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Thankyou for your comment and story, how did you go about leaving a 3 year long relationship, I cannot deal with the heartache I feel I am giving my girlfriend if I leave her, the thought of her crying is what has stopped me in the past
She is telling you it’s time to move on. She has. You have learned what happens when you cheat and break trust. Take that into the next relationship. It’s really that simple.
I read “23F/24M” at first and was going to write about how he's being very immature for his age, but if its his first relationship too then there's room for this to be an educational moment about his insecurity and defensiveness.
Then I glanced down at the comments and saw “34” being highlighted. I'm 34M, for what it's worth. This is a MAJOR MAJOR red flag. This can only be two things: extreme irredeemable immaturity (and remember I was about to say it was very immature even for a 24-year-old), or dangerous narcissism.
I know Reddit has a cliche for shouting “break up” over very minor problems, and I'm usually one to try to approach everything with nuance and balance. In this case, I'm sorry, I just can't see the nuance.
Why did you marry him? He doesn’t seem to respect you at all. I wouldn’t tolerate being in a relationship where I am never heard and all my requests are ignored. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s actually in love with this friend of his and just using you. Don’t let his friend move in, they’ll try to kick you out.
This is sexual assault.
End it.
And go get tested.
Pregnancy can still happen with precum, btw but it's a low chance still not one to have so fingers crossed the crazy woman didn't get pregnant
What does he do in work? Surely he doesn’t leave this joy for his workmates
Thank you so much for responding. I needed to hear this. She truly is a wonderful person and my decision might have been hasty. I will surely think about this. Thank you so much.
I didn’t even read it all. Sounds like a train wreck.
Yeah, that’s what I’m feeling towards. Should have learnt from her leaving the first time.
Ok so you’re not really in charge of finances, you just pay bills. You absolutely must explain that the two of you will be in very serious financial trouble unless it stops and you would like to show him exactly why
You misspelled Porkies.
So let me get this straight.. you assume he isn't thinking of it because he hasn't brought it up, but YOU also haven't brought it up. If you guys can't talk about marriage, you're not ready to be married. COMMUNICATE YOUR WANTS AND NEEDS WITH YOUR PARTNER.
I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. I've been in similar situations and no matter their intent, it's so unhelpful/harmful to recovery. Hell, even years into recovery, I can't stand people commenting on my food, especially people I live with.
It can feel awkward, but I found it best to address it directly. Try to be as calm as possible (I know it's tough when this has been building up for a while) and say some variation of “Hey (housemate), you know that this is something I struggle with. The comments are really not helping. Please stop.” Or — to make it more of an “I” statement — “I find these comments hurtful and it's hindering my recovery. Please stop.”
When I had a housemate who continued to do this, the first couple of times I brought up that we'd talked about it before and repeated the request. When it still continued, I asked point-blank what they were trying to accomplish with their comments. If they come back with some kind of “you should learn to take a joke!” etc., point out that it's not a joke when only one person is laughing. I'd even go so far as to ask if they think you relapsing with a potentially fatal disease is funny to them, but tbf I'm just getting a little worked up on your behalf. This is not an unreasonable request for you to make, FFS.
Assuming the best — that the housemate is clueless — that should shut them up. If they're malicious, then it's time to look into a new housing situation. Recovery is hard enough without someone actively working against you.
Also, the coke zero comment… wtf? It has no calories. It's not “going” anywhere. Even calories aren't “going to your stomach,” they're getting turned into energy that you need to survive.
I wish you luck with your recovery. It can be awful, but worth it
You realize he contradicted himself a few times, right?
Is making dinner such a hardship that he can't even make his own sandwiches (sorry but what the actual F) or even cook on the weekends… or is it 'not a big deal' and 'so easy' it only takes '30 seconds to take chicken out of the freezer'? Which is it exactly.
He said that how dinner is managed in our house now is very convenient.
HAHA, well yeah, because his 1950's housewife is doing all the work, despite also working a full time job. It's super convenient for someone to have all their chores done for them!
Ask him how many of his own meals he'll have to make when he's single.
Once he does that math real quick, maybe he'll realize the very reasonable 80/20 (which is still BS BTW, it should be 50/50) you're asking for sounds pretty good.
