It's possible that he is busy or preoccupied with other things and is unable to answer your calls or respond to your texts at the moment. It's also possible that he is upset with you for missing his calls or for not being available when he tried to call you back.
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Yes and honestly that’s the biggest reason that the situation with the friend is a red flag. Him being uncomfortable with her best friend also being a fuck buddy at one point is normal and is not gonna be something a lot of people would want. Fine. But then throw the fact that she lied about it on top and it’s wayyyyy worse. Like she knows it’s inappropriate in some way.
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He wants to cheat, that's why he's on a dating app. “I was just looking for friends” blah blah blah is the most common lie cheaters give when they get caught trying to cheat. If he spent 5 seconds on that app he would realize it's for people looking to date and have sex, not social media.
Before our baby was born, he would always 'talk' situations out. He would never yell or anything like that. It always amazed me because I grew up in a household where my parents screamed at each other all the time (so did he) we both have been committed to stopping the cycle. He was so sweet and gentle with me, and when he got mad, he was always mature about it. I thought he would love being a dad. He is technically a 'good' dad. He changes her diapers and plays with her. She's a total daddy's girl. But he claims he hates the everyday life of being a dad and all the responsibilities it comes with. He also said, 'You're all I needed to be happy', but it's not just us anymore. I think he has a lot of jealousy towards our child.
I agree she's an idiot. But having that much debt, presumably from education, doesn't mean she's an idiot on that front. The 300k she has in savings is probably accruing interest at a higher rate than the interest on her debt, meaning that she makes more money having 300k in savings, than if she paid up her debt and was left with only 100k.
Let's not throw “grooming” around willy nilly. He's 19, so not a child. Sure, he's immature compared to her, but she's not saying marriage or relationship, she's clear it's a FWB. He can bail whenever, if he finds it awkward.
Handling firearms while upset IS worrying behavior. Potential indication of either homicidal or suicidal intent.
At first I thought it was just that he had guns and I was like “what’s the BFD?”
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Yes and honestly that’s the biggest reason that the situation with the friend is a red flag. Him being uncomfortable with her best friend also being a fuck buddy at one point is normal and is not gonna be something a lot of people would want. Fine. But then throw the fact that she lied about it on top and it’s wayyyyy worse. Like she knows it’s inappropriate in some way.
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He wants to cheat, that's why he's on a dating app. “I was just looking for friends” blah blah blah is the most common lie cheaters give when they get caught trying to cheat. If he spent 5 seconds on that app he would realize it's for people looking to date and have sex, not social media.
Yes, putting kids in the middle is a horrible idea.
Before our baby was born, he would always 'talk' situations out. He would never yell or anything like that. It always amazed me because I grew up in a household where my parents screamed at each other all the time (so did he) we both have been committed to stopping the cycle. He was so sweet and gentle with me, and when he got mad, he was always mature about it. I thought he would love being a dad. He is technically a 'good' dad. He changes her diapers and plays with her. She's a total daddy's girl. But he claims he hates the everyday life of being a dad and all the responsibilities it comes with. He also said, 'You're all I needed to be happy', but it's not just us anymore. I think he has a lot of jealousy towards our child.
He's a decent guy in general
You just described everyway why he is not decent.
They could also post them live. And once a picture is on the internet it’s there forever.
I agree she's an idiot. But having that much debt, presumably from education, doesn't mean she's an idiot on that front. The 300k she has in savings is probably accruing interest at a higher rate than the interest on her debt, meaning that she makes more money having 300k in savings, than if she paid up her debt and was left with only 100k.
Let's not throw “grooming” around willy nilly. He's 19, so not a child. Sure, he's immature compared to her, but she's not saying marriage or relationship, she's clear it's a FWB. He can bail whenever, if he finds it awkward.
I need more info OP, there are details missing here for sure. There have to be. What led up to this?