It sounds like your boyfriend has very high standards for cleanliness, which can be difficult to online with for someone who doesn't share those standards. It's normal for people to have different ideas about what constitutes a clean and orderly environment, and it's important for couples to communicate and find a compromise that works for both of them. In this case, it might be helpful for you and your boyfriend to have a conversation about what each of you considers to be a clean and orderly environment, and to come up with a plan for how to maintain that level of cleanliness in your shared space. It's also important to remember that it's okay for things to be less than perfect, and to try to not let disagreements over cleanliness affect your mood or your relationship.
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It sounds like she really cares about you. My experience with MILs is that you'll know if they dislike you and they'll warn you about their kids if they like you and need to.
“He said you can get it”….OP why are you asking permission? It is your house, your money, time, and care. I get running it by him because at the end of day you want him to be included in life decisions but girl, no. Second, no, he can either communicate himself clearly when you ask him how he feels about am issue or he can stfu. You talked to him, you were excited but you should have known his yes meant no? Oh no, oh no, oh no no no no no. I bet this isn't the first time he has pulled this crap and if it is it won't be the last. You need to tell him. You aren't a mind reader. He needs to put his adult pants on and figure himself out because you like cats. You have cats. The cats are staying. Period.
That’s not what I am saying at all, but working 7 days straight you end up badly sleep deprived because you get calls throughout the night. That affects your relationships and mental health.
You freaked him out. It’s only been a month and you basically made requests. He’s nowhere at the level you’re at interest wise. If he does stick around it’s for the sex. Best to move on
Stop being so controlling and quit expecting her to report to you like you are her parent.
It sounds like your boyfriend has very high standards for cleanliness, which can be difficult to online with for someone who doesn't share those standards. It's normal for people to have different ideas about what constitutes a clean and orderly environment, and it's important for couples to communicate and find a compromise that works for both of them. In this case, it might be helpful for you and your boyfriend to have a conversation about what each of you considers to be a clean and orderly environment, and to come up with a plan for how to maintain that level of cleanliness in your shared space. It's also important to remember that it's okay for things to be less than perfect, and to try to not let disagreements over cleanliness affect your mood or your relationship.
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It sounds like she really cares about you. My experience with MILs is that you'll know if they dislike you and they'll warn you about their kids if they like you and need to.
“He said you can get it”….OP why are you asking permission? It is your house, your money, time, and care. I get running it by him because at the end of day you want him to be included in life decisions but girl, no. Second, no, he can either communicate himself clearly when you ask him how he feels about am issue or he can stfu. You talked to him, you were excited but you should have known his yes meant no? Oh no, oh no, oh no no no no no. I bet this isn't the first time he has pulled this crap and if it is it won't be the last. You need to tell him. You aren't a mind reader. He needs to put his adult pants on and figure himself out because you like cats. You have cats. The cats are staying. Period.
That’s not what I am saying at all, but working 7 days straight you end up badly sleep deprived because you get calls throughout the night. That affects your relationships and mental health.
But it won't change anything. The glass is shattered, it will never be whole again.
You freaked him out. It’s only been a month and you basically made requests. He’s nowhere at the level you’re at interest wise. If he does stick around it’s for the sex. Best to move on