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How it will work. Presumably, you are looking to share a bedroom. Are you going to use one person's furniture? Or do you have to buy something new for the two of you? What about places for studying or computers? Or furniture that's generally shared, like a couch or dining table?
You also need to talk about if you are both going on the lease or not. Yes helps, because then you are both legally involved. Even if you break up, there's still an obligation to pay a share of rent.
How you will handle bills matters. Some places expect them to be in one person's name, but you should still have some plan for both of you contributing to the cost. It may be evenly split, or perhaps, if one of you makes a lot more money, it is more proportional to income.
Talking about chores, what needs to be done and how often, what's involved in something like “cleaning the bathroom” so there's no disagreement when the soap dish isn't wiped off, or which way to fold towel. Will you alternate some chores, or will certain chores belong to one or the other of you?
The parking situation might be important. My wife and I once had an apartment that had one underground parking spot, but we had two vehicles. Who gets to be in the heated garage could be a big deal.
I literally went the very next day after unprotected sex and tested positive for chlamydia. I obviously did like you said though as far as the timing for testing for hiv though.
Thank you. I went as far to even ask her if she'd be upset if I kissed one of her female friends and she said yes so I guess we're on the same page kinda. But I appreciate the kind words.
Sorry, rip the bandaid off! With this time-line there will never be a good time and also it will likely get worse if you wait.
It seems like you've had similar discussions before and your husband seems like a good person except for the sex incompatibility. If he is good natured he will want what is best for you as well and wont hold the money over your head.
Also since you are married his income is yours to share especially since his jobb is more or less keeping you from working so don't feel bad about the money spent.
Just break up with your current gf then and give yourself some time being single to figure out what you want. People are not things. It’s not cool to use them for your own emotional needs
She's says she's oke with it but she isn't she just don't wanna make more problems for you and thinks she owes you. If you do this your relationship is done within a couple months. If its a dealbreaker break up and stay friends because that's what you are if you don't have sex imo.
Also, is he overweight by chance? My hubby had this issue for a while after he gained 20lbs. He wasn't obese or anything either and was otherwise healthy. No BP issues. He decided to lose weight for himself and after he lost 15 lbs his issue went away on its own.
Then that sucks to be you if you can't even text him to get your stuff what else are you gonna do? Break in??
Grow up and send a text it really ain't that hot, an you don't even need to meet them face to face. Have a friend grab it, ask if they will drop it off/ leave it somewhere safe Tell them to just leave it outside their door for craps sake
Maybe, but you are not in a relationship with them. It's not what they say or do that matter, it's the fact that your boyfriend is at best not defending you/listening or at worst give them the information that lead them to say or do those things.
And then you have the much more clearer issue of his hometown. It's not his friend that forced him to lie to you so you would go out with him even if he had never any intention to living in your city. It's not his friends that make you feel guilty and breaking your boundary to go live in his hometown.
I’ll be as kind as possible: If your life goal is to be a sahw then you should find someone who wants a sahw. It’s that simple.
Your bf doesn’t want to pay off your loan (very understandable). Were you open with him from the beginning? Sure, there are men that would be ok with you not working after marriage and kids but I think you’ll have a very hot time finding a non-abusive bf who wants you to stay home (+ pay off your loans) although you just dated for a very short time. Those expectations need to be communicated.
And I don’t get your last sentence: you think you shouldn’t have to contribute financially because you are NOT married?
If you’re wondering why everything this commenter said sounds hypocritical and like it’s bending over backwards to somehow blame the man for engaging in the very behaviour she said she’d want a man to engage in only a sentence ago, it’s because what she actually means is ‘Men being emotional (unless it’s anger) personally disgusts me and because this man didn’t immediately expose himself as the type to cry early on in the relationship he deceived her. I would personally feel betrayed and lied to in that scenario as I had been under the false pretence of my partner being some stoic rock of pure masculinity.’
Wise woman once told me the best revenge is to be successful: live your life happier without him. Of course it will take effort to get there though I did it. After break up with my ex, I got a wonderful partner who lifts me up, higher education, a decent job, house, dogs, etc., focus on your self for now and don’t look back.
Test the waters and ask if he’s ever wondered what it’s like to be different. If you confess to him, be prepared to lose a friend because thats how things usually go
I feel like 21 and 28 is… interesting. You’re an adult of course, but the maturity and life experience is not quite there in comparison to him. He seems to be pushing to move things very quickly with you, in my opinion that’s a red flag. Saying “I love you” immediately, and in your case before the relationship even began, is an even bigger red flag.
Given your diagnoses and history of difficult relationships, I think you should give yourself a break. Focus on your health and well-being.
When you reject him, set hot boundaries and don’t let him cross them. Don’t get into a relationship with this guy.
If a friend or family member (your sister? your daughter?) shared these relationship details with you and asked for the same advice as you’re asking in this post, what would you tell them, as a friend, sister, or mother?
If a client shared these details with you, with all of your training and professional knowledge and experience, what would you do?
I share these ideas (a kind of variation on the Double Standard method that I believe was developed by David Burns) so that you might look at your situation from a new perspective. Also, you say you want to be “compassionate and loving” with your partner… my advice is to start with yourself. Then ask yourself how compassionate and loving your partner is being with you… because !spoiler alert! he’s not.
How it will work. Presumably, you are looking to share a bedroom. Are you going to use one person's furniture? Or do you have to buy something new for the two of you? What about places for studying or computers? Or furniture that's generally shared, like a couch or dining table?
You also need to talk about if you are both going on the lease or not. Yes helps, because then you are both legally involved. Even if you break up, there's still an obligation to pay a share of rent.
