It just doesn’t make sense to me as why. In my mind if my son was doing really good and getting ripped I’d be happy for him. I’d want my son to become an in shape man
If you find out a friend stole from you a year ago, but you just found it out, would you not allow yourself to process and react to that how you would for a friend stealing from you today?
Because that is essentially what you are saying. You recently found out that he lied to you, hated your boundaries, and didn't respect you. But because he did it that long ago but you didn't find out until now, you aren't allowed to react?
So if anyone just lies or hides something from you for long enough, it's OK? You are rewarding them for how long they can lie and hide things from you?
OP Please ghost this guy, he made clear he prefeers dogs over humans, plan your leaving and when you are ready send a message to his parents explaining that you are leaving him and please be there for him to give him support, but you can no longer take this amount of emotional mistreatment.
Then block them (ex + parents) and focus on your mental health, his behavior is seriously abusive and manipulative and is not going to get better.
Didn't need to read more than the arts degree I can see where this is going, she fucking has arts degree she smells unemployement she has no right to complain about you being yourself, dump her unemployed insufferable ass my guy
You knew she comes with a past, when you got into it with her, right? It seems like a very sensible, sorted thing tbh. But your feelings are valid too.
Ask her when you get to meet John and what are her plans with regards to you being her serious partner. What is your relationship with the kid? Ideally you'd be a big part of their life. You may not replace the kid's father but you definitely should be there in all his celebrations, big and small.
Does your girl feel indebted to John and his family? I know I would. But she should make an effort to gradually include you for things.
I used to work nights and lived close to a very busy construction company. Here’s some advice: there’s an eye mask you can get live that has Bluetooth speakers in it, and with it playing sleep sounds, it drowns out a lot of noise. Also, invest in some HQ earplugs, like professional earplugs that are comfortable. The others personally irritated my skin. If you have a fan, blast that thing at night. Box fans make a ton of noise and great air circulation. You can also buy a white noise machine that can go really loud.
A lot of people comment like moving out is so easy anymore, as if you can now sign on to a lease (yes, this even applies to university housing) without credit or with very little credit history at 19…many rentals will laugh in your face and not give you the time of day. And let alone afford the rent and groceries with your current wages.
Then he’s a shit boyfriend and is this really who you want to be with? Someone who cares more about the deed than you? Get rid, find someone who wants to be with you and is happy to take your pace, or just carry on single, You’re 18, I’m sure between school, friends, family and just generally being able to do what you want for you, you can find something better to do to make your life awesome. Someone who wants to take your pace will fill the space in your life when you’re ready.
Sorry… but being in 'talking stages and not wanting to label things' is not a SO.
You've been seeing this guy for 6 months. Don't you think its time to start adding some direction to it?
If you're 6 months deep and feel like you have your own personal things to work on… you shouldn't even be dating. Regardless of who you're seeing… if you're on the dating scene, you should be able to pull the trigger of relationship status after 6 months.
Are you even ready to date? If not, then what are you doing? How are things this complicated after 6 months…
I feel like you have more than that conversation to start paying attention to.
Come on bro, don't let her water works gaslight you. She enjoyed him the hwole night until you came along. My advice, move on find another girl. Also, this wasn't the first time she 'cheated' on you.
this is like something you see in a movie when you're in your 20s and think “ha. that's humorous”. it's not something normal people who aren't psychos do in real life…
Just leave, been there myself, still regret not leaving sooner.
I'd still go with him. He'll still need someone to take him to the toilet and remind him where his keys are…
I know, we dont live! together so I will talk to her in the morning. I am just confused on how to start the conversation, yk.
Modern dating also suffers attention span problems it seems
Modern dating also suffers attention span problems it seems
It just doesn’t make sense to me as why. In my mind if my son was doing really good and getting ripped I’d be happy for him. I’d want my son to become an in shape man
If you find out a friend stole from you a year ago, but you just found it out, would you not allow yourself to process and react to that how you would for a friend stealing from you today?
Because that is essentially what you are saying. You recently found out that he lied to you, hated your boundaries, and didn't respect you. But because he did it that long ago but you didn't find out until now, you aren't allowed to react?
So if anyone just lies or hides something from you for long enough, it's OK? You are rewarding them for how long they can lie and hide things from you?
OP Please ghost this guy, he made clear he prefeers dogs over humans, plan your leaving and when you are ready send a message to his parents explaining that you are leaving him and please be there for him to give him support, but you can no longer take this amount of emotional mistreatment.
Then block them (ex + parents) and focus on your mental health, his behavior is seriously abusive and manipulative and is not going to get better.
Didn't need to read more than the arts degree I can see where this is going, she fucking has arts degree she smells unemployement she has no right to complain about you being yourself, dump her unemployed insufferable ass my guy
You knew she comes with a past, when you got into it with her, right? It seems like a very sensible, sorted thing tbh. But your feelings are valid too.
Ask her when you get to meet John and what are her plans with regards to you being her serious partner. What is your relationship with the kid? Ideally you'd be a big part of their life. You may not replace the kid's father but you definitely should be there in all his celebrations, big and small.
Does your girl feel indebted to John and his family? I know I would. But she should make an effort to gradually include you for things.
You’re right. It’s weird. Maybe he’s pulling away for different reasons?
I used to work nights and lived close to a very busy construction company. Here’s some advice: there’s an eye mask you can get live that has Bluetooth speakers in it, and with it playing sleep sounds, it drowns out a lot of noise. Also, invest in some HQ earplugs, like professional earplugs that are comfortable. The others personally irritated my skin. If you have a fan, blast that thing at night. Box fans make a ton of noise and great air circulation. You can also buy a white noise machine that can go really loud.
A lot of people comment like moving out is so easy anymore, as if you can now sign on to a lease (yes, this even applies to university housing) without credit or with very little credit history at 19…many rentals will laugh in your face and not give you the time of day. And let alone afford the rent and groceries with your current wages.
You have to decide if not having a job is worth this.
You might have done him a favor by having him back away from her. Not all long term friendships need to stay.
Did you? You dumb cunt? My entire comment was about it, you stupid fucking mosquito.
Then he’s a shit boyfriend and is this really who you want to be with? Someone who cares more about the deed than you? Get rid, find someone who wants to be with you and is happy to take your pace, or just carry on single, You’re 18, I’m sure between school, friends, family and just generally being able to do what you want for you, you can find something better to do to make your life awesome. Someone who wants to take your pace will fill the space in your life when you’re ready.
Sorry… but being in 'talking stages and not wanting to label things' is not a SO.
You've been seeing this guy for 6 months. Don't you think its time to start adding some direction to it?
If you're 6 months deep and feel like you have your own personal things to work on… you shouldn't even be dating. Regardless of who you're seeing… if you're on the dating scene, you should be able to pull the trigger of relationship status after 6 months.
Are you even ready to date? If not, then what are you doing? How are things this complicated after 6 months…
I feel like you have more than that conversation to start paying attention to.
Come on bro, don't let her water works gaslight you. She enjoyed him the hwole night until you came along. My advice, move on find another girl. Also, this wasn't the first time she 'cheated' on you.
this is like something you see in a movie when you're in your 20s and think “ha. that's humorous”. it's not something normal people who aren't psychos do in real life…