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AliceSky07 Public Chat Channel
Date: November 5, 2022
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Yep I would end it with her mediately. She lied about the whole thing, and she knew it really disturbed you and it was the wrong thing. She is completely untrustworthy.
Thank you for apologising, apology accepted
This is actually “a thing”. I’ve seen others post about it. There is an actual name for it but I forget. Please speak to your OB/GYN or primary care doctor about it. But also your SO is way out of line for not wanting to try lube.
Sorry you’re going through this.
Tell him you know. You need to air all this.
Currently going through a situation like this except the baby’s 6 months old. If I were y’all I wouldn’t have the baby. That’s an entire lifetime of commitment and she couldn’t even be committed to you for how long y’all have been together. Cheaters always cheat. They get off on wanting someone else. Every child deserves a stable, responsible environment. Js
Geez she is trash. Kid or not break up with her. She is so nonchalant about the cheating, which means she is gonna do it over and over. Get dna and never marry this trash.
Then you've got some therapy ahead of you to find out what drives this feeling in you. This is not a healthy way to react. Maybe that just showcases that you shouldn't be using it at all? But if just WHO he follows is getting under your skin this much that's a warning sign.
There are so many reasons it's pointless to speculate, but just in case.. If he's in AA it's probably better to let him focus on recovery rather than get back into a relationship
Was it a sexual assault, or a drunken makeout the girl regretted afterward? Saying that she said she “felt” violated doesn’t really tie this one up neatly, we’d need more details on what went down.
Regardless though, you either need to foster the courage to own your decisions and relationship or let him go.
I'm confused… English is not my mais language so I'll ask… What does it mean to take a break? Is it to take some time off each other or to really break up? That changes a lot depending on the answer
There's nothing you can do.
Well it is Sus that he emotionally cheated and then lied about what happened.
At the same time you didn't mention how drunk his coworker was. So we are in the grey area of assault and consent here.
He either cheated on you and half way through regretted it. Then made up a bunch of bullshit.
Or he got assaulted, lied out of panic and doesn't know how to deal with it. In which case he should probably go to the police asap.
Have you met up yet? Texting can give a false feeling of closeness
Lol.. My God these comments are mind blowing. People here actually condone what she's doing? Your house isn't a fuckin hotel for goodness sake. You are friends with her, you offered to mitigate her pain and loneliness by extending your company to her. The VERY LEAST she can do is contribute to the household chores. Nothing less is acceptable. This isn't a retreat or rehab centre for her. She came for company, not to “recover”.
She's selfish. Plain and simple. She's ignorant and she's a horrible user. Doesn't take much to see why the ex probably broke up with her.
Tell her you feel taken advantage of. Tell her that you are also on a holiday season relaxed mode and as such you don't want to be picking up after her like a child. People need to stop this tiptoeing around issues because they fester and become resentment. If she wants to live! like a vagrant without cleaning or cooking for herself, let her go back to her shitty place. This is unacceptable.
She shouldn't be going around saying that…. it'll only solidify the idea of it to your son….
They live! 3 minutes from you. Just take the underwear over there and tell them it got mixed up with your laundry. You'll be able to tell by their reaction what the truth is even if they try to cover for her. But, you left for work. That underwear will be gonna by the time you get home.
I have no idea thats why Im so confused
Your period and peeing are not the same thing at all. Pee can be held in. And yes, if you know your boyfriend doesn't want to have sex while you are on your period, and you then hide it from him and try to have sex anyways, yes, that is a violation.
The age gap here doesn't sit right with me. So you dated for a year and got her pregnant and she had the baby. Feels like we're only getting your perspective. If I was her friend I would be sus of you too, probably wouldn't do false accusations but still…
Woman: has self-worth issues, feels what she does is never enough and fears she isn’t spending enough time with her son.
Reddit: SHE HIT YOU ONCE. SHE’S CONTROLLING YOU. DIVORCE AND SUE FOR ASSAULT ???
Curious- what expectations did you have from him in the past that he was not meeting?
It’s easy to fall into the mental circle of “What is she doing right now? Who is she spending her time with?” And all the other obsessive thoughts.
First, she is 10 years your senior. She is also your boss. This probably can’t go anywhere.
Fill your life with the people and things that make you happy! You’ll find that with time your thoughts will slow down and fade.
If they don’t start to fade after time, it might be a good chance to call a mental health provider and ask for a mental health wellness appointment. Constant thoughts, especially early on in the time of rejection, are common. Obsessive thoughts are not.
Thanks. Yes, as she should do. We both have kids and as parent one always make sure ones kids are prioritized. That´s why I would never had any issues with this whole thing if I was in on it from the beginning. Is it one thing I can´t stand, it´s being left out on decisions that affect me. And she knows this.
I think she wants to actually, but have poor skills in knowing how to. Her words say one thing, her actions another.
He was toxic before and he’s toxic still. Nothing changed. What about this man is so amazing and irreplaceable that you keep putting up with this shit? You do know what to do- stop being in a relationship with a jerk.
Damn is your friend okay? That’s a lot of emotional damage ?
Dude, please listen to me: I have no clue what you look like, or what your personality is like, but that’s not what’s making you fail with women.
The problem is that on some level you feel there’s something deeply wrong with you that you need to hide. You should see a therapist about that.
Just find an 18 year old boy I'm begging you. Leave this predator.
I’m sorry for your loss. Even more so that you’ve had to find out he was unfaithful (supposedly). If you don’t want to deal with her, then don’t. Keep her blocked. But you could always tell her the ashes have already been spread somewhere if you want to.
Do not give her the ashes. Yes, it may hurt that her bf is gone. But she was the side piece, sorry to say. Versus your 3 years and he seemed to be a huge part of yours/your families life. Not to mention your own mother is the one who got him cremated. The ashes are yours, you do what you want with them.
Everyone is useless from certain perspectives. Don’t worry about that.
Okay so he should have the kid and not work and she can pay for both of them? I don’t think it’s fair either way. Those are luxuries provided when someone is partnered with someone else. Once you split, sorry you’re kinda on your own. Unless we have a great relationship otherwise. I don’t think it’s a man’s responsibility to financially cover someone who leaves him.
I say this not to be mean, but I want you to understand what happened here.
You were a tool to her. She needed someone to help pay for the surgeries. That's done, so your usefulness to her is now over. The result of this is you being discarded.
It sucks, but there's a lesson here. She was nagging you about it because that's what mattered to her. She was telling you what she was all about. Sometimes you have to believe people when they show you who they are.
Your husband clearly married to obtain ” a live in maid” not a wife.
Do you want this for the next 50 years? Please get away while you are young enough to meet a real partner not an employer who duped you into marriage.
I need more context.
Do they say these things in response to you telling them about your day (or whatever), or so they just say these things unprompted?
What do you mean, “Call us when you wake up.” How often do you talk? Do they want you to call when you wake up….why again?
You could try reminding them that they raised you well and because of that you know to do X and not do Y. And you don't want all your conversations to be lectures (maybe?).