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Do you by chance have an eating disorder? That could be a very good reason to get mad at you for not caring for yourself, and while it's but the best way of going about it I could see it happening to someone frustrated about their partner not eating regularly.
From my experience, this will be a turning point in the relationship. Either he pitches in or it will turn to resentment and a breakup down the road.
My ex was in grad school and I do manual labor. I would work my butt off all day, come home and see her doing school work and I would get to cooking. Maybe twice a month she would cook or insist on ordering out if I wasn't wanting to make dinner. Before us moving in together, my only house rule was if I cook you cleaned, and vice versa. Eventually it was either I cleaned or she would hold off until after classes the next day. Maybe. This stemmed from more than a few arguments. I brought up the cleaning aspect and to her, it wasn't a big deal in her mind. I said we made an agreement and she didn't follow through with it. To me, it was a big deal as I would see her sitting at the computer for extended hours while I did the bulk of the cooking and cleaning in the kitchen.
It was a respect issue for me when I look back on it. There were other issues of which I was no saint and neither was she. The kitchen thing though, made me feel like a servant. Her work and time were more valuable than mine and it hurt. Really hurt. She never understood that.
Women who do this never seem to figure out why it is that his emotional intelligence and romantic thoughtfulness take a drastic drop after he's been forced to drop the dating coach and cheerleader who gave him the advice that helped him get the girl in the first place.
If she wanted him, honey, you wouldn't have known he exists.
It sounds like she could have BPD, and this will emotionally and physically drain you
Are you constantly having to reassure her? Do you bring up a small issue you have and she gets extremely angry with you for being upset?
She is assaulting you and it will only get worse, all these things need to be reported because if the police get involved ….they're gonna be looking straight at you, not her.
It’s not assault, and also not any kind of crime. If she touched her hard genitals in front of you, it might fall under some kind of lewd behavior statute, but what you are describing is very mild.
Men do this to women on purpose all day, every day, in public, and to strangers too. Usually with some sexual language too. You can’t get a guy arrested for grabbing his crotch in your direction and telling you to “S**k it”.
If this activity happened in your shared sleeping room, she probably has a legal expectation of privacy. And you would count as her domestic partner, in a private living space. If people can’t touch their bodies in their private sleeping quarters, how would anyone be able to live?
I’m not saying she wasn’t inappropriate with your personal boundaries, but from the legal perspective, it’s like you are trying to say she stabbed you when she picked up her knife and fork to eat her dinner. At home. When you set the table.
I’m curious. Why do you want to label this as sexual assault? Do you feel you were harmed and want her to be punished?
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Do you by chance have an eating disorder? That could be a very good reason to get mad at you for not caring for yourself, and while it's but the best way of going about it I could see it happening to someone frustrated about their partner not eating regularly.
From my experience, this will be a turning point in the relationship. Either he pitches in or it will turn to resentment and a breakup down the road.
My ex was in grad school and I do manual labor. I would work my butt off all day, come home and see her doing school work and I would get to cooking. Maybe twice a month she would cook or insist on ordering out if I wasn't wanting to make dinner. Before us moving in together, my only house rule was if I cook you cleaned, and vice versa. Eventually it was either I cleaned or she would hold off until after classes the next day. Maybe. This stemmed from more than a few arguments. I brought up the cleaning aspect and to her, it wasn't a big deal in her mind. I said we made an agreement and she didn't follow through with it. To me, it was a big deal as I would see her sitting at the computer for extended hours while I did the bulk of the cooking and cleaning in the kitchen.
It was a respect issue for me when I look back on it. There were other issues of which I was no saint and neither was she. The kitchen thing though, made me feel like a servant. Her work and time were more valuable than mine and it hurt. Really hurt. She never understood that.
Women who do this never seem to figure out why it is that his emotional intelligence and romantic thoughtfulness take a drastic drop after he's been forced to drop the dating coach and cheerleader who gave him the advice that helped him get the girl in the first place.
If she wanted him, honey, you wouldn't have known he exists.
It sounds like she could have BPD, and this will emotionally and physically drain you
Are you constantly having to reassure her? Do you bring up a small issue you have and she gets extremely angry with you for being upset?
She is assaulting you and it will only get worse, all these things need to be reported because if the police get involved ….they're gonna be looking straight at you, not her.
It’s not assault, and also not any kind of crime. If she touched her hard genitals in front of you, it might fall under some kind of lewd behavior statute, but what you are describing is very mild.
Men do this to women on purpose all day, every day, in public, and to strangers too. Usually with some sexual language too. You can’t get a guy arrested for grabbing his crotch in your direction and telling you to “S**k it”.
If this activity happened in your shared sleeping room, she probably has a legal expectation of privacy. And you would count as her domestic partner, in a private living space. If people can’t touch their bodies in their private sleeping quarters, how would anyone be able to live?
I’m not saying she wasn’t inappropriate with your personal boundaries, but from the legal perspective, it’s like you are trying to say she stabbed you when she picked up her knife and fork to eat her dinner. At home. When you set the table.
I’m curious. Why do you want to label this as sexual assault? Do you feel you were harmed and want her to be punished?