Yeah, sometimes, I just think like, my boyfriend isn’t your therapist, so why do you go to him for all of your problems, but, at the same time, I know that he is one of her few emotional support systems, so I didn’t really want to stop them. But now that he suggested it after I brought it up, I want to say yes, but I also know that it will hurt her badly, and he will likely lose a friend because of it. I mostly don’t want to be coming off as I’m trying to push you away from your friends because I don’t really care about his relationships with anyone else but her for some reason.
Some people just don’t like initiating. They want the other person to take charge. If she’s still saying yes most of the time you initiate, and she’s still enjoying the sex itself, then that’s a pretty good sign, IMO.
Aww poor men can’t stop being horrible misogynists. Sad. Guess OP needs to either break up with her or stop caring about controlling his GF and other men’s thoughts. It’s about his ego.
And don’t pull the predator bullshit because women have gotten SA’d in every type of outfit imaginable. Nipples won’t change that.
yea I've been there lol. DO NOT put this girl on the pedestal and DO NOT imagine being with her it just makes the feeling worse and definitely DO NOT try to initiate any contact with her. You're going to have to go talk to other girls whether from school or from communities based on your interests. You might also want to focus more on yourself like gym and career path, no girl is going to set you up for success in the future, you are, if you focus on that they will notice and gravitate towards you as you level up, who knows maybe this crush will notice you too but by then you prolly won't even care.
Directly talking to him would be great idea but I'm scared that it will be awkward if he says no or if we go somewhere. But yeah could try writing something like that! And I agree pickuplines aren't the best choise
Thank you for your feedback! I think what has thrown me off the most was him telling me he loves me so quickly, but in my experience everyone has different standards for when they’re ready to say that. I do believe he was being genuine when he said it but it was a bit awkward for me because you could tell he was really hoping I’d say it first (which he later admitted) The interesting thing I’m finding in this relationship that I didn’t have in previous ones is I seem to understand him really well and catch onto his body language extremely easily. He’s said it’s almost like I can read his mind lol
I could never do this with my ex, towards my current partner. Keeping someone around that you had very vulnerable and intimate moments with is so disrespectful. I loved my ex dearly, but he also dated someone else after me, told her we were just friends and I had no idea how serious they were and him and I were still hooking up and still very much in love. But he did not have the decency to tell her until after the fact. What you’re boyfriend is doing to you sounds very familiar to what my ex did to that poor girl he had been dating. I’m afraid you’re the other woman in this scenario. As much as I absolutely hate to break it to you. Unless he absolutely does not decide to see her, he’s outright disrespecting you because you already said how you felt about it. Don’t ever ask a person twice. If he’s so tied up in property with her and “stuck” with her, is that something you really want to be stressing about 24/7? Girl, we’re 30, come on. We don’t have time for this. Get some self-respect and leave. (I say that with love) I know it’s going to be hot because the blinders are on, and you have all of these feelings but you’re better off finding a guy who listens to you the first time around. The fact he didn’t even want to hurt her after he’s moved on with his own life? Eww. Red flags all over the place. Leave before you get your heart broken.
Since everyone is against daddy I'm going to argue his point.
Firstly you are a daughter to your dad: he cares about you and definitely loves you for real.
The boyfriend however might have some care for you and might have some love for you, even if he does have some real love for you, as an atheist he might not believe in monogamy and marriage and being committed to you as a life long love partner. Do you trust in your boyfriend's love enough to get respect and support from him? Would he consider paying anything for you? Is he that invested? Are you just a for now partner in his eyes? Can he easily replace you?
An atheist can be a person who is immature and uses their belief in nothing to avoid responsibilities. You will be your life partner's responsibility whether they believe in God or not. If you see it from your father's point of view: a man who believes in something greater than himself and will take on his care for as a duty to you, your family, himself etc. Is more likely to be successful in providing you with a good life.
Our universe was created by a white hole which could have been a worm hole that has a black hole on the other end, sucking up other universes. Everything we have on Earth is useful to us (except for punishing creatures such as wasps maybe). We can eat animals and plants, many of which just happened to exist. If we did not have our moon exactly as it is, we would not have water currents and seasons. Our planet has been a perfect environment for us to flourish in. It could be completely destroyed very easily and very quickly by a meteorite, comet or a passing black hole. Protons at a microscopic level can exist anywhere at any point in time, sometimes going back in time to its previous position so that it is in a position that you can observe it in, and make sense of it. There is now real evidence that humans did exist and we're civilised enough to farm twelve thousand years ago.
One can explain how our planet and ourselves have come to be, but no one can explain why we simply have everything and why things are so nurturing of our presence. Why we have the technology and the ability to create the environment we want. I can give you Good or I can explain hydrogen and atoms to you. Either way, you'd be silly to still believe in nothing.
So you are in fact going against the good well experienced advice of your father, in exchange to make your freedom choice and suffer the consequences that come with making that choice. A choice of a parent who loves you for sure, is warning you against. Is trying to use all the power they have to sway you in the right direction.
Which hand looks more like real love to you? I'd pick that one. Love is having honour, respect, loyalty and consideration. Has your bf shown you signs of real love? Can he prove his commitment to you in any way? Or has he just got excuses not to?
Your nit picking its a very common question to ask. Wording it different doesn’t change the question either.
