I can understand we’re both of you were coming from
A few things you can do is have him wear something so it prevents it, not do it at all, or use the mixture and take your mouth off and try to tim things for yourself. Guys definitely love what he’s asking, but at the same time if he wants it from you, he Hass to be careful of that too.
I hate saying this, and maybe I get yelled at for it, sometimes, when we are in that moment, if it sounds heavenly, we just ride with it. It could be a specific position it could be from oral sex. It could be a bunch of different things. We just get an a one track mind as it gets closer . This is not all the time this is not the standard and it’s something that shouldn’t happen especially if that’s your boundary. He should be respectful enough to ask at that moment I’m getting close can I please
If you cannot trust your husband to respect your bodily boundaries and your anxiety, than your whole relationship needs to be reevaluated!! Your lying may be an issue but I’m more worried about your safety! And just to be crystal clear, if you’ve told him no sex without a condom and he wears you down and coerces you into sex you don’t want, that’s assault & rape.
I’d cut contact (being in contact with an ex while trying to find someone new probably doesn’t help with getting over said ex) and NOT do the casual thing. You say you’re still in love with him, so you’d just end up getting hurt when he goes somewhere else.
You do have a point, with the reassurance thing. He really is usually very supportive. He very rarely gets mad, and we talk through any issue that comes up. He comforts me and is extremely loving. Its really just when it comes to her that its our worst argument. And i love that he is so caring, all he wants to do is not hurt her. He just doesnt seem to care that it also hurts me. He says he cares, that my feelings arent less important than hers. But thats not how it seems. We just had an argument. He agreed to make her meet me. I dont know if hes telling the truth tho. I think he might ask her again, maybe, but i dont think if push comes to shove he will force her, and i dont really Know if he would pick me over her at all. He asked if he should just stop talking to her, and of course i said no, that i just want to meet her. But i think if i said it was me or her, he wouldnt pick me.
Well it won't work out because he is against marriage…and you don't want to go through life feeling like you missed out on something very special if you stay with him.
I think this started out sounding legit and ended sounded trollish.
People are not all bad
The mind paints things better and better through time.
You need to go through the stages of grief
I can understand we’re both of you were coming from
A few things you can do is have him wear something so it prevents it, not do it at all, or use the mixture and take your mouth off and try to tim things for yourself. Guys definitely love what he’s asking, but at the same time if he wants it from you, he Hass to be careful of that too.
I hate saying this, and maybe I get yelled at for it, sometimes, when we are in that moment, if it sounds heavenly, we just ride with it. It could be a specific position it could be from oral sex. It could be a bunch of different things. We just get an a one track mind as it gets closer . This is not all the time this is not the standard and it’s something that shouldn’t happen especially if that’s your boundary. He should be respectful enough to ask at that moment I’m getting close can I please
If you cannot trust your husband to respect your bodily boundaries and your anxiety, than your whole relationship needs to be reevaluated!! Your lying may be an issue but I’m more worried about your safety! And just to be crystal clear, if you’ve told him no sex without a condom and he wears you down and coerces you into sex you don’t want, that’s assault & rape.
I can lend you a bin to throw him in.
I’d cut contact (being in contact with an ex while trying to find someone new probably doesn’t help with getting over said ex) and NOT do the casual thing. You say you’re still in love with him, so you’d just end up getting hurt when he goes somewhere else.
As in the person you replied to saying you don't care about your opinion. Open relationships are an excuse to cheat you.whalemonger
You do have a point, with the reassurance thing. He really is usually very supportive. He very rarely gets mad, and we talk through any issue that comes up. He comforts me and is extremely loving. Its really just when it comes to her that its our worst argument. And i love that he is so caring, all he wants to do is not hurt her. He just doesnt seem to care that it also hurts me. He says he cares, that my feelings arent less important than hers. But thats not how it seems. We just had an argument. He agreed to make her meet me. I dont know if hes telling the truth tho. I think he might ask her again, maybe, but i dont think if push comes to shove he will force her, and i dont really Know if he would pick me over her at all. He asked if he should just stop talking to her, and of course i said no, that i just want to meet her. But i think if i said it was me or her, he wouldnt pick me.
Well it won't work out because he is against marriage…and you don't want to go through life feeling like you missed out on something very special if you stay with him.
such a great book!