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How does he remember her birthday and not your? Seems weird.
Oh yes, I am aware! I think where I had it wrong is that I saw one as bad and the other as “not as bad” which is completely false and a stupid way to look at it. Both were us trying to get over the break up and doing things out of insecurity and what we needed in the moment.
I never want to use this as a weapon against him if we move forward and that is why I am trying to get advice instead of just being biased and having my opinion as the one and only. He has allowed me to ask questions and he has been answering every single one that I've asked. He continues to reassure me and tell me that he is trying to be honest and vulnerable (even when he has no obligation to be). He said he doesn't want to hide it from me because it could change whether I want to move forward with him and that it is not fair to me if I don't know because he knows he would want me to do the same for him as well.
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You really need to have this conversation with your husband
Thank you so much❤️
I worked my ass off though after lol
You should just come clean to the girl about who you are and ditch the friend; maybe you can get a girl friend out of it.
Even if he treats you well in other ways, you will always feel resentful about this. Either sit down with him and explain again what do you expect and see if you can compromise or make him understand or let that ?
Lol thank you I've been crying all morning but that made me laugh so I appreciate it. Are there really pink lakes in Australia I've always wanted to go
I dont know why everyone is bashing you about this. It is suspicious as fuck for your girl to call her ex especially when she purposely called him with no caller id. I see people saying you’re being insecure, but really rightfully so. Especially if you have any trauma from a past relationship where you’ve been cheated on, your partner should happily let you see if there was any other contact besides that phone call just to put your mind at ease, it’s not a big deal
As a woman who was married and four months pregnant when my ex cheated on me with multiple women, please tell her. I wish someone had told me. The fear and testing my newborn had to go through to make sure I didn't catch anything and that my newborn baby was okay is insane. Don't put someone else through that. If you have the power to do something, do it.
Different animes, different genres, different ways of approaching the result.
Some of those anime you are talking about may be boring to others, because the characters fail to “get in the hearts” of the viewers.
Send him a link to potential break up song by aly & aj
Please let me know where he said he expected his girlfriend to be his therapist. I’m not getting that impression from what was stated.
As for talking to pictures, would you feel the same if he was saying a prayer to her in heaven, or talking to her at her gravesite?
It sounds like she caught a private moment. It hurt her, but it wasn’t meant to. And what followed was she became abusive, full stop.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve said a little something to dead loved one long after they passed, even though I’m not religious.
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Advice? if he doesn't follow the rules, he doesn't get the goods. Could mean no more BJs
Love this. First step was boundaries. He didn't respect it (more than once).
Firm & hot boundaries step 2
Breaking up over this? Fucking dumb from him. Why dumb? Because if he let's a relationship fall because of a simple fucking boundary like this, then he's a fucking idiot. You're worth more than this, op.
If/when op inevitably breaks up, her ex-bf is going to be begging to have her back. It's actually funny to see how toxic people turn when they suddenly don't have someone that actually cared for them.
Already posted this dude
Try r/Asianparentstories to get some empathetic viewpoints.
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Dude, it’s a college party with 40+ people. Just show up nobody gives a shit. If it was a small get together and they didn’t invite you then fine. Everyone just shows up to these big parties lol
They’re not close but she talks to them more than her parents, which isn’t saying a lot. She’s friends with her cousin because they go to school together and are only one grade apart but we don’t really celebrate holidays together or anything. Also Vee is close with her younger sister on her dads side.
So for the situation, when i got to her house, she was finishing up braiding her hair, so I was just doing my homework. After i was done, we talked about getting burgers cuz I was supposed to spend the night at her house.
In general, when I’m there, we always talk about random shit, we almost never run out of things to talk about. And we cuddle. Normal couple shit
You say he’s progressive and understanding, in that case I’d talk it out with him. Ask him what he likes about it, ask him if he wishes you were in pain when you have sex, if he is interested im videos where women are maybe actually getting hurt or if obvious acting is involved, if he feels like he’s participating in exploitation or coercion while watching them or if he’s careful to use well-reputed film companies.
