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Handjob [Multi Goal]
Date: October 17, 2022
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Handjob [Multi Goal]
Lordy you brought the misogynists and “women are just out for money!” Out of the woodwork with this post lol.
He expected you to change your mind about marriage. I doubt he ever wanted it and just told you what you wanted to hear until you were in too deep. OR he genuinely changed his mind, I don’t think you’ll ever know. Unfortunately, you’re not changing your mind either. Therefore, you’re incompatible. I guarantee someone else will want the same things as you.
I was dating a guy ten years older than me who made me feel like garbage day in and day out. But I thought that was normal. I knew he didn’t want marriage and kids, I convinced myself I didn’t either so I could be with him. When we broke up I met my husband a year later. We both wanted the same things from the jump and now we’re madly happy and building a life. There are other people out there.
He was honest with you, you should have been honest with him now you’re just gonna have to on-line with what happened. You had an opportunity to do the right thing and you didn’t, telling his girlfriend isn’t going to fix your regret
If someone is asking a group of people for opinions – you're bound to not like or be offended by some. That's how free speech works. You can cherry pick what you want.
My partner didn’t see his parents for the same amount of time and we visited overseas for a week. They had a separate room for us and even then there was little privacy.
Your projecting your personal experience on to others. 6 months in a space meant for only 2 is quite a lot to demand. If the parents want to be in the country for as long, they could plan ahead to rent or Airbnb near by, or at least pay for half of doing so. The wife also has the option of going to visit her parents in China. So perhaps 3 months the parents are in the UK and then she can fly back with them to China for 3 more months.
There is a cost to moving to a completely different country than your parents live! in. And she is not the only one affected in this equation. The fact that the husband here is even willing to concede to 3 months of having the in laws live in their small apartment is above and beyond to me.
did someone say r/sounding???
He's gonna cheat on you most likely with one of your friends. He doesn't respect and certainly doesn't love you. Leave
You need to ask him: do you care to know what's going on with me or are you looking for an excuse to leave?
If he really cares about you then take him with you to your next doctors appointment and have the doc explain to him whats up.
Show him the door if he got tired of you. It does you no good to keep him around.
But you also have to understand that people who don't struggle with mental health issues often can't relate. Not that it excuses bfs weird behaviour.
I'm 41 and that's why i see those relationship pretty judgemental: I know how i was 15 years ago. I changed so much, i learned so much, i'm a totally another person to the 26y/o me. I think in the later years it doesn't mater so much about age difference, but in the years when you gain experience or want to built a family, those years matter a lot.
I wish I had some. It sounds like the two of you aren't compatible. This isn't a compromiseable issue, sadly. What it is, is a huge obligation that lasts for decades, in truth. If you aren't confident you want to make that obligation, congratulations on being self-aware – but don't have them. There is nothing wrong with wanting a life path that doesn't include raising children. It doesn't mean you hate kids, but it likely means you will resent your partner and end up in a messy divorce someday if you try and maintain a relationship with someone who feels the opposite way you do. Having kids is not just something to grow into. You either want them, or not. There isn't middle ground.
Whichever of them it was, they're in the wrong. They violated you. That's worth torching any relationship you may have over.
This is complete nonsense – just leave
Definitely red flags all around, but it's nude not to be curious how far she would take it. It's very likely just a thirst trap.
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Not to mention, he’s sooooo sensitive that his girlfriend must shower before bed in his apartment, but not so sensitive that his delicate lungs turn to dust after staying in someone else place for days. eyeroll
OP, if your lungs/allergies/breathing really are compromised, you a) wouldn’t be able to tolerate staying at someone else’s house and b) should definitely see a doctor. I think your girlfriend’s right, this is in your head – and even if it isn’t and you have a fit medical issue, it’s your problem to solve, not hers.
Yeah, why is this the first time THIS is being brought up??
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Culture aside: You are way too damn old for her. If my math is correct then you were dating an 18-19 year old when you were 32 years old. Get with someone your own age that will tolerate your neediness. She’s in the prime of her life, of course she’s leaving you behind.
I don’t blame you, you shouldn’t save this.
You don’t learn who people are or what people are capable of until life challenges them.
Life threw you both a hell of a curve ball, but there are so many options for how you can handle it.
That stress could be channeled into work, hobbies, pets, hobbies, activities, going to therapy, family, strengthening y’all’s communication and bond, self-improvement, or support groups to name a few positive options
He chose at least one other woman and booze.
