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Date: October 31, 2022
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if a grown man thinks violence is the solution to someone disobeying him, he’s not a grown man i want to take my chances alone with.
My ex was a mellow drunk. He would just drunk and fall asleep. Didn't make him any less of a drunk. He also wasn't emotionally available and talking to a drunk about anything is useless. Like I said get therapy for yourself. Addicts are manipulative and will make you doubt yourself. And rethink your relationship. Don't stay for the kids because they're not dumb and they know something is up and their dad drinking and not doing anything with them will be noticed. They will think this is normal and the cycle will continue. My kid was 6 when my ex went to rehab. She just knew daddy was always tired and cranky. She didn't know it was from drinking. Once he went to rehab though I was honest with her in age appropriate manner. She also went to Betty Ford program for kids which was really good.
The best thing I did was therapy. I needed to change myself whether I stayed married or got divorced to get past my codependency. Your personality will continue to attract addicts unless you change and if you stay with this guy you still need to change. But honestly if he continues to deny his problem I would really think about splitting. It will get worse. Like I said, had I known then what I know now about addiction as well as divorcing an addict I would probably not have stayed as long. Although we were raising his nieces and the youngest was still at home and not sure what would've have happened. Their parents were both drug addicts. My exs parents were both alcohols but I didn't think out about that until marriage counseling. They had quit drinking when I met them. On top of that he's spending a lot of money on alcohol. My ex made a lot of money so the money argument never work on anything but for most normal people if affects their budget. I can almost guarantee he's drinking when he's home during the day. My ex was great at hiding it. I knew his hiding spots and saw the booze disappear. Crazy behavior on my end too but that's what happens when you're in a relationship woth an addict. Start by getting help for yourself. You don't need to do anything right now but yiu really need to start thinking about your relationship and your future. Rehab was hell for our relationship ( he went for 3 months) and I was so glad he was gone. I wished he had gone out of state so we didn't have to visit him every weekend which was absolute torture. Once clean ( no sense in doing marital counseling with an active addict or abuser for that matter) we did marriage counseling which was helpful to address a lot of issues while he was an active alcoholic but I knew it wasn't going to save our relationship.
He's still clean as far as I know although I have had wondered a few times if he had started again due to triggers while we were married. I'm much happier and it's much better for our kid to have a happy single house hold than the shitshow our life was theblast 3- 4 years.
The info provided really presents a mixed picture. No conclusions can be safely drawn.
Communication and keeping connected = key
Costanza, is that you?