You need to divorce him. There’s nothing wrong with being a strong, independent woman we do not have to bow down to men and give them respect. He wants a docile woman who’s going to agree to every single thing he says, and not think for herself.
Couples Counseling. After a few sessions also encourage her to start therapy for herself. She sounds like something is really going on with her emotionally.
I am the person that would clean the apartment, cook, do groceries etc. he’s always busy at work.
Look up what a professional would take per hour, present him the bill for it.
Seriously your whole relationship doesn't sound like it will be working. You are already arguing about money where the usual solution should be to pool your incomes. It's unreasonable to share costs 1:1 – especially when your incomes are differing that much.
Under the conditions you listed I'd tell my partner: “You know what? I pass on the living together and having a child with you. You sound like a modern day Scrooge not a partner.”
Just completely confused it doesn’t make sense the whole situation
a leopard doesn't change its spots. ditch her
You need to divorce him. There’s nothing wrong with being a strong, independent woman we do not have to bow down to men and give them respect. He wants a docile woman who’s going to agree to every single thing he says, and not think for herself.
Couples Counseling. After a few sessions also encourage her to start therapy for herself. She sounds like something is really going on with her emotionally.
Have you tried therapy for this? This could help you immensely IMO.
The thing is, you’ll never be able to predict the future. You’ll never know if a relationship will work out as you hope.
If you’re not ready to expérience hope, love and potential loss yet, it just means you need more time to heal.
I am the person that would clean the apartment, cook, do groceries etc. he’s always busy at work.
Look up what a professional would take per hour, present him the bill for it.
Seriously your whole relationship doesn't sound like it will be working. You are already arguing about money where the usual solution should be to pool your incomes. It's unreasonable to share costs 1:1 – especially when your incomes are differing that much.
Under the conditions you listed I'd tell my partner: “You know what? I pass on the living together and having a child with you. You sound like a modern day Scrooge not a partner.”
Let him become her problem. While it’s not ideal, this may be your chance to leave OP.
My last ex gf’s ex hub was like this. We agreed he needed a new victim so he’d leave her alone, and eventually that’s what happened.