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amieshi Public Chat Channel
Date: September 30, 2022
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A lot of people think that love can do anything, cure problems, fix unpleasant truths, remove annoying boundaries. It's kinda instilled by stupid romance movies and fairy tales. Love conquers all, blah blah. I guarantee he thought her boundaries were because she didn't love him enough, and that if she did love him then she would magically not have them anymore. So every time he checked to see, the return was: Nope she still doesn't love me enough. Which would just make him more frustrated each time.
All that being said, he's obviously wrong, he should have figured out by now that no one is required to change for you, and your expectations of people will only lead you to disappointment. But it does annoy me that this idea is perpetuated so much.
Textbook manipulation. I don’t blame OP for succumbing to it. She’s young and inexperienced as far as I’m concerned. A 30 year old is convincing her that SHE is more experienced than him. Then he plays dumb about her boundaries bc “how would he know???”
OP- once you’re 30 you’ll see why the entire concept is insane.
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HE THREATENED TO SET A BABY ON FIRE AND YOU'RE DEBATING WHETHER OR NOT THAT'S WORTHY OF A BREAKUP.
You're in an abusive relationship and it seems like you have fallen into the trapped way of thinking that if this relationship fails then you as a person have failed. Yes relationships take work. Yes relationships require compromise. Making yourself unhappy and forcing yourself to not have friends or even be able to watch a damn movie is not a part of that. This relationship should of been over years ago but the next best thing is sooner and please get some help.
There’s nothing you can do to change her mind. You did nothing wrong here, she strung you along because she was too afraid to admit the truth and put you in this situation.
I recommend getting marriage counselling first if she’s open to it and take it from there.
Is your name on the contract? Did you sign the contract? If not, then cancel her payment. Stop being a wuss, and block her. Don't engage any further.
What do you suggest?
I’m not sure why anecdotes matter or why you’re looking to manage expectations.
It obviously sucks that it’s been nearly six years, but reality is reality. You’ve decided you’re incompatible. Sit down and have a long talk about it and end things. Take what you’ve learned and bring it to the future. Good luck.
Stop with the all caps title.
Accept it's over and move on.
She isn’t perfect if she’s cheating on you OP