That’s who he is, and what he’s made out of.
Respect yourself, don’t forgive those choices, and be thankful you didn’t have kids with this dude who was probably going to turn to those vices at some point regardless of the cancer.
Celebrate beating the cancer, and celebrate that you now have the opportunity to find someone capable of more down the road without having to consider children.
This feels like you lost something, but you gained a lot by not having kids with this guy and learning who he is.
You love the character she has created.
She has created this relationship in which she is manipulative and tries to control you through these lies to not question them, because she claims she’s been suicidal. So, she garners sympathy and concern.
You have not actually met this person irl. I know you said you have seen her kids, but how? Obviously not person, but a random pic? Anything can be fabricated. Honestly if you have not met her irl, how do you know it’s even a woman? You could be being catfished.
Then start the conversation about your needs within a relationship and marriage, not calling it off in the same sentence. But stress that these are your needs for you to be happy in a relationship. And have you two talked about having kids? Because it almost sounds like you haven't.
One of the things I value most about my partner is his willingness to be open and vulnerable with me about his emotions. This has increased my respect and admiration for him, because I know it takes courage to do something you've been told your whole life is “weakness.” It's a risk. He took that risk with me because he trusted me, and I am honored by it. It doesn't change my perception of him as a strong and protective person. I know that he'd put himself between me and a threat without hesitation.
Crying is often incredibly cathartic. Stifling healthy release of emotions often leads to unhealthy explosions of emotion down the line, in the form of anger and verbal or physical aggression.
For either men or women, context is important. Crying to escape accountability for your actions is manipulative. Crying excessively over minor inconveniences gets obnoxious. But if tears start leaking because you're overwhelmed with happiness, or if you lose a loved one, or if you're ill and had a shit day at work on top of it and haven't slept and just need to decompress and let it all out, you're good.
If someone would judge you because crying is part of your emotional toolbox, she's not the kind of person you want to date.
She shouldn't have berated you in public, no. At the same time, trolling is so freaking boring and stupid, and *knowing your audience* isn't censoring yourself, it's being a smart speaker.
Call the cops. Get the kid to the doctor and tell the doctor your husband is endangering your child and could be dangerous to you too. They make take your child temporarily but as long as you are a sober adult without a crime against a child you will get your child back. If you let this man around your child until someone else calls cps or the cops (eventually they go to school and they talk unless … into submission) then they will know you left this happen and retaining custody against him gets harder if you're both charged with endangerment
This dude poisoned your 3 yr old.
I smoke pot and have two toddlers but your husband is a criminal neither of you should be around.
Yes run. Unless you want it too
Him and his “best girl friend” are both shady people. She helps him cheat/ try to cheat and is possibly sleeping with him to. It's hard to think about right now, but you will eventually get past the feelings and be happy about leaving him. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Honestly you need to just say no. You are not willing to support her while she is a student so she either doesn’t live! with you and you do not support her and she figures out how to support herself while she is a student or she works and does get her masters and you two move in together her or you guys part ways. It is okay to have a boundary. If she cannot accept that then you absolutely should walk from the relationship because she doesn’t respect you or value your needs as equal to her own. It will always be about her wants and needs, it won’t ever be about the both of you.
I totally get that you're worried and that's totally understandable. But, like you said, she could've just fallen asleep. I know it's tough, but it might be best to wait and see if you hear from her in the morning. She might just need some rest, and you don't want to bug her and interrupt her sleep. But, if you're really worried, it might be worth shooting her a quick text just to check in and make sure everything's alright. Just make sure you don't sound accusatory or anything like that. Keep it casual, like “Hey just wanted to make sure you're okay, hope you're having a good trip.” You got this bro!
My boyfriend stands at the door with the dogs waiting for me. You deserve to be welcomed home with a kiss, a hug, and a “how was your trip?? I missed you!”
I don’t really feel like he does. I wanted to ask people live! their thoughts without saying on the post how I truly felt about this. Glad to know people get the same vibes, and I didn’t give that much info on my post.
He’s seriously thinking he gets a say? You’re 20. I promise this ain’t the guy.
When someone has an unhealthy relationship with sex it's rarely related to one specific partner or another. His coping mechanism seems to be sex, which isn't great but there's nothing in here that's directed at you (other than the fact that you happen to be the person he's dating right now). He'd have the same impulses regardless of who he was with. So yeah, dating a person with this tangential form of sex addiction isn't awesome. But you might be taking it too personally if you think he would't be this way with any other partner. Sex is like a drug to this guy and he could probably benefit by talking to a therapist about this.
