I feel like if wrecking my car is enough for me to send someone packing I shouldn't have been loaning it out to begin with. I'd only be this mad if they got drunk/stoned and then got behind the wheel.
You have a boyfriend. And a kid. You don't have ANY commitment. None. Nada. Zero. Zilch. You have a guy that can twist you into doing whatever he wants. That's why he's with you. Many of us have been in your position and have years of experience after getting out to have a clear view of what's probably going on. I understand you're defensive, but you came here for advice and you're getting it. You're in a bad spot. And you're stuck with this guy in some way for the next 18 years. Even if you break up tomorrow. You've picked the wrong guy. Now you need to decide if it's worth your dignity and self-esteem to stay or if you need to get your baby, leave, file child support and sole custody paperwork, prepare to take his ass to court, and never look back.
So you are using her for rent, gotcha.
I feel like if wrecking my car is enough for me to send someone packing I shouldn't have been loaning it out to begin with. I'd only be this mad if they got drunk/stoned and then got behind the wheel.
Now you know he's punitive and insincere.
You have a boyfriend. And a kid. You don't have ANY commitment. None. Nada. Zero. Zilch. You have a guy that can twist you into doing whatever he wants. That's why he's with you. Many of us have been in your position and have years of experience after getting out to have a clear view of what's probably going on. I understand you're defensive, but you came here for advice and you're getting it. You're in a bad spot. And you're stuck with this guy in some way for the next 18 years. Even if you break up tomorrow. You've picked the wrong guy. Now you need to decide if it's worth your dignity and self-esteem to stay or if you need to get your baby, leave, file child support and sole custody paperwork, prepare to take his ass to court, and never look back.