Sexaul desire and fantasy is sometimes weird, but people should be capable of examining where it comes from and what it reveals about them.
my mom and i are close enough to the point that i’ll openly tell her if i’m going to a part with weed/alcohol there (starting at 17 when it was much scarier to mention) and she knows about my mental health and relationship and stuff. i trust her with almost anything but i might approach it differently and ask if she went into my drawer.
i have no idea why my stepdad would be in that drawer but im almost positive it was him. i have two young sisters and a high school brother, none of which have gone in my room in years. the last time was almost three years ago when my then 3 year old sister got into my makeup.
i genuinely might get a camera bc it freaks me out.
he likes to start fights, come into my room everyday to turn my fan off and stuff, he used to go through my trash and things
sometimes he takes my laundry out of the washer and throws the wet clothes on the ground instead of starting them in the dryer, will dump a laundry basket of clothes on my floor back when my brother and i used to put our laundry together outside of my door so i could wash his too
one time my boyfriend and i were laying on the couch playing with my dog and i had to pull my shorts down a bit because the dog had been on my lap and moved them up and my stepdad made a very sexual comment about my boyfriend and i regarding them.
he’s also always made inappropriate comments about my clothes and stuff
Helloo, thank you so much for your reply. We are each other’s first relationship. He has never dated anyone in the past. He definitely has confidence issues as well as insecurities about him and why I decided to date him.I just want to be able to guide him as you said but he’s not ready for that… Any tips there. You are definitely correct that you can’t make someone do someone without their will…
That’s worse than a satanic cult.
Psychiatrist is definitely the best option along with therapy, the psychiatrist will figure out the best type of therapy for yourself.
You are not comfortable dating a woman who does this so don't break up with her, you can't control her actions only your own.
You sound absolutely exhausting!
And the way you talk about your behavior screams “it's just the way I am” so you don't actually want to change.
I would have left long before 11 years. Let your husband live! his life away from your drama and excuses, and then work on yourself.
Yeah if my girlfriend's borderline-pedophile ex-boyfriend was flapping about being in love with her and she kept contact with him despite knowing that, I'd be on my way out of the relationship pretty quickly.
We've covered this. Say it. Say the word.
She honestly does not sound like she is that into you.
You are doing all the pursuing and she is disinterested and refusing to commit. At some point you've got to say enough is enough.
^ aalll of this.
I'll also add the book “Fair Play” to the suggestions.
Not all of us can afford counselling and therapy,but then books to educate yourself are the go to.
Fair Play touches on the mental and emotional load in a relationship and it's equality, a huge issue for most relationships, and helps you fix it to help you and your spouse have more brain space and time.
Then she’s being unreasonable. She may be projecting.
Modern dating also suffers attention span problems it seems
I think the problem is that the boyfriend says that it’s ok but it really isn’t. His problem is that he’s in denial.
And now it does feel like I mushed up feeling unsafe and frozen to creating a reason to feel hurt like you said. Like my fight and flight turned into a blaming game.
And now it does feel like I mushed up feeling unsafe and frozen to creating a reason to feel hurt like you said. Like my fight and flight turned into a blaming game.
Well. I feel called out here. I knew I was a bit off, but maybe I need to talk to my psychiatrist.
Probably not a troll tbh, but obviously very much not wanting to give out any detail that would make someone want to choose her side. I’ve been studying psych for about a decade (for fun, I haven’t just been in school failing all my classes for 10 years lol), his language and avoidant answers show me a bit of narcissism and some unintentional manipulation. His best bet is to seek out some counseling, but ya know, I’m some stranger on the internet, so what do I know, why would he take my advice? Lol
You’re right. It’s weird. Maybe he’s pull away for different reasons?
