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3 years is long enough to know you two are not compatible. She hasn’t tried to get help and uses it to make you feel bad for her. Sounds like she’s manipulating you. Physical touch and intimacy are important for your mental health, why does only hers count?
OP asked if she overreacted, and while you validated her boundaries you didn’t provide any rationale as to why they were good. I’m suggesting that her boundaries aren’t healthy and will not serve her relationship well.
Do you think someone who advocates for their partner to discard a friendship after 17 years for reasons unrelated to the well-being of their partner is demonstrating placing value in their partner’s friendships? Furthermore, when the rationale is related to their own insecurities doesn’t that make it worse?
You’re correct, no one put a gun to OP’s boyfriend’s head. I’m suggesting here, that OP provided her boyfriend with choices that aren’t healthy for a nascent relationship, as they undermine the autonomy of a partner and lay a foundation of mistrust.
I totally get why you would feel offended, but without really knowing the source of the breakup and the context, you cant really assume its because she wants to be with him currently, or something similar. My first assumption (based on just that, assumptions) would be that because of the ages that they dated, maybe she wanted to get married (or at least start the talk process) and maybe he said he wasnt ready. Maybe he told her he could never see himself getting married, and they broke up and now she hears this news? idk- maybe it's none of that but 4 years is a long time and thats a very tender age for dating…
3 years is long enough to know you two are not compatible. She hasn’t tried to get help and uses it to make you feel bad for her. Sounds like she’s manipulating you. Physical touch and intimacy are important for your mental health, why does only hers count?
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Only my ex friends can have sex with my ex.
Yeah don't marry her.
Your fiancé sounds absolutely fucking terrible why are you with her
OP asked if she overreacted, and while you validated her boundaries you didn’t provide any rationale as to why they were good. I’m suggesting that her boundaries aren’t healthy and will not serve her relationship well.
Do you think someone who advocates for their partner to discard a friendship after 17 years for reasons unrelated to the well-being of their partner is demonstrating placing value in their partner’s friendships? Furthermore, when the rationale is related to their own insecurities doesn’t that make it worse?
You’re correct, no one put a gun to OP’s boyfriend’s head. I’m suggesting here, that OP provided her boyfriend with choices that aren’t healthy for a nascent relationship, as they undermine the autonomy of a partner and lay a foundation of mistrust.
She’s the common denominator and needs a doctor and a therapist.
You’re correct.
I totally get why you would feel offended, but without really knowing the source of the breakup and the context, you cant really assume its because she wants to be with him currently, or something similar. My first assumption (based on just that, assumptions) would be that because of the ages that they dated, maybe she wanted to get married (or at least start the talk process) and maybe he said he wasnt ready. Maybe he told her he could never see himself getting married, and they broke up and now she hears this news? idk- maybe it's none of that but 4 years is a long time and thats a very tender age for dating…
Do not engage with her. Literally grey rock and ignore. Even when she said “oh we used to joke” you could’ve said “oh really I didn’t find it funny”.
Give her nothing. Record everything. People always show themselves