Hi, as someone who went thru EXACTLY the same thing-a perfect man with consistent love-it took me a while to find Borderline personality symptoms here. Yours sounds(not diagnosing) like a quiet bpd. To put it simply-they idolize, then them split(blame you, can be internal), then discard you. Read on it. But remember-it is really and fully not you. It is mental illness.
Your comment reminds me of the movie “Babette’s Feast”, which is a gorgeous film about a gifted cook/chef who wins a lottery and uses the entire amount to throw a feast for her employers and some people from their church. They’re shocked and dismayed at the extravagance of the meal due to their puritanical beliefs, they feel it is sinful, but out of love for Babette and knowing how important her cooking this meal for them is to her, they graciously go along. There are no losers in this story, its just wonderful.
You need some self-esteem more than her. Dead bedroom for 8 months and she cheats. She is worthless, bro. I doubt you even actually went after her over the deadbedroom she probably just sees you as a backup plan at this point because you aren't assertive and self co fident enough to demand any real respect.
I get that people don't care situations but if he was lied to and didn't know her age that would be the one I can see. The problem is that you can't magically make other people be honest. Like if someone using a dating site saying their 25 its not normal for anyone to stop them and say hey I need your license and birth certificate before we move forward. That doesn't happen. Now I will be the first to say that's not everyone's situation but my point is we need to know her side so we know if this is a shitty situation or if he's manipulative.
I can pass on the doggy and the bj even though I find selfish to want me to eat her out without her willing to even touch my dick for some reason, let alone suck it. And it’s not just that. She is just really really passive in bed. I just want her more engaged and show me that she actually wants to have with me and not just getting pleasured.
It would be less than 30 dollars to get Minecraft on the MacBook. Not 500 – 600. Also you can get an Xbox for less than 300 easily. And she probably wouldn’t have to do much at all but be in. The game and follow around. Which it would be boring to do and not build anyways. But I doubt he’s asking for her to spend hours on the game. He wants to build a house and give her flowers. Which is why I don’t understand why it would be so much to do. Can’t you build a house in a hour in Minecraft? They don’t need to build the biggest house or an entire world. I just think if he’s been asking, and if it’s only 30 dollars that it would hurt to just try it out. If she absolutely hates it after then let him know. But I don’t think it’s going to hurt anyone to get the game. And if it was my boyfriend, I would ask him to pay for it if he wants me to play so much. I could probably build 10 houses in Minecraft before I finished those fricken Star Wars movies.
What's to stop him legally using any of them though? His word means nothing right now. He could use them how he likes, and if your wife signed that form, there's nothing stopping him using the most lewd one anywhere he likes. On his websites front page, anything. This guy has proved he's not your friend by doing this in the first place, so you can't rely on assuming your 'friendship' is enough to stop him being an asshole with the pics he has now
You could do a chore chart or something along those lines.
But I'd say he doesn't know how to handle people actually showing normal emotion. He needs therapy for his trauma. It won't magically get better.
You can try to talk to him as calmly as possible, or write stuff down, but there's really no excuse for being a lazy or inconsiderate partner. Communication needs to go both ways and solutions and compromises need to be made together.
So make the relationship casual again? I never thought about that.
Hi, as someone who went thru EXACTLY the same thing-a perfect man with consistent love-it took me a while to find Borderline personality symptoms here. Yours sounds(not diagnosing) like a quiet bpd. To put it simply-they idolize, then them split(blame you, can be internal), then discard you. Read on it. But remember-it is really and fully not you. It is mental illness.
Your comment reminds me of the movie “Babette’s Feast”, which is a gorgeous film about a gifted cook/chef who wins a lottery and uses the entire amount to throw a feast for her employers and some people from their church. They’re shocked and dismayed at the extravagance of the meal due to their puritanical beliefs, they feel it is sinful, but out of love for Babette and knowing how important her cooking this meal for them is to her, they graciously go along. There are no losers in this story, its just wonderful.
She just seems to like you I would guess. If it’s too much then ask her to tone it down but she seems normal to me.
You need some self-esteem more than her. Dead bedroom for 8 months and she cheats. She is worthless, bro. I doubt you even actually went after her over the deadbedroom she probably just sees you as a backup plan at this point because you aren't assertive and self co fident enough to demand any real respect.
I get that people don't care situations but if he was lied to and didn't know her age that would be the one I can see. The problem is that you can't magically make other people be honest. Like if someone using a dating site saying their 25 its not normal for anyone to stop them and say hey I need your license and birth certificate before we move forward. That doesn't happen. Now I will be the first to say that's not everyone's situation but my point is we need to know her side so we know if this is a shitty situation or if he's manipulative.
This sounds fake as fuck but if it’s not you should definitely report the massage place.
I can pass on the doggy and the bj even though I find selfish to want me to eat her out without her willing to even touch my dick for some reason, let alone suck it. And it’s not just that. She is just really really passive in bed. I just want her more engaged and show me that she actually wants to have with me and not just getting pleasured.
It would be less than 30 dollars to get Minecraft on the MacBook. Not 500 – 600. Also you can get an Xbox for less than 300 easily. And she probably wouldn’t have to do much at all but be in. The game and follow around. Which it would be boring to do and not build anyways. But I doubt he’s asking for her to spend hours on the game. He wants to build a house and give her flowers. Which is why I don’t understand why it would be so much to do. Can’t you build a house in a hour in Minecraft? They don’t need to build the biggest house or an entire world. I just think if he’s been asking, and if it’s only 30 dollars that it would hurt to just try it out. If she absolutely hates it after then let him know. But I don’t think it’s going to hurt anyone to get the game. And if it was my boyfriend, I would ask him to pay for it if he wants me to play so much. I could probably build 10 houses in Minecraft before I finished those fricken Star Wars movies.
Get out and explore. Do activities
You need to be honest and not string her along. She’s 33, she wants kids, her best fertility years are already behind her.
What's to stop him legally using any of them though? His word means nothing right now. He could use them how he likes, and if your wife signed that form, there's nothing stopping him using the most lewd one anywhere he likes. On his websites front page, anything. This guy has proved he's not your friend by doing this in the first place, so you can't rely on assuming your 'friendship' is enough to stop him being an asshole with the pics he has now
Maybe she doesn't find you as attractive as she did the person she did it with. This is most likely the answer.
You could do a chore chart or something along those lines.
But I'd say he doesn't know how to handle people actually showing normal emotion. He needs therapy for his trauma. It won't magically get better.
You can try to talk to him as calmly as possible, or write stuff down, but there's really no excuse for being a lazy or inconsiderate partner. Communication needs to go both ways and solutions and compromises need to be made together.