I didn't say you said he was abusive. I am saying people are acting like he only started treating her right after she left him. Maybe he wasn't sure what he wanted until the end? Maybe he was falling out of love with her, so he agreed to an open relationship. Maybe it took him a bit to realize what he would be giving up. Maybe he needed to be alone to see what he was missing.
So… how can he plan on having children with you if he’s already said his siblings will always come first? He’s painting himself as the martyr here but it’s unconscionable to me that he’s willing to swoop in and be a hero at the 11th hour but never treated you like an equal partner who should be on the same page regarding his siblings’ care. If he’s the one responsible for them then he shouldn’t be trapping people in marriages under the pretense that it won’t directly impact your lives. And then he wants to father children with you? How’s that gonna math? His wife and mother of his children comes in where, exactly?
What a shame. He could have brought you on board as a teammate and spouse and instead he decided it was his way or the highway.
Wow.
You go to her straight and reply:
“You are darn right! I do love dad more, indeed. He never gives me that narcissistic sick silent treatment.
And he never puts me in such distress as to having to love compete with you.
Grow up, woman.”
Than you turn round and let her stand there.
And … do find another place to stay. That's sick.
I doubt my opinion on this will be popular but I am going to offer it anyway.
I think you are being too sensitive. If he doesn't treat/talk to you that way under any other circumstances, then I don't see the instances as an over-all issue. Sounds like he might be taking gaming a bit too serious (I'm not a gamer so of course I feel this way) but I don't think this is indicative of someone who is otherwise predisposed to being abusive/violent.
My analogy may be totally off, but it's like saying someone is likely to physically abuse you because they pushed you out of the way of an object falling on you that would only cause you minimal harm if it hit you. I'm sure everyone is going to shoot all kinds of holes in my analogy and that's ok. It's all subjective anyway.
Post history indicates he's a controlling and jealous man. Just tell him you're a grown woman and you're capable of making your own decisions without his input. It sounds like you've tried reasoning with him in the past to no avail. Time to do things your way and if he doesn't like it you can point to the fact that he himself is to blame for your change in attitude. Not a healthy foundation for any relationship. He cannot control you nor the potential outcomes of your life.
None of us know your personal backstory so if there's a history of infidelity or your friends putting you in precarious situations, that's another issue. Providing you're loyal and have given him no reason not to trust you, tell him to pound sand.
Put it this way. You asking your man to meet your needs equals him not having his needs met by you. That is not fair to him. I'm sure you two love each other, but you guys are not compatible and that is ok. Going down this path will only cause him to resent you even if he doesn't want to. It would probably be better to end the relationship amicably now, instead of letting it lead to heartbreak.
He's your ex for a reason. Dick move but move on.
Honey, wake up. Take off the rose colored glasses and really see him for who he is: controlling and abusive.
That so called friend of yours is a predator. Get away from him.
Just talk to him, and don’t easedrop on his therapy sessions in the future
used to be like you. I'm 32 now, in a happy stable relationship with a girl I share common interests with.
The girl I had a crush on when I was 20 who I used to go to the club with and watch her leave with her abusive ex is now a single mother after having two kids with her drug dealer and marrying him.
She really has matured so much and I'm happy for her… but some people need to go on a journey that you don't want to join them on.
You DO realise gonorrhoea can lay dormant for years???
As a guy who was in this exact situation and was okay with it, I don’t know any other guy personally who would be. The reality is this is a no-no for most men. Do what you feel you need to, but if your partner is communicating that he is uncomfortable with this and you go and do it anyway, expect your relationship to take a hit. Best of luck to you
She won't cut him off, you cut her off. If there are no kids involved kick her out.
it is like you are married in name only – no way would i uproot my life and. child for someone I am not even really in a relationship with. Just go ahead and file and move on
I don't believe he is assuming you're wrong. I think he's assuming he can mess with your head by pretending like he believes that you're wrong. Both if the worst gaslighters/emotional abusers I ever knew used “I'm not perfect” as a defense and had many other people convinced that they were wonderful people.
