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Ride My Toy [234 tokens remaining]
Date: October 18, 2022
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Ride My Toy [234 tokens remaining]
Oh we’ve got boundaries, we just aren’t insane or overcompensating for our pasts. They were in an LDR before me, and I’d been cheated on. One of our closest friends who we both hang out with is my ex boyfriend (he did not cheat). It should not be this difficult to trust your partner.
Honestly that doesn't sound like he's all in on this marriage. That's the kind of thing you say to your girlfriend, not your wife. Do people not know what marriage means? If he's seriously concerned, have some sperm frozen. But saying, “what if things don't work out and I want kids with my next wife” sounds like he didn't understand the vows.
You can’t have a healthy relationship with someone who can’t trust you. Her behavior is controlling, toxic and a complete violation of your privacy considering it was most likely baseless. She sounds like she has some deep trust issues, insecurities that she needs help to fix. You can’t fix them for her, and honestly if she’s acting that way she could be heavily projecting onto you to try and catch you doing wrong to justify her own actions. Regardless you’re way too young to have to deal with this, I’d cut her loose so she can work on herself.
She deeply regrets cheating, and she wanted to get marriage counseling to work through it. Her husband however wants a divorce as of now.
OMG. The things people put up with never ceases to amaze me.
You’re paying all the bills for this abusive c***. Why not just leave?
When does it become our responsibility for the way we allow others to treat us?
Why on Earth are trying to get back with him????
Can’t stress this enough. Dude needs to stand up for himself. This woman clearly has issues which are a direct negative effect on people around her. This guy owes her nothing. Besides, she can’t bump into him at the gym if he doesn’t pay her bill ??♂️
That's where I'm at too. Him distancing himself from me this past week has been hot too and shows he doesn't care when I said what he said hurt
It’s level 1000 disturbing that even though you admit you don’t necessarily want kids, your first instinct was to intentionally inflict hurt onto your partner. YTA get help before you hurt others
He gave you a heads up that something that you said may give you issues was in his car and instead of taking that information as him trying to warn and prepare you should you get into his car you took it as a deliberate provocation of your trigger.
I can see why he finally blew up about it. He could have definitely been nicer about telling you to cut it out but yeah you're making a mountain out of a molehill because you decided never to go to therapy to unpack those issues you have that are causing you to lash out over something as dumb as a ham radio hobby.
Also he wanted to do ham radio and you said that's a trigger try talking to random people live which is literally the thing your dad did but that's not a trigger? The logical leaps are exhausting I definitely understand why he's not eager to “win” you back when you think you're in the right unloading your mental health issues on him instead of getting help to overcome them.
One way to see if he's interested in you is to look for signs of flirting, such as compliments, playful teasing, or extended eye contact. However, keep in mind that some people may naturally be more friendly or touchy-feely, so don't read too much into every gesture.
If you want to take things further, you could try subtly flirting back, such as making eye contact, smiling, or finding excuses to touch him (such as lightly touching his arm or shoulder during a conversation). However, make sure to read his body language and verbal cues to see if he's reciprocating or if he seems uncomfortable.
If you feel confident enough, you could also try asking him out on a date or suggesting a more romantic activity, such as going to a concert or having a picnic. Just be prepared for the possibility of rejection and make sure to respect his answer and boundaries.
Remember, the most important thing is to communicate openly and honestly with each other to avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings. Good luck!