Working things out only works out when there's a plan for working things out. Would you be willing to devote 3 weekends (including all of Saturday and all of Sunday) to your relationship?
Maybe one for him – devoted to all of the rehashing that he wants to do, with you going along with however he wants the two of you to process things.
And one for you, where any complaints about the past are off-limits, and you get to decide (with his input) what a good future weekend might include.
And then one for a couple's retreat – where you check out what's available together, and then go and follow the process that the organizes have developed to help bring couples together.
No, you don't. She doesn't owe you anything. You know it's over, she knows it's over, and you refusing to accept that is a you problem. If you keep making it a her problem, that's a really big problem.
You're just sad because you wanted to sleep with strippers on your bachelorette party and now you're too pregnant to do that. It has nothing to do with him.
coming home, all lights are off even when people are home opening door to my room, all lights off walking from kitchen to room, all lights off except in kitchen
I'm accustomed to living with sunlight and light in general.
I don’t understand
Shouldn't have to explain so many small concepts to adults, and yes I know people are different and from many different backgrounds, but I figured these two would be equally groom.
OP u don't want advice u want validation to stay in an emotionally abusive relationship with someone that likes playing on ur feelings and manipulating u.
Good luck to you sir! Feeling drained from a relationship isn't a good trait. And putting it under oooeee so u knw if u care then ud deal with it.. bullshit.
If she cared she wldnt be behaving like this and if u had any self respect for urself u would know that.
Just do urself a favor and don't procreate with this woman. Get some condoms please! We don't need the both of you bringing kids into the world that think this shit is normal! Either they will be doormats like the dad to a abusive controlling mom or be just like the mom!
If my partner thought I was cheating, my reaction would be complete transparency. “Here's my phone. You want my Facebook password? Wanna check my emails?”
In her place if there weren't any deleted texts I'd be on the phone with Apple proving that shit because I'd be soo offended at the accusation.
The fact that she's shutting down the ability to see what she's doing strongly suggests she's cheating.
Tell her welcome to aging. Being active is good whether you received a comment or not but know from experience women age worse then men. Don’t get upset but laugh at her hypocrisy and immaturity. She will sag no matter what she does and wrinkle faster regardless of skin care. And child bearing will do it’s damage. I hope you don’t stoop to her level of absurdity.
How could you forgive her when she still hasn't even admitted to what you know she did? Honestly, you don't know what else she is hiding.
Regardless of the sex, don't be with someone you don't respect as a person?
Even if it was just the sex, sure go for it and break up with him. You should just find a person compatible with you.
Working things out only works out when there's a plan for working things out. Would you be willing to devote 3 weekends (including all of Saturday and all of Sunday) to your relationship?
Maybe one for him – devoted to all of the rehashing that he wants to do, with you going along with however he wants the two of you to process things.
And one for you, where any complaints about the past are off-limits, and you get to decide (with his input) what a good future weekend might include.
And then one for a couple's retreat – where you check out what's available together, and then go and follow the process that the organizes have developed to help bring couples together.
No, you don't. She doesn't owe you anything. You know it's over, she knows it's over, and you refusing to accept that is a you problem. If you keep making it a her problem, that's a really big problem.
You're just sad because you wanted to sleep with strippers on your bachelorette party and now you're too pregnant to do that. It has nothing to do with him.
And the lights?
This:
coming home, all lights are off even when people are home opening door to my room, all lights off walking from kitchen to room, all lights off except in kitchen
I'm accustomed to living with sunlight and light in general.
I don’t understand
Shouldn't have to explain so many small concepts to adults, and yes I know people are different and from many different backgrounds, but I figured these two would be equally groom.
OP u don't want advice u want validation to stay in an emotionally abusive relationship with someone that likes playing on ur feelings and manipulating u.
Good luck to you sir! Feeling drained from a relationship isn't a good trait. And putting it under oooeee so u knw if u care then ud deal with it.. bullshit.
If she cared she wldnt be behaving like this and if u had any self respect for urself u would know that.
Just do urself a favor and don't procreate with this woman. Get some condoms please! We don't need the both of you bringing kids into the world that think this shit is normal! Either they will be doormats like the dad to a abusive controlling mom or be just like the mom!
But I dont want any women who like bigger dicks. Its my rule,its my preference. Im not forcing people into it, instesd I m asking it beforehand.
Well let me do a test again, I will buy a tight fleshlight and use it on bed with her, and let's see her reactions.
Don't get me wrong, always go the counseling route first, but be prepared with at least a divorce consultation.
If my partner thought I was cheating, my reaction would be complete transparency. “Here's my phone. You want my Facebook password? Wanna check my emails?”
In her place if there weren't any deleted texts I'd be on the phone with Apple proving that shit because I'd be soo offended at the accusation.
The fact that she's shutting down the ability to see what she's doing strongly suggests she's cheating.
Tell her welcome to aging. Being active is good whether you received a comment or not but know from experience women age worse then men. Don’t get upset but laugh at her hypocrisy and immaturity. She will sag no matter what she does and wrinkle faster regardless of skin care. And child bearing will do it’s damage. I hope you don’t stoop to her level of absurdity.
She wants quality, not quantity (in this case the length of time she was friends with them.)
I think OC was referring to romantic attraction. Not physical. That's also what I meant.