How you will handle bills matters. Some places expect them to be in one person's name, but you should still have some plan for both of you contributing to the cost. It may be evenly split, or perhaps, if one of you makes a lot more money, it is more proportional to income.
Talking about chores, what needs to be done and how often, what's involved in something like “cleaning the bathroom” so there's no disagreement when the soap dish isn't wiped off, or which way to fold towel. Will you alternate some chores, or will certain chores belong to one or the other of you?
The parking situation might be important. My wife and I once had an apartment that had one underground parking spot, but we had two vehicles. Who gets to be in the heated garage could be a big deal.
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yeah the birth fetish one got me too……
I think I need to go back to bed. Because I can't keep off reddit when I am bored lol.
I literally went the very next day after unprotected sex and tested positive for chlamydia. I obviously did like you said though as far as the timing for testing for hiv though.
Thank you. I went as far to even ask her if she'd be upset if I kissed one of her female friends and she said yes so I guess we're on the same page kinda. But I appreciate the kind words.
Sorry, rip the bandaid off! With this time-line there will never be a good time and also it will likely get worse if you wait.
It seems like you've had similar discussions before and your husband seems like a good person except for the sex incompatibility. If he is good natured he will want what is best for you as well and wont hold the money over your head.
Also since you are married his income is yours to share especially since his jobb is more or less keeping you from working so don't feel bad about the money spent.
Just break up with your current gf then and give yourself some time being single to figure out what you want. People are not things. It’s not cool to use them for your own emotional needs
She's says she's oke with it but she isn't she just don't wanna make more problems for you and thinks she owes you. If you do this your relationship is done within a couple months. If its a dealbreaker break up and stay friends because that's what you are if you don't have sex imo.
It’s not fair to bring a child into this type of situation. They should’ve be expected to be treated as an afterthought.
He needs to see a doc.
Also, is he overweight by chance? My hubby had this issue for a while after he gained 20lbs. He wasn't obese or anything either and was otherwise healthy. No BP issues. He decided to lose weight for himself and after he lost 15 lbs his issue went away on its own.
sounds like he has cheated
Sometimes I like to poke the crazy!
Then that sucks to be you if you can't even text him to get your stuff what else are you gonna do? Break in??
Grow up and send a text it really ain't that hot, an you don't even need to meet them face to face. Have a friend grab it, ask if they will drop it off/ leave it somewhere safe Tell them to just leave it outside their door for craps sake
Maybe, but you are not in a relationship with them. It's not what they say or do that matter, it's the fact that your boyfriend is at best not defending you/listening or at worst give them the information that lead them to say or do those things.
And then you have the much more clearer issue of his hometown. It's not his friend that forced him to lie to you so you would go out with him even if he had never any intention to living in your city. It's not his friends that make you feel guilty and breaking your boundary to go live in his hometown.
I’ll be as kind as possible: If your life goal is to be a sahw then you should find someone who wants a sahw. It’s that simple.
Your bf doesn’t want to pay off your loan (very understandable). Were you open with him from the beginning? Sure, there are men that would be ok with you not working after marriage and kids but I think you’ll have a very hot time finding a non-abusive bf who wants you to stay home (+ pay off your loans) although you just dated for a very short time. Those expectations need to be communicated.
And I don’t get your last sentence: you think you shouldn’t have to contribute financially because you are NOT married?
My god. My GOD. I’m so sorry.
I’d just do it. Blow his mind as you get to know him. May you both find nirvana.
This is way past too much.
This sounds way too obvious to be real. Wtf says “gay hand jobs”. Lol.
Maybe he's bisexual. That's an option too.
If you’re wondering why everything this commenter said sounds hypocritical and like it’s bending over backwards to somehow blame the man for engaging in the very behaviour she said she’d want a man to engage in only a sentence ago, it’s because what she actually means is ‘Men being emotional (unless it’s anger) personally disgusts me and because this man didn’t immediately expose himself as the type to cry early on in the relationship he deceived her. I would personally feel betrayed and lied to in that scenario as I had been under the false pretence of my partner being some stoic rock of pure masculinity.’
Wise woman once told me the best revenge is to be successful: live your life happier without him. Of course it will take effort to get there though I did it. After break up with my ex, I got a wonderful partner who lifts me up, higher education, a decent job, house, dogs, etc., focus on your self for now and don’t look back.
Test the waters and ask if he’s ever wondered what it’s like to be different. If you confess to him, be prepared to lose a friend because thats how things usually go
I feel like 21 and 28 is… interesting. You’re an adult of course, but the maturity and life experience is not quite there in comparison to him. He seems to be pushing to move things very quickly with you, in my opinion that’s a red flag. Saying “I love you” immediately, and in your case before the relationship even began, is an even bigger red flag.
Given your diagnoses and history of difficult relationships, I think you should give yourself a break. Focus on your health and well-being.
When you reject him, set hot boundaries and don’t let him cross them. Don’t get into a relationship with this guy.
If a friend or family member (your sister? your daughter?) shared these relationship details with you and asked for the same advice as you’re asking in this post, what would you tell them, as a friend, sister, or mother?
If a client shared these details with you, with all of your training and professional knowledge and experience, what would you do?
I share these ideas (a kind of variation on the Double Standard method that I believe was developed by David Burns) so that you might look at your situation from a new perspective. Also, you say you want to be “compassionate and loving” with your partner… my advice is to start with yourself. Then ask yourself how compassionate and loving your partner is being with you… because !spoiler alert! he’s not.
He knows. He's hoping you're afraid to confront him. Do it. NOW. It was no mistake and everyone knows that. Close the account to him. Open your own.