I don’t think you are being unreasonable. The chick has demonstrated time and time again she likes your bf and I’m glad he doesn’t like her back but why would he put himself in a position for her to do something? I don’t think your bf is thinking about his actions.
Example 1) they are all drunk and she climbs into his bed and since he’s drunk too, he thinks she’s you and something happens
Example 2) their friends forces them to partner for stuff and she kisses him by surprise and then she says to you he kissed me back and tells you to break up with you.
I can come up with more if he needs to see how his life can change.
Uh ya dude, you’re in denial. Your GF constantly cheats on you, you forgive her, she cheats again, and around and around you go. Does it really matter what anyone here says? Kinda seems like you’re just going to wait around for her to stop fucking this other guy.
She asked why you would believe the word of a random friend over her. Your answer is because she constantly lies to you. Even when you call her out on her lies, she keeps lying.
What advice do you want exactly? You know what’s happening and you’re putting up with it. Either break up with her and find your self respect or keep committing yourself to a woman who has no intention of committing herself to you.
To everyone here advocating for divorce: Would you be rather grow up with a bigoted father who might be capable of change, or in a split family?
To OP: You're absolutely justified in your rage, and it's disappointing that he wouldn't stick up for his sibling, but to play devil's advocate, your husband might legitimately be upset that his sister didn't speak about this with their parents beforehand–moreso than about her being a lesbian. Give it time and when you're both ready, have this conversation together, maybe with a counsellor/therapist if needed.
I want to leave but I don't. I really like her and I'm so attached
Great advice!
I don’t think you are being unreasonable. The chick has demonstrated time and time again she likes your bf and I’m glad he doesn’t like her back but why would he put himself in a position for her to do something? I don’t think your bf is thinking about his actions.
Example 1) they are all drunk and she climbs into his bed and since he’s drunk too, he thinks she’s you and something happens
Example 2) their friends forces them to partner for stuff and she kisses him by surprise and then she says to you he kissed me back and tells you to break up with you.
I can come up with more if he needs to see how his life can change.
It’s only been happening recently. When we first got together he would always be affectionate. I’m guessing that he’s tired of doing that?
You having a stroke bro?
Uh ya dude, you’re in denial. Your GF constantly cheats on you, you forgive her, she cheats again, and around and around you go. Does it really matter what anyone here says? Kinda seems like you’re just going to wait around for her to stop fucking this other guy.
She asked why you would believe the word of a random friend over her. Your answer is because she constantly lies to you. Even when you call her out on her lies, she keeps lying.
What advice do you want exactly? You know what’s happening and you’re putting up with it. Either break up with her and find your self respect or keep committing yourself to a woman who has no intention of committing herself to you.
A spouse is way different from a girlfriend.
Well, you ignored all of the massive red flags because he was “nice” and now you are facing the consequences of your own actions.
If you stay with him, you will be taking care of him forever. Is that what you want?
i’m not usually one to immediately jump on the “leave your SO” train on this sub, but…
leave your SO
he blew off our plan to go with one of those girls.
So, he chose this girl over you? He rather have a date with her than be with you?
He already promised not to use those apps anymore so why is he using them again? Isn’t it, a promise is a promise?
Also, if he’s telling the truth that he only wants to learn and to show good intentions, why is he not talking to men only?
To everyone here advocating for divorce: Would you be rather grow up with a bigoted father who might be capable of change, or in a split family?
To OP: You're absolutely justified in your rage, and it's disappointing that he wouldn't stick up for his sibling, but to play devil's advocate, your husband might legitimately be upset that his sister didn't speak about this with their parents beforehand–moreso than about her being a lesbian. Give it time and when you're both ready, have this conversation together, maybe with a counsellor/therapist if needed.