I had a surgery a few days back on my knee. I had multiple ligaments torn and reconstructed. In any case I'm in brace unable effectively move.
It started a few days back when I was still in hospital, where he would get short with me regarding everything. Him having to take a taxi back and forth to the hospital, having to wait for my meds to be discharged. I just got on with it.
Yesterday, we went to the hospital to change the bandages and when they unwrapped my knee I burst into tears at the state of what my leg looked like. He showed to be supportive at the hospital and then in the car he goes "really you broke down in the hospital". When I got upset about it he said that I notice all the comments and don't remember anything good that he does.
Anyway, for the past 2 days he has primerely been gaming on his computer with his boys and paying next to no attention to me, apart from brining me a drink, some food and an ice pack.
On the 3rd day he brought himself breakfast, didn't even ask me if I wanted any. I have contributed him and pleed for him to unglue himself from the computer and spend time with me. To which he said "your leg is gone, now your hearing is going too". Anyway I looked myself in the room until evening. I decided to write him a message (as he will read but he will brush it off if I speak to him) saying that I feel lonely and abandoned, that I just want a hug and a kiss as this is really tough. He comes in spends 15 minutes with me helping me with physio and runs away back to the computer. Later brings me tea and goes back to chat to his boys. At the end of the night I have noticed that I have been covered in bites, and got really overwhelmed. He said he will Google something and went back to the computer. And I just burst out crying, why can my husband not spend more than 20 minutes with me but has spend 30hrs on the computer!! He comes over and that's where the fight starts. I started to scream and cry while standing on crutches. He said "you're stressed" and walked off. He comes back in and I just lost it, I started screaming at him to go away and leave me be! Started to get him out of the room with my crutches. He started laughing and playing tug of war with the door, after which he snaps crutches out of my hands so I was standing on one leg. I slapped him and he grabbed me by the neck and arms. I have shut the door and that was the end. He is sleeping in the other room now. I know in the morning he will be expecting an appology from me and he will just continue to play games. I need someone to sanity check me here. I understand I'm wrong to slap him but what do you do when someone is just standing and laughing at how helpless and angry you are. Do I need to go and see a doctor for just anger management? Or am I being triggered?
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