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Then stop? If you are being innappropriately flirty towards your platonic friends, and it is offending one of them… then stop.
Thank you for thanking the time to write this. I’ll take this into consideration. Have a nice day.
Tell her you aren’t choosing. It’s very manipulative for her to force her own children to make the active decision to cut off his own father and siblings because she refused to work through her pain a decade after getting divorced.
She chooses to retraumatizing herself by following them on social media. She could easily block all their profiles.
Tell her you are not choosing. If she needs to go live! somewhere else or do something else — she needs to bear the emotional burden of that choice. Right now she’s putting that burden on you because she knows what she’s asking is wrong, but this way she can blame you and let you deal with the guilt.
Don’t talk about your Dad at all in front of her. Don’t mention your siblings or his wife. Block your Mom on social media if you have too. Tell her she needs to block him and his family and she has to get into therapy. But you aren’t choosing. And leave it at that.
People get addicted to their misery. Their pain and trauma become the things that define them. They don’t want to get better or move on because without that emotional pain they feel lost. They start subconsciously retraumatizing themselves to keep feeling that pain. They project it onto others.
This is what generational trauma does to people. No one ever confronts their problems, they just project it onto their children, and that affects their childrens relationships, then they project it onto theirs and on and on and on.
You already have a relationship with your siblings. What’s going to happen to them if you suddenly cut them off? They’re young. Imagine how hurt they’ll feel if their brother suddenly abandons them. Then they grow up with issues and continue the cycle.
Part of emotional maturity is accepting that our pain isn’t fair, but choosing not to continue the cycle. “I’m hurt, so I want you to hurt too” helps no one. At some point someone has to end the cycle. You can cut it off by not participating in your mothers ultimatum. If people won’t help themselves, there isn’t much you can do anyways.
If her anger at her decade-old ex is more important than her love for her own son she needs to be the one to acknowledge that and admit how she feels instead of making you be the bad guy.
This is an ego thing. You are asking her leading questions about her ex. Also sounds like you hate your gf.