Came here to say this too, I think the fact she found out and it was a secret is what would bother me too, if the other wife had instead asked her about the possibility of her trying to breastfeed how she’d feel about it and/or said hey I’d like to try this out to bond with the baby it would be much different than accidentally discovering it
It wasn’t really an argument, it was just me stating how I felt. I guess. I was just very straight forward
A few months ago before I learned he was cheating on me, he kept saying how I should take classes on being more confident, he was consistently comparing me to other women, he was pressuring me to drink (because he didn’t know if he wanted to be with someone who didn’t) it broke me down so much it broke down my self esteem. I have friends who never questioned me or my choices etc since I’m introverted I don’t like to drink(never did) etc but I do enjoy dancing which was what I was telling him to do together. (We never did) he promised we would any how…. When I found he was cheating I immediately talked to his dad and his dad talked to him, his father told me to be more straightforward with him and that he fully supports me he even told me that if I didn’t want him using me I should be vocal about what I don’t want or want etc.
And now that I have said, I feel guilty and sad inside. I don’t feel like myself since I usually just let things go.
Sounds like she isn't for you. I'd move on ASAP
Never, just live! with the regret and thoughts of “what if”
Because everybody is different.
Came here to say this too, I think the fact she found out and it was a secret is what would bother me too, if the other wife had instead asked her about the possibility of her trying to breastfeed how she’d feel about it and/or said hey I’d like to try this out to bond with the baby it would be much different than accidentally discovering it
It wasn’t really an argument, it was just me stating how I felt. I guess. I was just very straight forward
A few months ago before I learned he was cheating on me, he kept saying how I should take classes on being more confident, he was consistently comparing me to other women, he was pressuring me to drink (because he didn’t know if he wanted to be with someone who didn’t) it broke me down so much it broke down my self esteem. I have friends who never questioned me or my choices etc since I’m introverted I don’t like to drink(never did) etc but I do enjoy dancing which was what I was telling him to do together. (We never did) he promised we would any how…. When I found he was cheating I immediately talked to his dad and his dad talked to him, his father told me to be more straightforward with him and that he fully supports me he even told me that if I didn’t want him using me I should be vocal about what I don’t want or want etc.
And now that I have said, I feel guilty and sad inside. I don’t feel like myself since I usually just let things go.