why the rush on all of this?
As for finances, I’m a fan of paying shared bills based on % of income. I make a lot more than my partner and I pay for groceries, vacays, larger household purchases and such. We each cover our own bills and for him, that includes his son.
I guess you’ll have to keep talking through but seriously…slow down.