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We have lived together for quite some time. I make very little money for now as I’m a student, but when i graduate late this year I will be set with a degree that will likely ensure a very livable wage. Thankfully I have a lovely support system. I have two close friends who offered to take me in if that situation arises, and family in state that would also probably help me stay on my feet until I could support myself. I am very fortunate in this regard.
Is it bad that I don’t want this to be the end? Is that a matter of me having little to no self respect? I wish I was the buzz he was seeking.
I don't think you should ever have to fight someone for something someone else brings upon themselves. That being said, you could have showed more of a spine and at least speak up that you don't appreciate misogynistic comments, especially about your partner.
Honestly, from your post it sounds like you're really not comfortable with her. You are just lying saying that you support them now that they have changed, but you'd rather her and everyone else pretend that her past didn't happen.
so contact those people first and outline that you are ending a toxic relationship and to ignore contact from him.
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Mouths aren't vaginas
Yeah I feel like “empath” means “I see suffering and want to involve myself and bask in the attention this other person is getting.”
Alright fair enough. In your experience what are some red flags?
We have lived together for quite some time. I make very little money for now as I’m a student, but when i graduate late this year I will be set with a degree that will likely ensure a very livable wage. Thankfully I have a lovely support system. I have two close friends who offered to take me in if that situation arises, and family in state that would also probably help me stay on my feet until I could support myself. I am very fortunate in this regard.
Is it bad that I don’t want this to be the end? Is that a matter of me having little to no self respect? I wish I was the buzz he was seeking.
I don't think you should ever have to fight someone for something someone else brings upon themselves. That being said, you could have showed more of a spine and at least speak up that you don't appreciate misogynistic comments, especially about your partner.
Honestly, from your post it sounds like you're really not comfortable with her. You are just lying saying that you support them now that they have changed, but you'd rather her and everyone else pretend that her past didn't happen.
I'm sorry you wasted so much time with him. Leave the rapist and find someone who respects you.