If you're not ready to consider that, I would turn it back on him a bit. Act like you really believe that he's incapable of remembering the very simple fact that accents exist. Repeat it all slow and overly sympathetic. Pat his hand or his cheek kindly. If he dares to correct you in front of people, “yes, and” that sucker. “He's such a wonderful person, but he gets so confused by my accent! Why, the other day he was completely flummoxed when I said aluminum, isn't that adorable?” I bet he'll stop “forgetting” right quick.
OK so he has a partner and he lies about it so you’re cheating with somebody’s mate. So I would stop for that reason alone because if he wanted to leave or he would so he’s not going to. And you’re going to destroy a woman that has no idea that you exist in this context. The victims of cheating have a hot time coping afterwards their trust is destroyed they can’t eat sleep or even work properly. Some never love again or trust again. Some even commit suicide, so let go of him and move on.
That’s some great advice thank you.. and Iknow the wife knows because I talked to her on the phone about the situation & she was baffled by the lies he have told both of us. I was almost done with him then , but my heart got the better of me. Why is it that this hurts more then when I ended it with my ex of 11 years. I never thought heartbreak like this actually existed…
She’s ADORABLE.
Fetlife (Facebook for kinky people) exists.
I hope not?
The gf is abhorrent too. She minimizes everything her family has done and instead asks her bf to give her family gifts and money.
Girl, are you okay??
If the bf is reading this, you’ll be the stupidest man alive if you proposed to a woman who wants you to give a gift to the man who spat in your face
You're asking too much and instead of supporting your partner, you want to throw him back into more abuse. He deserves better.
Technically I only paid for a small part, which is the food. I got this trip via my job, and was allowed to take someone extra
It is controlling though because it’s being used to stalk you. I’m willing to bet that her showing up at the gym is her wanting to keep track of you and see if you’re cheating/flirting. My ex did the same thing and after a while it turned into fights about me just going to the gym/lunch to meet up with other guys and it became easier to stop doing those things even though they were things I enjoyed, just to avoid the fights. Of course you’re drained, relationships with people like this kill your mental health over time. Please don’t normalize any of this behavior.
You should have recorded that conversation. Or at least sit down and talk about it again and record it. If you guys ever do get to do that fantasy of hers(it could be a kink) then you’re gonna need evidence in case one day she will turn it around on you and play victim
I'd say supporting a depressed partner is doing something. Listening, being there for them, making them smile.
You said there's nothing OP can do.
I feel sorry for your current or future partner should they have any mental health difficulties.
Your wife is an adult. She wasn't tricked into this she was a willing participant. The dude is not your friend and you are going to need a lot of unpacking to stay in the relationship with her.
I'd be fury incarnate, but you do you.
Ill be honest here mine wasnt an alcoholic but i left and th get over the residual issues i stayed single for a year; which also helped me ficure out how much of me was actially me and who i am as me alone
Ill be honest here mine wasnt an alcoholic but i left and th get over the residual issues i stayed single for a year; which also helped me ficure out how much of me was actially me and who i am as me alone
I guess the only reactions and emotions she is allowed to have are the same that you would have had. Does that carry over to all situations?
Break up with her. You’re exhausting.
We hang out alone but yes, always some activity first, usually just the two of us
3 months in, man. Perhaps stop telling yourself the story that you “love her so much”? At 3 months, you barely know her. Go for your dream. You never want a person by your side (especially a 3-month person) who is in so much trouble, that they won't get help for, that they are demanding your future as tribute.
Tell your ex what happened. Tell her that you have no expectation of forgiveness but be as vulnerable and honest as possible and tell her plainly what happened, what you remember and why you did what you did.
Also, the fact that you believe you slept with Abc and impregnated her is that this is something you think you wanted to do on some level or were capable of doing? Had you cheated on ex in the past? These are things that you need to face in yourself. If you had no interest in Abc before, it would seem weird that you would end up with her but weirder things have happened, I'm sure.
