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Your boyfriend has the right to know this. This is important information, that could likely nfluence his choice to progress his relationship iwth you, or even remain in it. By keeping it secret, you're denying him of his conscious agency in important life decisions. Yes, you should tell him, no matter how much it can hurt him (some people here will try to rationalize lying to him as ''telling him is selfish, you need to carry that burden alone'' and stuff like that).
I guess another option would be, she explores the open side of the relationship and you stay monogamous, but again that would have to be something you are 100% on board with or else you can build resentment.
Cheaters cheat. She’s being unreasonable here because you’ve shown her that she can. And why are you avoiding bringing up her part mistakes? It’s a perfectly reasonable concern.
My culture, my culture! Is it in your culture to sleep with a married man, get pregnant to him, have two children that you hide because he is obviously still married when you have the second child? You are like the bible thumpers that pick and choose which parts they follow, based on how many commandments they have personally violated. “Yes, I love the Lord but I cheated on my wife, so that commandment doesn't count. “
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Your boyfriend has the right to know this. This is important information, that could likely nfluence his choice to progress his relationship iwth you, or even remain in it. By keeping it secret, you're denying him of his conscious agency in important life decisions. Yes, you should tell him, no matter how much it can hurt him (some people here will try to rationalize lying to him as ''telling him is selfish, you need to carry that burden alone'' and stuff like that).
I thought I needed to apologize to my best friend. I’m not sure what I mentioned was offensive or not
I guess another option would be, she explores the open side of the relationship and you stay monogamous, but again that would have to be something you are 100% on board with or else you can build resentment.
Just think long and hot before doing anything.
I wish you the best, this is a lot for someone
Cheaters cheat. She’s being unreasonable here because you’ve shown her that she can. And why are you avoiding bringing up her part mistakes? It’s a perfectly reasonable concern.
My culture, my culture! Is it in your culture to sleep with a married man, get pregnant to him, have two children that you hide because he is obviously still married when you have the second child? You are like the bible thumpers that pick and choose which parts they follow, based on how many commandments they have personally violated. “Yes, I love the Lord but I cheated on my wife, so that commandment doesn't count. “
OP, choose to respect yourself. This guy is an ass. You deserve better.