cuz i mean if there isnt any chance then why even bother but im scared i dont wanna get burned ya know but im also very tired.
im f and i would say really pretty. have a lot going on in terms of career. i dont have time for this but i miss him i care. i would hate being burned yet again
Jesus. OP, you do not deserve this. She's been incredibly shitty toward you. She very obviously does have mental health issues, but that IS NOT an excuse whatsoever for how shitty she has been.
Honestly, if this can't be worked through soon, such as you telling her that you're done if she doesn't get help, then I'd really recommend looking for a divorce. You'd definitely be much happier, and that might be something that would force her to get up and seek help to be a decent coparent and better her mental health.
Look at OP's comment why she initiated a break. This guy abandoned her in a German hospital (he speaks German/she doesn't) during a vacation, and he didn't stand up to her when his friend's wife (whom they traveled with) insulted her badly.
Well, here’s the thing—Quite contrarily, it’s the exact opposite of what you’re saying it might be. It’s not that I don’t want to be objectified. And it’s not that I’m not doing something that he wants me to do. It’s the fact that I do exactly what he wants, the exactly the way I’ve learned he likes, exerting effort and being selfless in bed—and that’s why it’s so gross and annoying. I don’t get the same energy back at all.
Maybe TMI, but the last time I initiated sex with my partner, I woke him up by giving him head because that was something he’s always said he wanted, and he thought it would be ”soOoOo hot” to be the recipient of. So I did it, then we had sex. He loved it, talked about it for the next two days.
But what do I get in return? “I’ll give you my hotdog.” All I can think is, are you kidding me? I don’t think that’d work on any girl.
cuz i mean if there isnt any chance then why even bother but im scared i dont wanna get burned ya know but im also very tired.
im f and i would say really pretty. have a lot going on in terms of career. i dont have time for this but i miss him i care. i would hate being burned yet again
He never had sex with her. So I should just let it go
Generally speaking it's just a whole lot easier to not sleep with people in relationships, then you don't have to deal with the issue at all
To attempt to “fix” a marriage, that has to be the goal of both parties. This may be your desire, but it's not his. I'm sorry, but it's too late.
Jesus. OP, you do not deserve this. She's been incredibly shitty toward you. She very obviously does have mental health issues, but that IS NOT an excuse whatsoever for how shitty she has been.
Honestly, if this can't be worked through soon, such as you telling her that you're done if she doesn't get help, then I'd really recommend looking for a divorce. You'd definitely be much happier, and that might be something that would force her to get up and seek help to be a decent coparent and better her mental health.
Look at OP's comment why she initiated a break. This guy abandoned her in a German hospital (he speaks German/she doesn't) during a vacation, and he didn't stand up to her when his friend's wife (whom they traveled with) insulted her badly.
Well, here’s the thing—Quite contrarily, it’s the exact opposite of what you’re saying it might be. It’s not that I don’t want to be objectified. And it’s not that I’m not doing something that he wants me to do. It’s the fact that I do exactly what he wants, the exactly the way I’ve learned he likes, exerting effort and being selfless in bed—and that’s why it’s so gross and annoying. I don’t get the same energy back at all.
Maybe TMI, but the last time I initiated sex with my partner, I woke him up by giving him head because that was something he’s always said he wanted, and he thought it would be ”soOoOo hot” to be the recipient of. So I did it, then we had sex. He loved it, talked about it for the next two days.
But what do I get in return? “I’ll give you my hotdog.” All I can think is, are you kidding me? I don’t think that’d work on any girl.