Listen, you don’t need to snoop, you don’t need proof of anything. You’re in a long-term sexless relationship and you’re 27 years old. You have enough reason to break up with this person! Just tell her the relationship is over and you can’t live like this anymore and go your separate ways. What’s the difference why she doesn’t want to fuck you? If she’s asexual, she’s cheating and being faithful to someone else or she doesn’t find you attractive. They’re all very valid reasons to end the relationship.
You get to feel how you feel. Feelings aren’t right or wrong. But you two need couples therapy with a sex positive counselor ASAP or you’re going to both become so resentful. Sounds like your husband also needs to see a doctor and individual therapist and hell—maybe a dietician. Not feeling comfortable in your own body must really suck but his issue is something he could do something about rather than just use it as an excuse.
I dunno, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with no physical intimacy or mediocre to poor sex. Life is too short.
Also, kind of unrelated to your problem, I don’t think you’re conceited for pointing out that you have a physical attribute people appreciate. For me it’s my unique colored eyes. Unless I’m wearing sunglasses, almost any time I meet someone they comment on my eyes and I appreciate that they are a nice feature of mine. We are so naked on ourselves about our bodies most of the time, gotta appreciate the “wins”!
You're upset that your BF dated someone for 2 weeks over 12 years ago when they were barely out of HS?
/Really?/
Yeh like ?? What makes something a rule instead of a boundary? And so what if it is a rule? Every relationship has rules! Sigh
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Listen, you don’t need to snoop, you don’t need proof of anything. You’re in a long-term sexless relationship and you’re 27 years old. You have enough reason to break up with this person! Just tell her the relationship is over and you can’t live like this anymore and go your separate ways. What’s the difference why she doesn’t want to fuck you? If she’s asexual, she’s cheating and being faithful to someone else or she doesn’t find you attractive. They’re all very valid reasons to end the relationship.
“If you genuinely trust me so little perhaps calling off the wedding is a good idea.”
You are way overthinking this. It's just that your gfs are toxic complainers and they're not close enough to you for you to worry about this issue?
You get to feel how you feel. Feelings aren’t right or wrong. But you two need couples therapy with a sex positive counselor ASAP or you’re going to both become so resentful. Sounds like your husband also needs to see a doctor and individual therapist and hell—maybe a dietician. Not feeling comfortable in your own body must really suck but his issue is something he could do something about rather than just use it as an excuse.
I dunno, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with no physical intimacy or mediocre to poor sex. Life is too short.
Also, kind of unrelated to your problem, I don’t think you’re conceited for pointing out that you have a physical attribute people appreciate. For me it’s my unique colored eyes. Unless I’m wearing sunglasses, almost any time I meet someone they comment on my eyes and I appreciate that they are a nice feature of mine. We are so naked on ourselves about our bodies most of the time, gotta appreciate the “wins”!