Since you're dealing with a very particular kind of dude, I'm gonna give advice in his language
He told you it's normal for men to cheat. He's wrong. Weak men cheat. You're not dating a strong man. Strong men can control their impulses, you're dating a weak man who is he's controlled by his impulses. Being a man isn't about doing whatever you feel like. Being a man is about putting aside your petty impulses so you can prioritize taking care of what's important, even when you don't want to.
How is your man gonna be there for you if he gets another woman pregnant while he's cheating? Even with condoms there's a chance it could happen. Even if he pulls out perfectly every time he could still get a girl pregnant. Even if he tells you he would have her get an abortion, the other woman probably won't agree to an abortion. You as a woman, he's putting you at risk every time he cheats. He's even risking your health just so he can have mindless fun, because whenever he's running around from woman to woman like a hyperactive child he could catch an STD and give it to you
Have him be “away” for the first couple of days. I’m sure the first few days with your mother are all about catching up about family and friends, something he probably wouldn’t be interested in even if he spoke the language. Use the time he’s “gone” to do that.
Love this idea. Lots of great ideas in here, really.
hmm don’t tell her sister- she’s too young to have a tainted perspective of men and/or love.
don’t tell her friends- you don’t know who is really her friend…and clearly she doesn’t have the best judgment given she thinks things are fine with Vivian.
At that point if you know she has a solid relationship with her mother or father…tell them.
The other guy is spending more time with his son than he is, and his wife yelled at him when he suggested taking less hours so he could actually have a relationship with his own son. If that doesn't read to you as affair then you've been gaslit by a lot of people.
Even if she did act the way he described, his reaction and him punishing her are absurd and shows who he really is. A terrible person.
Since you're dealing with a very particular kind of dude, I'm gonna give advice in his language
He told you it's normal for men to cheat. He's wrong. Weak men cheat. You're not dating a strong man. Strong men can control their impulses, you're dating a weak man who is he's controlled by his impulses. Being a man isn't about doing whatever you feel like. Being a man is about putting aside your petty impulses so you can prioritize taking care of what's important, even when you don't want to.
How is your man gonna be there for you if he gets another woman pregnant while he's cheating? Even with condoms there's a chance it could happen. Even if he pulls out perfectly every time he could still get a girl pregnant. Even if he tells you he would have her get an abortion, the other woman probably won't agree to an abortion. You as a woman, he's putting you at risk every time he cheats. He's even risking your health just so he can have mindless fun, because whenever he's running around from woman to woman like a hyperactive child he could catch an STD and give it to you
Have him be “away” for the first couple of days. I’m sure the first few days with your mother are all about catching up about family and friends, something he probably wouldn’t be interested in even if he spoke the language. Use the time he’s “gone” to do that.
Love this idea. Lots of great ideas in here, really.
hmm don’t tell her sister- she’s too young to have a tainted perspective of men and/or love.
don’t tell her friends- you don’t know who is really her friend…and clearly she doesn’t have the best judgment given she thinks things are fine with Vivian.
At that point if you know she has a solid relationship with her mother or father…tell them.
Bahamas is different than Vegas. They most likely will not be at strip clubs.
Day drinking yes. Gambling yes. But no strip clubs.
The other guy is spending more time with his son than he is, and his wife yelled at him when he suggested taking less hours so he could actually have a relationship with his own son. If that doesn't read to you as affair then you've been gaslit by a lot of people.
I don't care what he was FEELING. it is his REACTION and how he decided to treat her BECAUSE of his feelings that makes him shitty.
Leave your ex alone, that’s the only correct answer