Do you give her any feedback AS sheâs touching and teasing you? If not, start doing so. âFuck, that feels so good when you touch me like that. Could you rub my thighs harder? Thatâs it. I really love the way you tease me with your fingers. Youâre such a good kisser. I love when you press your mouth against me.â She needs to know that when she does something, youâre enjoying it in that moment. Use your words. Moan. And be sure to thank her and hold her afterward and tell her how much you appreciate what she did and how good she made you feel.
If youâre already doing this, and sheâs still feeling un-confident, itâs also possible that sheâs simply very submissive and wants/needs you to take charge more often.
Honestly, just tell him straight up âI heard you whisper this to me this morning. I donât know if I dreamt it or if you really whispered it. To put my mind at ease can I please look through your phone/computer/etc.â I donât think thatâs too much of an ask and not necessarily 100% accusing. I donât see why a straightforward approach with an open and tactful conversation cannot be had in this situation. If you find out heâs cheating, well then you know. If you canât find anything, just apologize and move on. Iâm not saying you not finding doesnât eliminate the fact he may be cheating, but the truth will come to light eventually. Besides this incident it sounds like yâall need to talk about other things too and work through this rough patch yâall are experiencing. This whole say this and read his body language sounds fucking exhausting. Why play mind games with him and yourself.
Wow I think it's new relationship advice record! 20 years difference đ why people do this to themselves.
Do you give her any feedback AS sheâs touching and teasing you? If not, start doing so. âFuck, that feels so good when you touch me like that. Could you rub my thighs harder? Thatâs it. I really love the way you tease me with your fingers. Youâre such a good kisser. I love when you press your mouth against me.â She needs to know that when she does something, youâre enjoying it in that moment. Use your words. Moan. And be sure to thank her and hold her afterward and tell her how much you appreciate what she did and how good she made you feel.
If youâre already doing this, and sheâs still feeling un-confident, itâs also possible that sheâs simply very submissive and wants/needs you to take charge more often.
Honestly, just tell him straight up âI heard you whisper this to me this morning. I donât know if I dreamt it or if you really whispered it. To put my mind at ease can I please look through your phone/computer/etc.â I donât think thatâs too much of an ask and not necessarily 100% accusing. I donât see why a straightforward approach with an open and tactful conversation cannot be had in this situation. If you find out heâs cheating, well then you know. If you canât find anything, just apologize and move on. Iâm not saying you not finding doesnât eliminate the fact he may be cheating, but the truth will come to light eventually. Besides this incident it sounds like yâall need to talk about other things too and work through this rough patch yâall are experiencing. This whole say this and read his body language sounds fucking exhausting. Why play mind games with him and yourself.
Are you earning an income independent of him?
Because doing nothing and relying on a guy who canât cook and wonât learn how is not going to end well for you.
Is it worth reaching out (after a month or so) to apologize and try to have a conversation?
No. Leave him alone. It's utterly disrespectful to read someone's personal journal without their permission. You fucked up.
At my school there were 0 scholarships for undergrads. At most you could catch some sort of tech internship/minor scholarship in your final 2 years.
Education is free but food and board still gotta be paid. And nobody pays scholarships for food&board alone.