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It was neither ego nor fragile masculinity (avoid this term in the future, as it is toxic to a gender, therefore sexist). Something happened that both of you have been taught shouldn't happen. Normally if this happened it would mean a big fight if not a break up. Somehow, it happened innocently so you have to reconcile that event occurring without the normal response you would be expected, reasonably so, to have. It's understandable that getting past an unforseen event takes a little time.
It's called stonewalling and it's emotional abuse. I dated a guy who did manipulative shit like that; we'd argue, he'd give me the silent treatment, I'd reach out a couple times asking if we could talk, no response, then I'd hit my breaking point and tell him that if he's unable to have an adult discussion with me I was done trying. He'd turn the tables and tell me I was lashing out, being manipulative, crazy, etc.. the whole relationship was a dumpsterfire.
My dad was similar. When I was a kid & he & my mom would fight, he'd be shitty and give her the silent treatment for a week sometimes. I love my dad, & he wasn't doing it to be manipulative, he's just from a family that never learned how to communicate their feelings or emotions. Regardless I dunno how my mom put up w it and I don't know why you would, OP. He/y'all need some intensive therapy & he needs to be willing to learn how to communicate or you need to end it. Anything is possible, but stonewallers are tough to turn over…
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It was neither ego nor fragile masculinity (avoid this term in the future, as it is toxic to a gender, therefore sexist). Something happened that both of you have been taught shouldn't happen. Normally if this happened it would mean a big fight if not a break up. Somehow, it happened innocently so you have to reconcile that event occurring without the normal response you would be expected, reasonably so, to have. It's understandable that getting past an unforseen event takes a little time.
It's called stonewalling and it's emotional abuse. I dated a guy who did manipulative shit like that; we'd argue, he'd give me the silent treatment, I'd reach out a couple times asking if we could talk, no response, then I'd hit my breaking point and tell him that if he's unable to have an adult discussion with me I was done trying. He'd turn the tables and tell me I was lashing out, being manipulative, crazy, etc.. the whole relationship was a dumpsterfire.
My dad was similar. When I was a kid & he & my mom would fight, he'd be shitty and give her the silent treatment for a week sometimes. I love my dad, & he wasn't doing it to be manipulative, he's just from a family that never learned how to communicate their feelings or emotions. Regardless I dunno how my mom put up w it and I don't know why you would, OP. He/y'all need some intensive therapy & he needs to be willing to learn how to communicate or you need to end it. Anything is possible, but stonewallers are tough to turn over…
Jesus you're a wreck