You obviously aren’t on the same page with money. If she wants someone to support her while she pays off her debt tell her to move back in with her parents. When she’s in a relationship, you are right it’s a partnership and she doesn’t seem at all interested in contributing equally if at all. Sounds like she’s using you and is only interested when you can benefit her. I would get rid of her. The sooner the better.
Therapy is your best best. If not an option, insecure attachment is often from negative self assumptions and negative self talk learned from how others treated you in the past. If you’re very aware of how you think of yourself and talk to yourself in negative ways, then googling how to stop negative self talk, as that would be a useful first step. If you’re not very aware of how you think about and talk to yourself in negative ways googling how to increase emotional self awareness and working on that would then be the first step to try.
If my SO told me they actively took part in an affair with a married person, they'd be dumped faster than a blink of an eye.
The fact that your SO admitted this and got turned on by retelling this goes to show she doesn't care and still finds it hot. (even though it's disgusting).
The kids issue will become a major issue at some point, so you are probably better off ending it now and saving all parties future heartbreak.
You obviously aren’t on the same page with money. If she wants someone to support her while she pays off her debt tell her to move back in with her parents. When she’s in a relationship, you are right it’s a partnership and she doesn’t seem at all interested in contributing equally if at all. Sounds like she’s using you and is only interested when you can benefit her. I would get rid of her. The sooner the better.
Yes.
Therapy is your best best. If not an option, insecure attachment is often from negative self assumptions and negative self talk learned from how others treated you in the past. If you’re very aware of how you think of yourself and talk to yourself in negative ways, then googling how to stop negative self talk, as that would be a useful first step. If you’re not very aware of how you think about and talk to yourself in negative ways googling how to increase emotional self awareness and working on that would then be the first step to try.
Just read your history. This post is bullshit, folks.
Thank you for this
So talk to her about a fair split of house work
If my SO told me they actively took part in an affair with a married person, they'd be dumped faster than a blink of an eye.
The fact that your SO admitted this and got turned on by retelling this goes to show she doesn't care and still finds it hot. (even though it's disgusting).
If you stay with her, prepare to get cheated on.
Ew ew ew ewwwwww. He is a loser