I really like my boyfriend and I’ll try my best to put off of those crush like feelings.. I feel like I have a crush on certain types of ppl ..this guy that I have a crush on now in clg is very much like my partner from sch my ex I mean and I know it’s going to be me chasing after the relationship even if I get into a relationships with them..but yeah it’s just very hot to let go of what I’ve already taught myself is ‘love’
I wonder if taking the pole classes has been a very positive, non sexual, empowering experience. Stripping in a club, depending on who you are, doesn’t go down like that. If she’s taking a pole class it’s likely she’s made friends with the other girls and views pole dancing as a cool community of open minded strong women. Women in strip clubs although nice are much more difficult because you are competing against them for tips. There’s more risk of sexual assault. The men hitting on her won’t have the boundaries of other women in a class. Has your wife gone to a strip club recently? Does she know what she would actually be signing up for? And assuming she does; if she’s going to explore this part of herself and that intention bothers you so deeply maybe it’s time to move on.
To just get right to the point here, this is your wife and the person you’ve legally agreed to spend forever with.
It was obviously a mistake to brush this off, but it’s a moot point now. Here we are. She refuses to talk about it? Don’t allow that to happen. Do you just continue to let it go while being legitimately upset in your relationship?
Put that into perspective; she gets upset and you back down so as not to get her upset and to keep the peace. Meanwhile, you’re upset on the inside and unhappy with the current state of your relationship. That’s better than making her upset?
She has to walk on egg shells around you. Let her go and find someone that she doesn't have to ask if she can come over …someone that will always have an open door for her. It's your loss…just remember that.
You are doing a great job getting evaluated and finding the best course of treatment for yourself. I suggest you bring this up with a therapist. My advice would be to just take the relationship slow, to give yourself time to work on your mental health. It is part of who you are and will be for life. Whoever your partner is will need to accept this part of you and be willing and able to cope with it. That means he will probably need to maintain strong relationships outside his relationship with you. Your imperfection does not mean that you are bad for him. It sounds like he is happy and he will grow as a person in this relationship.
Could've been glitter bombed, could have been something received in the mail, could be making a present/card for you.
I've done cards before but stopped after getting accused of doing something other than what I was actually doing.
I really like my boyfriend and I’ll try my best to put off of those crush like feelings.. I feel like I have a crush on certain types of ppl ..this guy that I have a crush on now in clg is very much like my partner from sch my ex I mean and I know it’s going to be me chasing after the relationship even if I get into a relationships with them..but yeah it’s just very hot to let go of what I’ve already taught myself is ‘love’
I wonder if taking the pole classes has been a very positive, non sexual, empowering experience. Stripping in a club, depending on who you are, doesn’t go down like that. If she’s taking a pole class it’s likely she’s made friends with the other girls and views pole dancing as a cool community of open minded strong women. Women in strip clubs although nice are much more difficult because you are competing against them for tips. There’s more risk of sexual assault. The men hitting on her won’t have the boundaries of other women in a class. Has your wife gone to a strip club recently? Does she know what she would actually be signing up for? And assuming she does; if she’s going to explore this part of herself and that intention bothers you so deeply maybe it’s time to move on.
To just get right to the point here, this is your wife and the person you’ve legally agreed to spend forever with.
It was obviously a mistake to brush this off, but it’s a moot point now. Here we are. She refuses to talk about it? Don’t allow that to happen. Do you just continue to let it go while being legitimately upset in your relationship?
Put that into perspective; she gets upset and you back down so as not to get her upset and to keep the peace. Meanwhile, you’re upset on the inside and unhappy with the current state of your relationship. That’s better than making her upset?
She has to walk on egg shells around you. Let her go and find someone that she doesn't have to ask if she can come over …someone that will always have an open door for her. It's your loss…just remember that.
You are doing a great job getting evaluated and finding the best course of treatment for yourself. I suggest you bring this up with a therapist. My advice would be to just take the relationship slow, to give yourself time to work on your mental health. It is part of who you are and will be for life. Whoever your partner is will need to accept this part of you and be willing and able to cope with it. That means he will probably need to maintain strong relationships outside his relationship with you. Your imperfection does not mean that you are bad for him. It sounds like he is happy and he will grow as a person in this relationship.