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Alabama & Johnny, 24 y.o.
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Date: February 24, 2023
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Yikes. I mean, kids need to adjust to different situations, and this is a big life change but if I'm the single mom of a young daughter and my daughter doesn't want to be left alone with or touched by my fiance, red flag. I don't know what I'd do in this situation, though. Except I guess at the very least I'd watch things very closely.
I'm no saint. I've struggled with managing anger in the past too. If I could make one suggestion, it would be to try to get a neutral third party's opinion on messages for any heated conversation before you send them, whenever possible.
It makes it harder to say stuff that sounds reasonable in your head, but won't help create the outcome you actually want.
If you want to try a Hail Mary pass, you could try sending an extremely profuse apology. Keep it short, and make it clear that it's the only message and you won't send any more again unless she's okay with it.
I can't guarantee that it'll work, but I sincerely hope it does.
but it feels like it is the only way to make someone understand how i feel.
Yeah. That makes sense. But…it's kinda like shaking a baby to make it stop crying. It's easy to instinctively want to try to solve some things by force that can't be solved that way.
Have you read the OP? If we are to believe OP's wife, there is no traumatic event in this instance ergo in this instance it is self-delusion not trauma-cause memory repression. She can piece together the story of that evening.
Again, if she had trauma in childhood, those traumatic childhood memories would be repressed. It is not that if you have a lot of childhood adverse experiences, your mind starts to make random holes in your memories of your adult life. There might be memory lapses, we don't remember everything, that's normal. But that's not the phenomenon we are discussing.
There is nothing to wait around for. This is emotional and physical abuse. If it’s the first time he hit you, know that it will get worse. None of the things you describe is normal. Get out now, but make a plan before you do. Abusive partners get a lot worse when they are left because they hate their authority and control being questioned. Pack your things when he’s not around, change your number, find a safe place to go and never look back. I recommend also calling a domestic abuse refuge and speaking with them, they’ll do an assessment for you to help evaluate the risk you’re facing.
It’s anything but irrelevant. It’s an additional piece of evidence.
You don’t. This is who he is. You can’t date someone for who they might become. You date them for who they are. You walked passed all the glaring red flags and now here you are. How much of your life are you going to sacrifice for this immature man baby?? Why have you allowed yourself to be treated like this?
I personally would break things off with him. Dude has .. issues.
Are we serious? I can orgasm with the power of thought. If you're relaxed enough to mediate, it can happen and it has nothing to do with the masseuse, it's all in your head. The massage would just aide in the relaxation. Congratulations, you have an amazing sensual, sexual person. If you haven't wrecked your relationship, try tantric sex with her.
I think it might be time to end this friendship. She seems like the sort of 'friend' that would sleep with your future partner behind your back.
This was my gut reaction. It was off putting and if I can spend my time with people who don’t neg or people who do, I’m going to pick the people who don’t. As more days have passed it feels more innocent what she did, but I don’t want to go through it again
“Kill your child” Grow up.
Terribad advice. You dont get back with a cheater. Never, ever, under any circunstances or promises or boundaries.
I can promise if this is how he fucks, he cant be changed. Sex is a physical connection but he is making it purely transaction.
Just be a normal adult rather than an expert at reverse psychology. Tell her that you are not able to stay in the relationship and need to work on yourself and to please give you that space without guilt.
Sorry this is completely wrong. You are free to not give details of your sexual past to your partner but it is unequivocally wrong to lie to them. We shouldn't have to explain to an adult that lying to your partner is wrong.
I know it seems so minor but this is an incompatibility. Unless you are willing to sacrifice your comfort for the rest of your life Or he is willing yo expend the money on those comforts(with you sharing cost), then it won’t work. I wouldn’t be willing to be uncomfortable all day every day just to save a couple hundred dollars per year.
Um I would be very upset with my husband if that ever happened ( it won’t). That’s between u and your farther, your husband has no right to raise his hand to your father. He could just not like him after what happend between u and your dad but raising his hand and breaking your dads hands is not only extremely violent but so so disrespectful.
You ditched your daughter with her dying father at six. Got involved with and pregnant by a married man. Named your kids the same name to try and hide it. Refused to help her with school because her lazy brother deserved it more because he’s a guy. You said she was supposed to be married to a guy YOU approve off and be a homemaker. Your daughters not the one with something wrong with her. You sound like a narcissistic abusive manipulative sociopath
You’re 19 you can’t picture a life without her because you haven’t had a life. Break up, she’s not right for you, be sad for a few months and then get out there and find someone who fits you better. You will look back and be happier. Otherwise you stay trapped in a bad looking scenario hoping to survive it for no reason.
^^ THIS 1000x
I think you should absolutely break up with her, because you deserve better than someone who would make such disgusting threats against you. But you have to keep your safety and wellbeing in mind, as well.
It's fucked up that he's involving his friends and other people in your couple issue instead of working it out with you. It isn't constructive
yeah dude shes clearly uncomfortable that youre going to be living with her. why cant you live w ur gf?
Hi friend,
What are you hoping for from this relationship? What are the great things about this guy and how he treats you that have made you see him seriously for almost a year?
More info please. 🙂
Ofc you are but sometimes that is what people do. For me this would eventually become a frustratingly impossible relationship but continuing is entirely up to you. Just think about what you might think about this situation in your late 30s – will you happy or think you have wasted your time ?
If this is sarcasm…which I hope it is… You delivered it terribly.
If not, then it's a pretty asshole thing to say to an Insecure girl.
She has stated she feels stuck in the past mentally and wants to feel like she’s 18 again when she first met me. She said the feeling she had talking to someone new brought her back to that time and feels incredibly lonely.
This is why couples still need to actually date each other while they're in a committed relationship, and this also includes during marriage!
That’s what I thought too, either way the relationship is fucked I feel bad for that kid they’re about to have
Has he brushed it off when you’ve tried to initiate plans?