You literally just don’t fuck her. It’s actually, honestly that simple. And you’re probably going to reply “but I feel this about her”, “but I can’t control that when she’s around”, “but it’s not that simple”.
This is terrible advice. If the mother passes away you want her to leave her with a broken perception of the only family she has left? This is not in the best interest of the daughter. The husband may hate the wife but OP has made it clear he loves the daughter. I pray you never have children.
It sounds as if you were far more invested than he was which is exactly what he said. I think he’s not being truthful about wanting to get back together in the fall. Relationships don’t work like that. When two people are invested, they work together on issues. He’s never done that. Going forward, I would suggest therapy for you to learn what healthy relationships look like. I’m guessing you weren’t exposed to that growing up. It can be really helpful. I’m sorry that you’re hurting. I do want to add that the stupid stuff, wasn’t stupid. It matters that someone is on time, planning dates should happen and communication is vital.
I'm glad you're not so repressed that you're able to admit to yourself that you're unhappy and want something else. As you said, you have unmet sexual feelings and that's not something that you can just ignore: they build up and if not properly adressed, might really get you in trouble one way or the other. I don't share your faith, so I might came off brazen (my bad), but honestly? You're an adult, man. There're all types of contraception and you can totally go clubbing, have an active sex life, and eventually meet someone you want to settle with, marry, have children, etc. They are NOT mutually exclusive. Your inner circle sounds quite restrictive, if not openly toxic.
You're young and have a free will. Do what makes you happy. If I were you, I'd look for a way to cut the umbilical cord and move away from home and get some new experiences to broaden my horizons. Good luck!
Woooooweee. Your reservations are spot on, I'd stay away from this ticking time bomb.
Now, I'm sure there are people that do perfectly well with non-monogamy, but in all reality, they are few and far between and I have yet to see a couple go from exclusivity to sleeping with other people and it not blowing up in their faces. I would strongly suggest not being caught in the crossfire, especially if you value your friendship.
I really apologize but that is hilarious.
You literally just don’t fuck her. It’s actually, honestly that simple. And you’re probably going to reply “but I feel this about her”, “but I can’t control that when she’s around”, “but it’s not that simple”.
Yes. It is that simple.
This is terrible advice. If the mother passes away you want her to leave her with a broken perception of the only family she has left? This is not in the best interest of the daughter. The husband may hate the wife but OP has made it clear he loves the daughter. I pray you never have children.
I trust him I had to make the plan for my family to allow me to act on the trust
Are you sure the two of you are compatible?
I did. “We share our location for several issues”. What does that mean?
FYI I don't know where my supervisor lives and haven't ever needed to. If I did know, I wouldn't be calling around all the time it's a Sus.
It sounds as if you were far more invested than he was which is exactly what he said. I think he’s not being truthful about wanting to get back together in the fall. Relationships don’t work like that. When two people are invested, they work together on issues. He’s never done that. Going forward, I would suggest therapy for you to learn what healthy relationships look like. I’m guessing you weren’t exposed to that growing up. It can be really helpful. I’m sorry that you’re hurting. I do want to add that the stupid stuff, wasn’t stupid. It matters that someone is on time, planning dates should happen and communication is vital.
I'm glad you're not so repressed that you're able to admit to yourself that you're unhappy and want something else. As you said, you have unmet sexual feelings and that's not something that you can just ignore: they build up and if not properly adressed, might really get you in trouble one way or the other. I don't share your faith, so I might came off brazen (my bad), but honestly? You're an adult, man. There're all types of contraception and you can totally go clubbing, have an active sex life, and eventually meet someone you want to settle with, marry, have children, etc. They are NOT mutually exclusive. Your inner circle sounds quite restrictive, if not openly toxic.
You're young and have a free will. Do what makes you happy. If I were you, I'd look for a way to cut the umbilical cord and move away from home and get some new experiences to broaden my horizons. Good luck!
Woooooweee. Your reservations are spot on, I'd stay away from this ticking time bomb.
Now, I'm sure there are people that do perfectly well with non-monogamy, but in all reality, they are few and far between and I have yet to see a couple go from exclusivity to sleeping with other people and it not blowing up in their faces. I would strongly suggest not being caught in the crossfire, especially if you value your friendship.
You’re getting bad advice OP.
Agree to the marriage. Get funds. Delay the marriage. Repeat until you finish school.