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Tried the first one and it’s not possible in our shower as the water runs down it’s hot to breath.
Easy for me to say, because it's not my shower, but this sounds like it could be fixed with some different technique/posture/position.
Can’t clean the toilet after every use, it’s not feasible
I mean, it definitely is feasible. Pain in the ass? Sure. But it can be done.
I have contamination OCD so it’s not that easy to “get over it”
Well now you know why one commenter suggested therapy. Are you undergoing treatment?
Presumably your BF is aware of this? I would think knowing and accepting this about you would go a long way towards him being willing to “help you help him”. However, if he gets annoyed by it (as many are), I can see you cause for concern here.
I think the only fix is the last one. And I know that why I was asking how to get around this.
One option I forgot to suggest was condoms. They have flavored condoms specifically for fellatio. Obviously, it might require some explanation. But it's potentially less hassle then him having to wash. And it would at least give him an option.
I'm just waiting to go to my parents on Friday. It's really been a stressful week from how he's treated me and we're done, but he's been stressful this week
There's nothing wrong with having a boundary against porn or lewd images, for any gender. If my boyfriend watched porn in our relationship or looked at suggestive pictures, I would leave him, and he would do the same for me. I do think that OP should have set boundaries against porn sooner (we set ours on the first date, no regrets), but she isn't possessive for not wanting her partner to stare at the bodies of other people. Absolutely no one has to accept this behavior, they just have to be upfront about their expectations.
You two need couples counseling, pronto
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Tried the first one and it’s not possible in our shower as the water runs down it’s hot to breath.
Easy for me to say, because it's not my shower, but this sounds like it could be fixed with some different technique/posture/position.
Can’t clean the toilet after every use, it’s not feasible
I mean, it definitely is feasible. Pain in the ass? Sure. But it can be done.
I have contamination OCD so it’s not that easy to “get over it”
Well now you know why one commenter suggested therapy. Are you undergoing treatment?
Presumably your BF is aware of this? I would think knowing and accepting this about you would go a long way towards him being willing to “help you help him”. However, if he gets annoyed by it (as many are), I can see you cause for concern here.
I think the only fix is the last one. And I know that why I was asking how to get around this.
One option I forgot to suggest was condoms. They have flavored condoms specifically for fellatio. Obviously, it might require some explanation. But it's potentially less hassle then him having to wash. And it would at least give him an option.
I'm just waiting to go to my parents on Friday. It's really been a stressful week from how he's treated me and we're done, but he's been stressful this week
Yup, this is a native English speaker for sure. Someone fascinated by the exotic topic of arranged marriage, who reads a lot of romance books.
There's nothing wrong with having a boundary against porn or lewd images, for any gender. If my boyfriend watched porn in our relationship or looked at suggestive pictures, I would leave him, and he would do the same for me. I do think that OP should have set boundaries against porn sooner (we set ours on the first date, no regrets), but she isn't possessive for not wanting her partner to stare at the bodies of other people. Absolutely no one has to accept this behavior, they just have to be upfront about their expectations.