The reason why I think you should tell your ex is not for your sake – not at all. But for her sake. She must wonder what the hell actually happened. If you are absolutely honest with her about everything, at least it might clear up some questions that she has. I'm sure that she feels like absolute shit right now, esp since she was thinking you were on your way to getting engaged, too. I don't think you should expect that your ex will take you back after all this. But at least she might have some better closure.
Finally: you know that you have a drinking problem, right?
The reason is because she was assaulted 1.5 years ago which I understand why she wasn’t sure.
No. That's the reason she's telling you.
The reality is she either has a different and more prominent romantic interest or shes just not that into you.
Women are willing to “work through” things for guys that like. She's not with you, so you're not the guy.
Move on.
You’re clearly not setting any consequence for him not doing anything.
It isn’t a 7 year itch, it’s your partner being a lump. I’ve been with my SO for 11 years and feel loved and cared for because he’s an actually capable adult who can cook and clean and take care of his own shit- WITH adhd.
Clearly you’ve had the conversations and you’ve written it all out and he isn’t getting it.
Next time, let him know you’ll be pursuing divorce and finding a more capable man as a life partner. I’m not kidding, if your partner doesn’t think it’s necessary to pull his own weight in the house then it’s time to look elsewhere.
You need to raise your voice- make it known you’re serious. Leave the house for a period of time if he goes back to old habits. Do not speak to him at all if he has a task he hasn’t done.
Life is too short to never enjoy the pure bliss of coming home to your partner cooking dinner, washing dishes- beds made, pets fed, floor mopped, laundry on- it’s glorious. You NEED to experience this, it’s the best knowing that your partner is an equal and has your back. Not only that, but you should know your partner is capable and able to care for HIMSELF if you’re gone.
Do not take no for an answer. Do not take “later” as an answer. That’s how man children take advantage of partners. My SO raaaarely slips up- but good god he knows if I say “clean up your shit before you leave the house or so help me” or “put the clothes away right now, it takes 4 seconds and I am not sitting in a messy living room” or “alright, guess you’re on laundry from now on since it isn’t put away when I do it”, and it’s an immediate correction from him.
After a few times, he’s doing all of that on his own without prompts. It also helps that he knows when I lay a boundary, I mean it- and I WILL LEAVE. Be stern and be consistent. Good luck.
I hope not, I mean I'm making it pretty easy for him lol
But why would she want to be pregnant with me?
That was just the last straw, maybe bad parenting… or just the boy just felt alone for 20 years. Things will eventually snap. Can you finish mechanical engineering in 4 years? Do you want to get married after graduation? Something is off tho.
If your love language is communication and he’s not interested. Why are you dating someone that doesn’t meet that need for 3 years?
It’s something you knew 2 months in.
You deserve to be with him if you married him after that.
Fucking gross. I am 43 and the idea of being with someone 21 is vomit inducing. You are a garbage father, too, and I hope your daughter's new family treats her the way she deserves.
Why do you think a chair is more “clean” than a hotel floor? People put their butts on the chair.
what an awful situation, im so sorry. remember to have conpassion and even though its difficult, try to see it from everybodys side.
i can be very surprised by how my own mother can sway my point of view at times. she can be very manipulative and can affect me deeply on an emotional level -like no one else. family dynamics can be super complicated.
i suggest seeking out a couples therapist? thats all one can responsibly recommend…
My father once told me, “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you”. I’ve always both agreed and disagreed with that statement. Yes, it is possible he loves you despite not showing it the way you want him to, but why should you settle for someone who doesn’t love you the way you want to? This is clearly important to you, you have expressed these needs to him and, the fact that you even know that he used to do these things for his ex makes me wonder why he tells you? What’s the goal of you knowing he was able to show affection to his ex the way she needed it?