Honestly, all kinds of things might be at play here. Your mum is acting shady, I agree. This does not mean she cheated. She might have been sexually assaulted and fallen pregnant with you as a result. You mentioned a grandparent having slightly darker skin like your own. It could be that this grandparent has a genetic secret which your mum knows about. It‘s up to you if you want to do some digging or not.
I personally know I‘m my parents‘ child, my family looks and sounds very similar. But I‘d never take a DNA test like this because you never know what secrets you might uncover. I already know of a „secret cousin“, let‘s say.
Not that I’m aware of
It could make a world of difference.
Your escape space. All minimalist.
Good luck
So basically he's holding out hoops for you to just through while he will constantly change the rules. No you shouldn't have to liev your life trying to make someone else happy at your own expense. That's so immature and ridiculous. You're both the same age as my son and he's alot more mature than this. He's acting like a 13yr old who been watching too many ” how to be the man in a relationship “. You shouldn't have to make sure you are constantly performing for a partner. He's being ridiculous and the fact you are afraid of his response if you bring it back up is a huge red flag.
So I've been married 22yrs and when looking for a life partner see how they treat you when your happy and when your sad. His reaction to you hating on yourself, was to join in and make you feel worse. Then went onto tell you how you need to act to keep him. So he doesn't care how you feel, belittles you then gives himself a future excuse for when he cheats. As now he can blame it on you for not changing.
Honey you deserve someone who loves you AND all your flaws. Who will rise you up when you're down and not try to knock you down when you're up. He should be your team mate, best friend and lover. Someone who you can talk to without wondering if they will react negatively. Someone who brings positivity to your life. Who makes you feel even wearing pajamas, ill on the sofa, that you are loved for more than your appearance.
Another words find a mature man who can handle an adult woman.
She doesn’t see the bright future and I’m starting to doubt if things will change.
Well, it's good you're doubting it, because it probably won't change, given that she doesn't seem to have ever given you any reason to think it would. If you've spent years just assuming for no reason that she was going to change, that's a shame.
My advice is to tell her, “I love you, I think you're amazing, and I want our marriage to succeed, but I've realized I'm not able to spend the rest of my life trying to single-handedly fight your anxiety and negativity. That's not the life I want, and it upsets me that you don't seem interested in trying to make yourself happier. I'm asking you to please decide that you want something better than spending your life beating yourself up and tearing yourself apart, and start getting some therapy. If you really won't do anything to change this pattern, I can't promise to keep standing by watching you make yourself suffer and feeling terrible that I can't fix it for you.”
And then, if she shows you that she still isn't interested in doing anything to make this better, then a) you should move on and b) you should seek therapy for yourself to look at what patterns and tendencies put you here.
Good luck.
What is wrong with you? Why are you still with this girl? She’s cheated on you twice. No wonder you can’t trust a single thing that comes out of her goddamn mouth. She’s twisted your arm into an open relationship that you didn’t want and now fucks the guy she was cheating on you with. Is your partner for life, the potential mother to your children really going to be so untrustworthy?
Well, he suggested a threesome with another girl, does that mean he's thinking about having sex with another girl? How are you supposed to trust HIM? (Just turning his logic back on him, for the sake of argument). He's a hypocrite and has toxic views on women and men and sex. Dump him.
What were you expecting? He proved that he’s a POS by sleeping with you. Why would he feel guilty? He made his decision consciously. Why don’t you feel guilty? Why are you acting like he’s the only POS in this story? You are no better than him.
It's possible to love 2 people at the same time however I think the best thing would to break up with ur gf and be single for a while.
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A couple days ago after I got home from work I checked my partners location because she didn’t work today and I was wondering where she was. I noticed she was at an unfamiliar house so I called her and asked her where she was. She lied and said that she’s just leaving the shops now. (There’s no shops near her location, she was in a court/coldasack). Also coincidentally she was getting to her car while I was calling her and wouldn’t answer a FaceTime for around 5-10 minutes. She’s lied about where she was before and the past times I asked her about it she turned the conversation around on me and started listing a bunch of mistakes or things I’ve done that she doesn’t like. Because of this I’m not sure if I want to confront her because I don’t want to loose her. Then again I get the feeling she’s cheating because why lie about where you are unless you’re hiding something. So the question I’m asking is should I confront her if so what would be the best way?
Time to have “mom” get her own place. No person your age should put up with these shenanigans.