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Yikes. PTSD and trauma responses come to mind. I’m anxious af and on-line in a city like this…BUT if I was ever that close I would need to revisit my therapist, which I HATE to do. But that’s what I feel she needs and is her responses. Good on you for wanting to help her. ?
This is a great idea! The tricky part is doing it in a way that does not arouse suspicion or does not give one the time to alert the other so they get their stories straight.
Hey girl, I went through the same thing with my ex. This is clearly affecting you and the fact that he doesn’t stop is clearly messed up. Sure, all guys look at ? but when he keeps saving pics of girls to his camera roll, etc, that’s on another level. Because he legit has a hot gf so why would he be doing that?? It fuels more insecurity. I’m so sorry girly. Trust me it’s all on him. Maybe he has a ? addiction. Man, I remember my heart dropped when I went to his profile and he posted pictures of random half hard girls on his actual wall……
I (44F) was also never 100% sure that I didn't want kids, but what I do know is that it simply never, ever felt like the right time to turn to my (now ex) husband and say “let's do this thing.” We were together for decades, since we were teenagers, and I have realized since we split that I never quite saw him as an adult.
He would sometimes talk about wanting kids, often with similar ambivalence as I felt, but I always was left with the impression that he never really understood what having kids would actually entail, and how much our lives would change.
The physical act of carrying a child is so significant and demanding that I would sometimes find myself getting annoyed at him for being fairly blase about the idea that we would just one day suddenly decide to have children together. It felt like it was an easy decision for him to make, because it wasn't his body, and because the burden is often on the mom to be more physically present for a new baby
He never really talked to me seriously about what the decision would entail. Like you guys, we would often muse about names and things like that, but anytime that it really came down to “do I want this enough to start trying now?” the answer was always no
In short, I think the child question was more revealing than I was aware of it being. We had stagnated in our relationship. We still cared about each other, we got along well, it was very scary to think about ending such a long relationship, but we also couldn't really envision things realistically moving forward. We were just in this holding pattern
By the time we split, we had turned 40, and I have had to accept the fact that I'm not going to give birth to a child. But I'm not heartbroken. One thing I know for certain is that if I had truly wanted to have a child, I would have. It wouldn't have involved all that wondering, and questioning, and musing, and whatever. I would have just done it. And I take a lot of comfort in the fact that I at least know that. Could I have been happy being a biological parent? Maybe. But I also know with certainty that I didn't want it enough to make sure that it happened
You say that your wife never thought she would want to travel internationally, but ended up liking it. The thing is, a trip will end at some point. Even if she absolutely hated it, she at least knew it would be over in some predetermined amount of time. The same isn't true for children. There's a permanence that makes it a much different kind of risk
My guess is that this is a pretty difficult and confusing subject for your wife, like it was for me. The best warning I can perhaps give you is that my husband's ease with the subject did nothing more than rub me the wrong way. It felt like an easy decision for him to make, and one that I would end up carrying the brunt of. That made me resent him
If this is potentially a dynamic that also exists between you and your wife, I would recommend that you be gentle with her. It may be that this relationship is going to end, but whether it does or not, you don't want to have alienated her with romantic visions that don't take into consideration the potential risk and challenge that she would face to make those visions of yours come true
OP – what would you do in his shoes? What if his parents attacked you? What if they told you that yoo were horrible and unworthy of basic respect and dignity just because where you were born? And then pushed you in the street or pulled your hair? Would you feel inclined to shower then with praise?
Get real. Sorry you’re in a tough spot cause your parents were awful, and you love them, but you get to choose if your culture is one of kindness or hatefulness. Your man is being completely reasonable.
I hate to tell you this, but you do not confirm pregnancies until 12 weeks and a dr appointment (if she was pregnant in Dec, should have happened by now). If she had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, it may also require surgery (called DNC) to remove the fetus so it doesn’t endanger her life.
Whatever that woman is trying to tell you- she was almost certainly not pregnant. Receipts, receipts, receipts or move on with your life.
And the ex is moving on with hers- gotta respect that and let her be.
Yikes. PTSD and trauma responses come to mind. I’m anxious af and on-line in a city like this…BUT if I was ever that close I would need to revisit my therapist, which I HATE to do. But that’s what I feel she needs and is her responses. Good on you for wanting to help her. ?
