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Room for on-line sex video chat YUKIRINxx
Model from: jp
Languages: ja
Birth Date: 1996-07-17
Body Type: bodyTypeAverage
Ethnicity: ethnicityAsian
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Date: February 23, 2023
I was still providing through all my savings and our housing was covered. I think that is being missed throughout all of this. Our finances were separate, I handled most expenses throughout.
I thought that too but I think it was because he had no control over her and who she talked to. Her mom had sole custody because her mom was 18 when she was born and her dad was a much older married man. Her moms parents didn’t approve and she even has her moms maiden name as her last name. The mom never lived at the dads house and neither did my fiancé; she was born out of an affair when her mom slept with her dad while he was married and had his two twins at home. They got married in secret but the parents (fiancé’s grandparents never approved) the dad also has heat on him from his first wife reporting him to CPS and the police.
u/throwRAsummerbeN What did he say? That he wants to have sex with them? That literally says nothing about no interest.
Why are you referring to yourself as “them”? Lol.
People who are into you don't open with “DTF”. But you know that.
Your to put together for them they like a wild mess.
I love him. He is the love of my life. He’s my first and inly partner. There’s just no going back atm. He was clear, I understood.
People can change, I truly believe that. But also if you do agree to give it another shot I would suggest couples and individual therapy for you both.
Set a filter to have his emails automatically delete and move on with your life
Why have you put up with these cycles of childish silent treatment for so long?
We have both read and taken on all the feedback below.
Good, all too often I read of people who ignore the advice of others, and it blows up in their face unsurprisingly.
She has deleted him on all platforms
Good, that is the bare minimum she could do tbh.
and said the reason why she wanted to talk is because she felt lonely. I have read their conversations and they were non-sexual other than when I joined in at the beginning.
It's understandable that if she was lonely she would reach out for frienship, not to be railed by another guy… wtf.
In some ways this hurt me more because she was confiding in someone who wasn’t me
The thing is, that is normal to confide in other people, that's what got you in this situation in the first place. She should have other people to confide into other than yourself.
We have both agreed to communicate more going forwards
Good, communication is key to a happy life (or an amicable part).
She has stated she feels stuck in the past mentally and wants to feel like she’s 18 again when she first met me. She said the feeling she had talking to someone new brought her back to that time and feels incredibly lonely. She doesn’t have many friends and we are together pretty much all of the time (both wfh so 24/7 practically)
This sounds awfully like justification for cheating, or justification for future cheating. It doesn't sound like she did thankfully but at the same time being lonely is no excuse for cheating, if you're unhappy in your monogamous relationship then you either need to communicate effectively or hit the 'eject' button. It sounds like you weren't receptive to her needs, but equally she also did not communicate effectively. Understand the motivations but not excuse poor behaviour.
I know I need to work harder to make her feel listened to and mixing fantasy with loneliness clearly wasn’t a good idea.
And equally she needs to communicate better, this is not all on you my dude and that's what I get from your update. You both had an equal hand in this situation and how it happened. Luckily you got the heebie jeebies before anything happened because it doesn't sound like there would any going back if you had gone through with it.
If it doesn’t work then so be it, but the fact that she has been so open after reading all of your messages is promising
Good, I hope that your update is just painting a poor picture on how you are both taking this as your update makes it sound like you're shouldering all of the blame for her loneliness which I think is a bad take on what happened. If she had no communication how would you even know how she was feeling as you're not inside her head, and if she did communicate and you didn't listen then why did she focus on fucking another guy rather than just saying “hey man, I'm out”. It takes 2 to tango and you're both responsible for things working or not, equally.
If you both focus on communication and honesty, you'll both be all right.