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Your personal way of living can be considered jail by other people standards. My partner can't make me sad, can't disappoint me either so my way of living is good for me
You are incompatible, simple as that. You need more than she is willing to provide. She on her side is unwilling to properly commit and treat your needs seriously. Break up is the only solution and do it asap
Heres a scenario, someone in a relationships goes out drinking and partying, eventually getting very drunk. One thing leads to another and they get behind a wheel of a car, boat, on a bike and cause an accident – do we hold them accountable? Absolutely.
People and especially adults cannot excuse their own behavior due to being intoxicated.
Then you give him space, that's love. You wanting to comfort him is wanting to make everything okay with you when it's not. That's you wanting to absolve your guilt. That's not love, that's self interest. He needs space. He needs to be respected and heard by you. He needs to also communicate. Did you know they were racist? He should have told you that if not, but everything else here is on you and a savior complex you need to work out in therapy.
Walking outside of the path is supposed to be protective in terms of “if a car loses control and veers onto the sidewalk, let it hit me and not my girlfriend”. Not because people are looking at your ass.
You’ve already told your boyfriend that you want to feel like a priority and that you want your time respected. He wouldn’t even do any of your very easy and basic suggestions to make you feel better.
He doesn’t like you that much. You shouldn’t hang around. Not good for your dignity.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner that doesn't get high. It's still a preference, not a red flag. If the person gets high and does bad stuff BECAUSE they're high (“when my boyfriend gets high he gets mean and yells at me” or “when my girlfriend gets high she sexts other people”) that would be a red flag.
Have you actually, I dunno, talked with Kay about it? Forget the cameras. Talk with her about it. Right now your imagination is coming up with these scenarios. Talk with her and find out for certain.
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Yes, leave your girlfriend so she can find someone MUCH better.
Major red flag! Run girl.
Does her wrong justify his? What if she just never wanted a child and he got her pregnant against her will
Your personal way of living can be considered jail by other people standards. My partner can't make me sad, can't disappoint me either so my way of living is good for me
You are incompatible, simple as that. You need more than she is willing to provide. She on her side is unwilling to properly commit and treat your needs seriously. Break up is the only solution and do it asap
Would have been nice is she discussed before just announcing this. Maybe get a church calendar she can fill out in advance of no sex times.
It is her body but changing a sex dynamic like that should be brought up before you start being intimate so that expectations could be set.
Heres a scenario, someone in a relationships goes out drinking and partying, eventually getting very drunk. One thing leads to another and they get behind a wheel of a car, boat, on a bike and cause an accident – do we hold them accountable? Absolutely.
People and especially adults cannot excuse their own behavior due to being intoxicated.
Then you give him space, that's love. You wanting to comfort him is wanting to make everything okay with you when it's not. That's you wanting to absolve your guilt. That's not love, that's self interest. He needs space. He needs to be respected and heard by you. He needs to also communicate. Did you know they were racist? He should have told you that if not, but everything else here is on you and a savior complex you need to work out in therapy.
Walking outside of the path is supposed to be protective in terms of “if a car loses control and veers onto the sidewalk, let it hit me and not my girlfriend”. Not because people are looking at your ass.
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You’ve already told your boyfriend that you want to feel like a priority and that you want your time respected. He wouldn’t even do any of your very easy and basic suggestions to make you feel better.
He doesn’t like you that much. You shouldn’t hang around. Not good for your dignity.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner that doesn't get high. It's still a preference, not a red flag. If the person gets high and does bad stuff BECAUSE they're high (“when my boyfriend gets high he gets mean and yells at me” or “when my girlfriend gets high she sexts other people”) that would be a red flag.
Dude were you born yesterday? She has a hookup app hidden on her phone and got cagey and defensive when you caught her with it.
Even if she hasn’t cheated yet she’s clearly thinking about it and window shopping whenever you get on her nerves.
Have you actually, I dunno, talked with Kay about it? Forget the cameras. Talk with her about it. Right now your imagination is coming up with these scenarios. Talk with her and find out for certain.