0 views
AndreaLanni Public Chat Channel
Date: November 7, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
AndreaLanni Public Chat Channel
Hey OP, my sincere condolences that you are experiencing such a tragic betrayal of love and trust. I usually avoid commenting on these sorts of updates, because (for me) it almost feels like like peeking in on a person's personal hell. But I just felt the need to remind you that you didn't deserve this, your husband is an ass, and you sound like a kind, decent person with the strength to get through this nightmare. Lots of good advice about lawyers, therapists, and support systems here (some bad advice too, but you seem smart enough to sort through it). So I hope I can just offer you a reminder to be good and kind to yourself as you weather this storm. Do not hesitate to ask for help when you need it, do not hesitate to put yourself and/or children first when needed, and remember that your husband chose to ruin your marriage and hurt your family. There were a million other choices he could have made, but he chose what he chose. You are not responsible for that. I'm sure you know that, but he's going to kick up so many excuses in the coming months, but remember that they're just a crock of shit.
No one deserves to be treated like this, and it sounds like you, you in particular, did not deserve this. So maybe take a moment each day to remind yourself of that, of the love and respect you deserve, as you weather the storm.
Get some of your own.
I guess at this point all I can do is decide what to do now when all I have are suspicions.
This kinda sounds to me like that woman whose husband was being super rude to her and then they realized he had a brain tumour that was changing his personality ?
Sorry you're going through this OP! Nobody deserves to be treated like this but I can only imagine how heartbreaking it is to see the person you love change for the worse. Make sure you take care of yourself!
He definitely wants to fuck other women.. I’d have an honest conversation with him about whether he would ACTUALLY want an open relationship where you ALSO get to fuck whoever you want. Like it’s perfectly normal to be open or poly but if he’s doing that dumb “ you could share me but I would NEVER share you” kind of thing then he’s not the best guy. I’d seriously ask him could you give and take that easily without feeling upset I was sleeping with other people? Because it’s hot and he clearly doesn’t know what it’s like. Catch him being a hypocrite and I’m sure he’ll change his tune.
So she wants you to completely compromise and cater to her needs, but won’t even slightly compromise or respect your needs…. So this is a completely unbalanced relationship. That is not okay in a relationship. If partners are on two separate ends of wants then there needs to be a compromise for both. She is delusional to think she can just have exactly what she wants no questions asked. That’s not how communication or a healthy relationship works. She wants you to be someone you are not. You need to have a conversation about compromise. If she can’t accept that then I would reconsider wanting to spend your life with someone that is selfish and doesn’t take your needs into consideration and isn’t willing to find a balance.