This is a great idea! The tricky part is doing it in a way that does not arouse suspicion or does not give one the time to alert the other so they get their stories straight.
Thank you. Thank you to you both for taking the time to give your condolences. Hope y’all have a great weekend and many blessings ?❤️?
Why would you delete your entire post in your edit? That’s very annoying
Hey girl, I went through the same thing with my ex. This is clearly affecting you and the fact that he doesn’t stop is clearly messed up. Sure, all guys look at ? but when he keeps saving pics of girls to his camera roll, etc, that’s on another level. Because he legit has a hot gf so why would he be doing that?? It fuels more insecurity. I’m so sorry girly. Trust me it’s all on him. Maybe he has a ? addiction. Man, I remember my heart dropped when I went to his profile and he posted pictures of random half hard girls on his actual wall……
Can smell the friend zone…
I (44F) was also never 100% sure that I didn't want kids, but what I do know is that it simply never, ever felt like the right time to turn to my (now ex) husband and say “let's do this thing.” We were together for decades, since we were teenagers, and I have realized since we split that I never quite saw him as an adult.
He would sometimes talk about wanting kids, often with similar ambivalence as I felt, but I always was left with the impression that he never really understood what having kids would actually entail, and how much our lives would change.
The physical act of carrying a child is so significant and demanding that I would sometimes find myself getting annoyed at him for being fairly blase about the idea that we would just one day suddenly decide to have children together. It felt like it was an easy decision for him to make, because it wasn't his body, and because the burden is often on the mom to be more physically present for a new baby
He never really talked to me seriously about what the decision would entail. Like you guys, we would often muse about names and things like that, but anytime that it really came down to “do I want this enough to start trying now?” the answer was always no
In short, I think the child question was more revealing than I was aware of it being. We had stagnated in our relationship. We still cared about each other, we got along well, it was very scary to think about ending such a long relationship, but we also couldn't really envision things realistically moving forward. We were just in this holding pattern
By the time we split, we had turned 40, and I have had to accept the fact that I'm not going to give birth to a child. But I'm not heartbroken. One thing I know for certain is that if I had truly wanted to have a child, I would have. It wouldn't have involved all that wondering, and questioning, and musing, and whatever. I would have just done it. And I take a lot of comfort in the fact that I at least know that. Could I have been happy being a biological parent? Maybe. But I also know with certainty that I didn't want it enough to make sure that it happened
You say that your wife never thought she would want to travel internationally, but ended up liking it. The thing is, a trip will end at some point. Even if she absolutely hated it, she at least knew it would be over in some predetermined amount of time. The same isn't true for children. There's a permanence that makes it a much different kind of risk
My guess is that this is a pretty difficult and confusing subject for your wife, like it was for me. The best warning I can perhaps give you is that my husband's ease with the subject did nothing more than rub me the wrong way. It felt like an easy decision for him to make, and one that I would end up carrying the brunt of. That made me resent him
If this is potentially a dynamic that also exists between you and your wife, I would recommend that you be gentle with her. It may be that this relationship is going to end, but whether it does or not, you don't want to have alienated her with romantic visions that don't take into consideration the potential risk and challenge that she would face to make those visions of yours come true
OP – what would you do in his shoes? What if his parents attacked you? What if they told you that yoo were horrible and unworthy of basic respect and dignity just because where you were born? And then pushed you in the street or pulled your hair? Would you feel inclined to shower then with praise?
Get real. Sorry you’re in a tough spot cause your parents were awful, and you love them, but you get to choose if your culture is one of kindness or hatefulness. Your man is being completely reasonable.
She raped you and possibly made up the pregnancy. But she definitely 100% raped you. I'm sorry you're going through this.
I hate to tell you this, but you do not confirm pregnancies until 12 weeks and a dr appointment (if she was pregnant in Dec, should have happened by now). If she had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, it may also require surgery (called DNC) to remove the fetus so it doesn’t endanger her life.
Whatever that woman is trying to tell you- she was almost certainly not pregnant. Receipts, receipts, receipts or move on with your life.
And the ex is moving on with hers- gotta respect that and let her be.
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