Thank you ❤️
I’m going through a rough time right now and your comments aren’t helping
Well if you both like giving then receiving is also giving isn’t it? Because it makes the other person feel happy /fulfilled. Maybe think about it like that ? Or do them simultaneously
Hey you know what?
Your fiancee is an assh*le. Don't marry assh*les.
Not fair for him to expect you to be a mind reader. Calling you the r-slur is gross as well. You sure this is your dude? Like- is this what you want your life to be like?
Yes
I might be a bit controversial here but: his relationship is not your problem.
You didn't coerce him, take advantage, or start anything. Maybe in a perfect world you wouldn't have reciprocated, but it is on him to act in accordance with the rules of the relationship he is in (be it monogamous, open with boundaries, or anything else).
If you are in a position to let his partner know that is absolutely a good thing to do. Not with great drama or insults (they might be in a different style of relationship to what you expect) but just as a heads up that this is happening. If she is informed she can make the decision on what is best for her.
As for him: I can't say he sounds great (if the relationship is closed he did something cruel to his partner and used you to do it, and if the relationship is open he needed to make that clear to you), and I wouldn't persue a relationship with him.
In terms of testing you're an adult and you know how cautious you are or weren't: act accordingly.
It's kind that you are being empathetic enough to worry, and it probably will keep eating you up if you don't say anything. I doubt you'll do the same thing again, and ultimately it is for him to hold the guilt
I told him that he wasn't attracted to me and that he knew he wasn't before we met. And he only liked skinny gothic chicks. That I don't know why men have sex with women they aren't attracted to.
Hog wash, I can tell if a girl is in to me and it do t take nicknames at work for me to figure that out. Behavior that isn’t done in front of you but he whined your back and in secret is not married behavior. She needs to kick rocks because how does one start to covet…. We learned this in silence of the lambs!
I’m talking Brussels sprouts and broccoli doused in fat
Fat is not unhealthy.
Occam's Razor is your friend.
Keep it simple.
How long have you been together? How long have you been engaged? How often did she ever take the ring off before? Are you sure she didn't take it off before and maybe only wore it around you?
Just ask her – hey, I noticed you don't seem to have your ring on anymore, why is that?
How you decide to interpret that answer in terms of where it falls on the “scale of truth” is down to you.
I'm always an advocate for having a healthy amount of Paranoia in your life but if it's reaching the point you can't separate the truth of reality from the chaff and it's killing you, well you only have so many options.
-“Oh I lost it but didn't want to tell you” -“I didn't want to lose it so keep it in my bag” -“I take it off sometimes and it's just coincidence”
How is this one-sided? Also, can you blame him?
Resentment is a natural and healthy response to being treated unfairly. It's healthy to have these emotions, they're our organisms way of letting us know something isn't right. OP is probably overwhelmed with stress and having to do it all himself, this will fuck up his physical and mental health soon which is one his mind feels resentment: it's a sign to change something
Don't get back together with her.
Honestly I would’ve ended the marriage over it, I’m child free and don’t want to be responsible for nobody but myself so him moving them in without really having a discussion about it would’ve pissed me off
Because we had the most wonderful first few months (8 month relationship) before I believe that doubts first came creeping in her mind, and I still hope that we can find our way back to that point
Oh I see, we've reached the semantics portion of our discussion. I'm tagging out. Cheers mate.
Yeah but i think she is telling you she is down for more than vanilla maybe
Isn’t that amazing how that works?
I love this.
yeah, leave jim for pam!
I am SO tired of these posts/comments. “My husband is great despite this one AWFUL thing that he does that makes me (and my son) feel wretched about ourselves.”
He doesn’t get to be an excellent father and husband “at times.” Obviously no one is their best 100% of the time. But he doesn’t get a pass because he’s sometimes on his A game.
This might be a good way to go. I’m sure your step-dad is important to you as well, so it shouldn’t hurt to have two dances, but put your bio-dad first.
Regardless of what you do, do it for what’s best for you, though.
You should be very worried. He either doesn't want his parents and friends to meet you because he thinks they won't like you, or you won't like them. After two years, it is a big red flag…..
In the original post OP says that her current job is unrelated to her degree, so we can't really infer what she studied based on her current income.