Don't need to offer her “financial support”. You're only responsible for your child. Child support is a sexist construct against men. If he has to be a “good sport” and take “responsibility” then she should be a “good sport” and take “responsibility” for herself and half of her.
Be kind and respectful, since she is your friend (and you most likely want to remain friends???)
“B, i really treasure our friendship and have enjoyed spending more time with you lately. But as for our romantic relationship, I think we are lacking a certain chemistry, and it just doesn't feel right to me. I think we should just stay friends.”
Note that she will be hurt initially and may need some space from you for awhile to process. In time, hopefully, she will be comfortable resuming the friendship.
How on earth are you going with the rationale that you never agreed that she would be out that long?
You did.
It was originally six weeks, sure. But then when an option came up for a longer wait time but the bonus of a longer visa and better job you agreed for the longer visa.
So you made that decision together. She included you in that discussion.
You didn’t say: “Sure honey, but just so you know if you go for the longer visa I can’t promise to stay faithful.”
Don't need to offer her “financial support”. You're only responsible for your child. Child support is a sexist construct against men. If he has to be a “good sport” and take “responsibility” then she should be a “good sport” and take “responsibility” for herself and half of her.
Be kind and respectful, since she is your friend (and you most likely want to remain friends???)
“B, i really treasure our friendship and have enjoyed spending more time with you lately. But as for our romantic relationship, I think we are lacking a certain chemistry, and it just doesn't feel right to me. I think we should just stay friends.”
Note that she will be hurt initially and may need some space from you for awhile to process. In time, hopefully, she will be comfortable resuming the friendship.
Exactly, petty is the only word. Grow up and get your priorities straight. Very childish to come up with ”revenge strategies” to make your point.
This is entirely your fault.
How on earth are you going with the rationale that you never agreed that she would be out that long?
You did.
It was originally six weeks, sure. But then when an option came up for a longer wait time but the bonus of a longer visa and better job you agreed for the longer visa.
So you made that decision together. She included you in that discussion.
You didn’t say: “Sure honey, but just so you know if you go for the longer visa I can’t promise to stay faithful.”
Reading your comments it seems pretty clear you are a creep who only thinks about himself
“Thankfully we live in a time where if you actually tried to kidnap her as you've just implied you would like, you'd very likely find yourself shot.”