Sex In The Missionary Position For The Sole Purpose Of Procreating
Yeah, sometimes, I just think like, my boyfriend isn’t your therapist, so why do you go to him for all of your problems, but, at the same time, I know that he is one of her few emotional support systems, so I didn’t really want to stop them. But now that he suggested it after I brought it up, I want to say yes, but I also know that it will hurt her badly, and he will likely lose a friend because of it. I mostly don’t want to be coming off as I’m trying to push you away from your friends because I don’t really care about his relationships with anyone else but her for some reason.
Some people just don’t like initiating. They want the other person to take charge. If she’s still saying yes most of the time you initiate, and she’s still enjoying the sex itself, then that’s a pretty good sign, IMO.
Aww poor men can’t stop being horrible misogynists. Sad. Guess OP needs to either break up with her or stop caring about controlling his GF and other men’s thoughts. It’s about his ego.
And don’t pull the predator bullshit because women have gotten SA’d in every type of outfit imaginable. Nipples won’t change that.
Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it.
Wish you the best OP, whatever the future holds.
She’s dumb. Find a partner who’ll wear the skirt and appreciate you for the awesome person your are.
yea I've been there lol. DO NOT put this girl on the pedestal and DO NOT imagine being with her it just makes the feeling worse and definitely DO NOT try to initiate any contact with her. You're going to have to go talk to other girls whether from school or from communities based on your interests. You might also want to focus more on yourself like gym and career path, no girl is going to set you up for success in the future, you are, if you focus on that they will notice and gravitate towards you as you level up, who knows maybe this crush will notice you too but by then you prolly won't even care.
Directly talking to him would be great idea but I'm scared that it will be awkward if he says no or if we go somewhere. But yeah could try writing something like that! And I agree pickuplines aren't the best choise
Thank you for your feedback! I think what has thrown me off the most was him telling me he loves me so quickly, but in my experience everyone has different standards for when they’re ready to say that. I do believe he was being genuine when he said it but it was a bit awkward for me because you could tell he was really hoping I’d say it first (which he later admitted) The interesting thing I’m finding in this relationship that I didn’t have in previous ones is I seem to understand him really well and catch onto his body language extremely easily. He’s said it’s almost like I can read his mind lol
i assume he was the one who asked you out, hit on you
I could never do this with my ex, towards my current partner. Keeping someone around that you had very vulnerable and intimate moments with is so disrespectful. I loved my ex dearly, but he also dated someone else after me, told her we were just friends and I had no idea how serious they were and him and I were still hooking up and still very much in love. But he did not have the decency to tell her until after the fact. What you’re boyfriend is doing to you sounds very familiar to what my ex did to that poor girl he had been dating. I’m afraid you’re the other woman in this scenario. As much as I absolutely hate to break it to you. Unless he absolutely does not decide to see her, he’s outright disrespecting you because you already said how you felt about it. Don’t ever ask a person twice. If he’s so tied up in property with her and “stuck” with her, is that something you really want to be stressing about 24/7? Girl, we’re 30, come on. We don’t have time for this. Get some self-respect and leave. (I say that with love) I know it’s going to be hot because the blinders are on, and you have all of these feelings but you’re better off finding a guy who listens to you the first time around. The fact he didn’t even want to hurt her after he’s moved on with his own life? Eww. Red flags all over the place. Leave before you get your heart broken.
Since everyone is against daddy I'm going to argue his point.
Firstly you are a daughter to your dad: he cares about you and definitely loves you for real.
The boyfriend however might have some care for you and might have some love for you, even if he does have some real love for you, as an atheist he might not believe in monogamy and marriage and being committed to you as a life long love partner. Do you trust in your boyfriend's love enough to get respect and support from him? Would he consider paying anything for you? Is he that invested? Are you just a for now partner in his eyes? Can he easily replace you?
An atheist can be a person who is immature and uses their belief in nothing to avoid responsibilities. You will be your life partner's responsibility whether they believe in God or not. If you see it from your father's point of view: a man who believes in something greater than himself and will take on his care for as a duty to you, your family, himself etc. Is more likely to be successful in providing you with a good life.
Our universe was created by a white hole which could have been a worm hole that has a black hole on the other end, sucking up other universes. Everything we have on Earth is useful to us (except for punishing creatures such as wasps maybe). We can eat animals and plants, many of which just happened to exist. If we did not have our moon exactly as it is, we would not have water currents and seasons. Our planet has been a perfect environment for us to flourish in. It could be completely destroyed very easily and very quickly by a meteorite, comet or a passing black hole. Protons at a microscopic level can exist anywhere at any point in time, sometimes going back in time to its previous position so that it is in a position that you can observe it in, and make sense of it. There is now real evidence that humans did exist and we're civilised enough to farm twelve thousand years ago.
One can explain how our planet and ourselves have come to be, but no one can explain why we simply have everything and why things are so nurturing of our presence. Why we have the technology and the ability to create the environment we want. I can give you Good or I can explain hydrogen and atoms to you. Either way, you'd be silly to still believe in nothing.
So you are in fact going against the good well experienced advice of your father, in exchange to make your freedom choice and suffer the consequences that come with making that choice. A choice of a parent who loves you for sure, is warning you against. Is trying to use all the power they have to sway you in the right direction.
Which hand looks more like real love to you? I'd pick that one. Love is having honour, respect, loyalty and consideration. Has your bf shown you signs of real love? Can he prove his commitment to you in any way? Or has he just got excuses not to?