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Date: November 19, 2022
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Well it depends how often they text. I would not feel comfortable with the idea of my partner texting someone he was involved with before on a regular basis
She also has a post from 2 years ago where he was apparently lying about something else and she was already married. Other comments there tell her it's a big lie and she should get out.. but here we are again..
He filmed himself cheating? And then kept it on his phone? What a moron. Sorry you had to find out that way. First time cheating I assume? That you know of? I have known couples that have worked through infidelity and stayed married but I understand how now having major trust issues would be detrimental to your marriage. Don't force yourself if you just can't do it and end up resenting him and being miserable. This is his fault not yours.
??? look we’re a band now
Stay out of it, if your mom wants you to move in with her when she leaves and you want to then move.
You should focus on making your own adult life.
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It’s good that you are aware of this. That means that you can fix it.
I’m the type of person that needs alone time too. It is a real need for some people and not just a preference. You will need to compromise on this and find a happy medium where you are both satisfied with it.
I’m not sure that there is anything for you to do other than allow him to have as much alone time as he asks for and then see how it works for you going forward. It may be out of your comfort zone in the beginning, but you may adjust to it.
If not then you will have to peel it back some and see how he adjusts. It’s a give and take.
In the current state of your relationship, not a good idea. Ask your wife first.
Ding ding ding!! We have a winner!
This is advice that can get you into legal trouble depending on where you live. Consult with a lawyer prior to making any of the changes this person is suggesting. In many places it’s illegal to change or restructure finances prior to or during a divorced proceeding. It may be different in Canada, it absolutely check with someone who knows the law before you make any changes of that nature.
I don’t think I can. It was a bad day for me on my part. The only proof I have is full transparency on my phone and the fact that i tried to do it only once and got scammed. If I was really trying to cheat i might’ve tried again…instead I focused on my wife and family and started implementing things to make our relationship better….that doesn’t change the fact that i still tried to cheat….the intent was to cheat…it just didn’t actually happen.
You did exactly what you were supposed to. If a freaking game if more important to someone than their “friends” life, then that person needs to get a freaking clue and a life. This person was never a friend to begin with. You were able to help shed light on that. Now he can go and find a group that isn't so awful and get actual friends. If you didn't step up for your husband, you would have been as that guy that claims he's a friend. You were MUCH nicer than I would have been tbh.
This is a seven week relationship.
She sounds almost emotionally abusive, she can call you dumb or stupid but you calling her mum cringey is crossing the line?
She clearly has no respect for you. And if you continue to stay with her your redirect for yourself will also flatline.
She won't contact him but she stalks over Facebook. But she said she has 0 emotions towards him
“Also, you can't live with her without wanting in her pants? Kinda shameless. Seems like you aren't really seeing her as a human being in her own right. Focus about what makes you want to have her as a friend and only that and leave all the non-friend thoughts out of your brain.”
This. Bingo. Thank you. I get so much up in my own head I didn't take this into account. It's super selfish. I appreciate this very much.
But how do you know if you’re not having sex?
Since this problem began, is there any common factor to the times when she is in the mood?
Get a way from him asap. Please!! Age gap and isolation aside, if his alcoholism is this severe and he isn’t ready to change this behavior will continue and get worse. Return to your dorm and look into therapy serves at your school.
'He’s been texting and calling me desperately apologizing. I don’t know what to do.'
Can't pay your rent with his apologies. What do you think you should do?
Thanks for the advisee, I’m gonna consider it. I really like her and believe that she is a good and kind person and want to give this a real chance. But it’s nude to row a boat alone. I don’t really have a time limit but I like the concept of giving her time and also having some type of time limit.
That is a job for a therapist. sure, you can gently point out your concerns and the rest is truly up to him. It isn't you job to fix anything, it isn't your job to try and act as a therapist especially when not qualified. All you can control is your own emotions and what you're going to do now that you have these concerns. Ask yourself, if this is truly the future that you want and how you would fit into his life, assume nothing ever changes.
Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of an idiot and very immature
Not an issue we had some issues between us. She solved pretty quickly
Although a strong abandonment fear is one core trait of BPD, you have to have 5 strong traits (of the 9) to exhibit a strong pattern of BPD traits. But you already know this.
Why not directly ask her?