ive read a lot of things about getting an ex back and one is going no contact and whenever they reach out just be chill and normal and dont chase or anything. thats what ive been doing bc i really want us back. 🙁
That's fine. If he doesn't want to be with her anymore because she wasn't ready/didn't want to carry to term, give birth, and have a kid? That's his right.
But that isn't a good enough reason to put your life, body, health, or future at risk to carry a pregnancy you DON'T want to term. It is better to regret an abortion than to regret an entire human being
Thanks for the context, but you're still here projecting a lot of conclusions using information that alone don't suggest your assumptions.
First, let's talk about living together. You put all the blame on him around that, but you end this by saying that your mother won't ever let you go. If that's the case, then you're not going to be moving in with him anytime soon. To be honest with you, that's for the best at this point. It's way too soon, and you really should be taking advantage of rent-free housing right now to better set yourself up for financial success. How would you afford moving out? Bigger than that, you've also told us that there's huge communication issues in your relationship, so taking the biggest relationship step outside of having children would be a complete disaster since you haven't really talked about it.
To go back to what I started with, why would you two not getting a place together mean that you have to break up because he “doesn't see us seeing other a lot.” That's not at all what that means. You're jumping to extreme conclusions ignoring a ton of more important and relevant factors you need to consider before living with someone. It's a HUGE decision, relationship, and life step. What I'm about to say might come off as mean, but I need you to know it's not my intention, so I'm sorry. But I feel the need to be blunt because you really need to hear it; the fact that these are the the only things you're considering in taking a step like this really just proves that you shouldn't be doing it. That's ok! You can't rush this.
After you suggest that he's not taking your relationship seriously, you actually argue against yourself when you mention each others' life experience.
You then say he'll never break up with you, but there's literally no reason making that necessary here. You've been thinking about what's best for him. What's best for him that is objectively bad for your relationship? So what's the advice? The advice is that you should figure out why moving in is such a big deal to you right now.
Good. At least you now know that he was never interested in a relationship and views you like some kind of groupie or something. Thankfully you only invested a few short weeks in this idiot.
Buys me something without expecting me to pay him back right away – that’s why I mean. And yes, we pay 50/50 for groceries. One day I’ll go to the store and pay and next day he’ll go.
Thank you for this! I feel like this is the response I needed! In detail and might actually work to switch her on board with paying some bills. I'll take this into account and take some other feedback on here and see what I can do. Thanks again!
Keep trying lol
Sounds like a fun process for both of you
Dont be so fucking immature and get the test. Theres zero reason not to calm his nerves if you do care about him/ the situation
ive read a lot of things about getting an ex back and one is going no contact and whenever they reach out just be chill and normal and dont chase or anything. thats what ive been doing bc i really want us back. 🙁
Cheating is not a part of life, and it is not a mistake. Cheating is a choice. You are choosing to hurt her. Don't try to sugar coat it.
Lmao this is childish and selfish
I dont think he should continue having sex with her, but he is at next to no risk of jail time
Yes, I agree. That's my point.
Yeah it’s not all the time but sometimes things do heat up. Lesson here is no matter what I need to remain zen and whisper intentionally.
That’s attempted tape.
That's fine. If he doesn't want to be with her anymore because she wasn't ready/didn't want to carry to term, give birth, and have a kid? That's his right.
But that isn't a good enough reason to put your life, body, health, or future at risk to carry a pregnancy you DON'T want to term. It is better to regret an abortion than to regret an entire human being
Thanks for the context, but you're still here projecting a lot of conclusions using information that alone don't suggest your assumptions.
First, let's talk about living together. You put all the blame on him around that, but you end this by saying that your mother won't ever let you go. If that's the case, then you're not going to be moving in with him anytime soon. To be honest with you, that's for the best at this point. It's way too soon, and you really should be taking advantage of rent-free housing right now to better set yourself up for financial success. How would you afford moving out? Bigger than that, you've also told us that there's huge communication issues in your relationship, so taking the biggest relationship step outside of having children would be a complete disaster since you haven't really talked about it.
To go back to what I started with, why would you two not getting a place together mean that you have to break up because he “doesn't see us seeing other a lot.” That's not at all what that means. You're jumping to extreme conclusions ignoring a ton of more important and relevant factors you need to consider before living with someone. It's a HUGE decision, relationship, and life step. What I'm about to say might come off as mean, but I need you to know it's not my intention, so I'm sorry. But I feel the need to be blunt because you really need to hear it; the fact that these are the the only things you're considering in taking a step like this really just proves that you shouldn't be doing it. That's ok! You can't rush this.
After you suggest that he's not taking your relationship seriously, you actually argue against yourself when you mention each others' life experience.
You then say he'll never break up with you, but there's literally no reason making that necessary here. You've been thinking about what's best for him. What's best for him that is objectively bad for your relationship? So what's the advice? The advice is that you should figure out why moving in is such a big deal to you right now.
This
Good. At least you now know that he was never interested in a relationship and views you like some kind of groupie or something. Thankfully you only invested a few short weeks in this idiot.
You're thinking too much about it. Just be happy your gf is going to go out and have a fun time. Why not go out yourself and have fun while she's out?
Maybe you should see a psychologist to help you through the anxiety you experience, because it's not fun always living in a world of 'what ifs'.
A lot of artists make good money painting weird furry porn. They hate doing it, but . .. $$$$s.
Could be same for writers. There are more consumers of rough sex than there are creators.
You have to find out who is your boyfriend's stories consumer: He himself, or others.
Buys me something without expecting me to pay him back right away – that’s why I mean. And yes, we pay 50/50 for groceries. One day I’ll go to the store and pay and next day he’ll go.
Thank you for this! I feel like this is the response I needed! In detail and might actually work to switch her on board with paying some bills. I'll take this into account and take some other feedback on here and see what I can do. Thanks again!
guessing
So you want to ruin a potentially good relationship because you’re guessing?