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Why isn‘t he blocked? Your boundaries need to be rock solid with this guy. Don‘t engage with him, this would just add fuel to the fire. No contact, involve the police if needed, and be extra careful! You are not overreacting, you are trying to live a peaceful life without toxic people. Types like him will always try to find a new reason to force their way back into your life. Don‘t let him! Wishing you all the best!
Is there a reason she stopped taking the meds? I'm not very informed on them as I don't take them but I had an ex that did and regularly started and stopped them before they reached their full effects because of the side effects though she definitely needs to be on them because of her mental illnesses. It sounds similar but more long lasting? She had a similar experience too but for her it was when she would start taking them and it wasn't limited to her genitals. It was full body for her. Just full body numbness.
From my experience, if she stopped taking them willingly but should be on them for one reason or another the PSSD won't be the last issues you two have. My ex self sabotaged the relationship and the leading cause was her mental illnesses making her unstable emotionally and would become very impulsive at times.
You offered a break for a few months?? This isn't something she just 'gets out of her system'. She wants to be nonmonogamous (OR worse she is just bored and wants some casual sex), you want to be monogamous. The relationship has been monogamous the whole time, you both have a duty to maintain that because that's what this relationship has been based on. If she can't continue being monogamous then she has already broken her promise to you. What exactly were her marriage vows? She clearly isn't interested in what makes you happy or yma future with you.
How to navigate? Her shitty comment about you being “close minded” shows that she is willing to get what she wants and manipulate you. She got you to move to another country where you are now stuck relying on her, and now she just wants to fuck other guys by manipulating you into giving her permission. You navigate right back to your country without her.
All abusers are very loving in the beginning. They shower you with affection and gifts to lower your defenses and make you relax. Then they make you marry them or get you with child and that’s when the trap snaps and their whole demeanor changes. That’s the strategy. Don’t be fooled.
Everyone in this thread is trying to just talk you into it, which is honestly pretty gross to me even as a pro-choice person because we don't know you. I'm gonna go with option b and suggest talking to him and a therapist about it (if you can). Weigh your options, communicate, and for god's sake besides that don't take this website's advice on anything.
Discuss it with him, if you feel like his desire and commitment opens you up to the idea then go with it. It sounds like he cares and wants to support you either way.
Look at it this way OP, the absolute best case scenario here is that your husband got so fucked up at a birthday party that he thought your sister was you. Is that the kind of father you want for your child?
Just say yes, in simplified English. Say it as a joke but say it every time he corrects you and he'll get the message soon enough, or he'll lose his shit and you don't want to be dealing with a childish man
I think I could just focused on what that meant for him. The stigmas around it and how dificult was for him to tell me. What we could do from now on. But instead I Just wanted to see his exams and I was very invasive.
He can chill in your room while you're out of the house – cats are good at that. You could also consider installing a kitty hole in the drywall which can be framed in scrap wood and finished to match the trim to make it look good and be patched pretty easily when you and the kitty move out. Unfortunately, locking your mother out or taking everything she could snoop in with you when you leave sound like they're your only options at the moment.
Why isn‘t he blocked? Your boundaries need to be rock solid with this guy. Don‘t engage with him, this would just add fuel to the fire. No contact, involve the police if needed, and be extra careful! You are not overreacting, you are trying to live a peaceful life without toxic people. Types like him will always try to find a new reason to force their way back into your life. Don‘t let him! Wishing you all the best!
Is there a reason she stopped taking the meds? I'm not very informed on them as I don't take them but I had an ex that did and regularly started and stopped them before they reached their full effects because of the side effects though she definitely needs to be on them because of her mental illnesses. It sounds similar but more long lasting? She had a similar experience too but for her it was when she would start taking them and it wasn't limited to her genitals. It was full body for her. Just full body numbness.
From my experience, if she stopped taking them willingly but should be on them for one reason or another the PSSD won't be the last issues you two have. My ex self sabotaged the relationship and the leading cause was her mental illnesses making her unstable emotionally and would become very impulsive at times.
You offered a break for a few months?? This isn't something she just 'gets out of her system'. She wants to be nonmonogamous (OR worse she is just bored and wants some casual sex), you want to be monogamous. The relationship has been monogamous the whole time, you both have a duty to maintain that because that's what this relationship has been based on. If she can't continue being monogamous then she has already broken her promise to you. What exactly were her marriage vows? She clearly isn't interested in what makes you happy or yma future with you.
How to navigate? Her shitty comment about you being “close minded” shows that she is willing to get what she wants and manipulate you. She got you to move to another country where you are now stuck relying on her, and now she just wants to fuck other guys by manipulating you into giving her permission. You navigate right back to your country without her.
I appreciate you sharing your story with us.. and I thought you gave some great advice. Allowing someone to know these scars exist is the first step.
All abusers are very loving in the beginning. They shower you with affection and gifts to lower your defenses and make you relax. Then they make you marry them or get you with child and that’s when the trap snaps and their whole demeanor changes. That’s the strategy. Don’t be fooled.
Everyone in this thread is trying to just talk you into it, which is honestly pretty gross to me even as a pro-choice person because we don't know you. I'm gonna go with option b and suggest talking to him and a therapist about it (if you can). Weigh your options, communicate, and for god's sake besides that don't take this website's advice on anything.
Discuss it with him, if you feel like his desire and commitment opens you up to the idea then go with it. It sounds like he cares and wants to support you either way.
Look at it this way OP, the absolute best case scenario here is that your husband got so fucked up at a birthday party that he thought your sister was you. Is that the kind of father you want for your child?
Just say yes, in simplified English. Say it as a joke but say it every time he corrects you and he'll get the message soon enough, or he'll lose his shit and you don't want to be dealing with a childish man
I think I could just focused on what that meant for him. The stigmas around it and how dificult was for him to tell me. What we could do from now on. But instead I Just wanted to see his exams and I was very invasive.
What about the other hundred people saying it? Does that lend some credence? You asked for advice and got it. Don't suck a lemon about it
He can chill in your room while you're out of the house – cats are good at that. You could also consider installing a kitty hole in the drywall which can be framed in scrap wood and finished to match the trim to make it look good and be patched pretty easily when you and the kitty move out. Unfortunately, locking your mother out or taking everything she could snoop in with you when you leave sound like they're your only options at the moment.