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Date: February 19, 2023
Do you hear yourself? You never ever change yourself to please someone else. Molding yourself to become something you are not will only end one of 2 ways
1) you'll eventually resent her 2) you'll go back to how you really are at some point
Break ups hurt but they happen for a reason. Just let it go
Try talking first
Maybe the fact that they made agreements in the beginning has taken the fun out of it for him. No forbidden fruit so he’s creating it himself.
A man that talks other women down to lift you up, are only lifting you up as long as you meet sertain conditions. You being ok with this previously, but not when directed at you at your age really isnt amazing, tbh.
Now that you know you dont meet his conditions anymore, you can either cower under them or learn and make better choises in the future.
Honestly, I'd ask innocently if he forgot yall share locations and reiterate the question of if he's sure he made it to work on time.
Well, you’re in quite the pickle. Ditch this loser, block everything, and go with your plan to on-line with your parents and baby. You probably shouldn’t have said baby, but you’re about 5-6 months late for that.
Whatever you do, DO NOT RUIN YOUR LIFE FOR THIS LOSER.
“I like you a lot as a friend but I'm not attracted to you” is honest and it avoids being pointlessly, hurtfully, specific.
Hopefully she won't press the issue, but if she does then it's okay to politely end the conversation firmly to avoid hurting her feelings any more than necessary.
You may be right…
She’s not a guy though
Just say you're hung up on someone else. But also maybe think through why you're uncomfortable dating this person if you are attracted to them. You don't have to sleep with them just because you go out with her doesn't mean you need to sleep with her or kiss her.
Why? What good would that do? Just say you aren't into her that way and move on. The same way you would anyone else you weren't interested in.
I understand. It's the first argument. She's your ex it shouldn't matter. But it bugs me.
I guess it's for the better. At least I haven't wasted my time with her and it hasn't been years, just months
I understand. It's the first argument. She's your ex it shouldn't matter. But it bugs me.
I guess it's for the better. At least I haven't wasted my time with her and it hasn't been years, just months
Relationships don’t work without trust. She violated his trust. He doesn’t trust her, so he checks up on her. If she doesn’t like it, maybe in her next relationship she should try being a trustworthy person.
It's nice sleeping beside someone. It's nice waking up to someone.
However, if you're looking for more it could be they're playing with your feelings for them to get the emotional fulfillment they want without giving you commitment
Also true. I really care about her and want to forgive her, but it’s funny that she says it was a “mistake” while I’m intentionally hurting her.
I get a mistake being a one time thing in a moment of weakness, like some gorgeous guy walked up to her and asked for her number, but she intentionally got on two dating sights, sexted multiple people, and then gaslighted me into thinking I was paranoid and insecure because I caught on to the sketchy behavior.
So that’s honestly why I’m upset and made those type of comments. It’s like yes I want to forgive her, but SHOW me that you’re actually sorry, you know?
like l for example I made a comment about her working out and said she should continue to look even better for the nudes she’s sending out.
Is that petty? Absolutely. But it’s like just say that you’re sorry and never going to do that again. Make me feel a little better.
Talk to him! Don’t say you heard him in therapy. That wasn’t cool to listen.
But you can tell him that you’re having trouble processing the mixed emotions having an abortion causes, and if he’s like to talk about it with you, you’d love that. A LOT of people who choose abortion are sad about it! It can be the right decision, and you can feel that it is the right thing to do but also mourn the loss. That’s allowed.
Maybe you guys can grieve together.
You aren't being selfish, your partner isn't ready to settle down and I'd consider putting marriage plans on hold. I would wait till the baby is born and figure out some pre-martial counseling. Does he expect to continue his party lifestyle as a father? It certainly seems that way.
And no he doesn’t work night shift he just has a crap sleep schedule from playing video games until 2 am. He’s been working on it and even when he goes to sleep early he still does this. He says he’s always been like this and doesn’t like how it makes him late. How can this be fixed?
He needs to start consistently going to bed around idk 10pm or 11pm and sticking to that for a while.
Stop all screens and video games at 9pm
If you have to do the same to help enforce him, do it as well.
Failing that, move out. Let him fail and fall. But move out beforehand so that you're not impacted.
Go to your graduation. It's about you. Not him.
Well there you go. Unfortunately her emotions are likely like a big seesaw, swinging back and forth between trying to love herself and times she just feels a mistake. And any partner she has until she deals with it properly is going to be on the receiving end of it sooner or later.
So I hope you can see that it wasn't without explanation, rather it is likely a storm that has brewed for a long time. And the sad part? The more you mean to her the more self conscious she'd have become.
You may find she 'moves on' quickly. If she does though be aware it is not a healthy way, it will be her 'turning off' her emotions, rebounding, making a mess of herself. You can't take that personally.
People won't always be there to celebrate with you. Learn to celebrate yourself and you'll be much happier in life!
Got any friends who want to grab food after the graduation ceremony? Got a desire to eat a heap of pizza and some cake?
Remember to get someone to snap a photo for you graduating if you don't get one automatically. (Some places do photographers I think?)
Yeah, the last guy I was with that acted like this and needed “privacy” was a serial cheater with a secret family out of state. Your husbands behavior sounds EXACTLY like his.
No point in trying to have a conversation with him. He’ll lie and delete everything. You know what’s going on here, you just don’t want to believe it. He’s clearly already been gas lighting you bc you’re nervous about his reaction. If he is hiding something, he sure as shit isn’t going to come clean. When you confront him: he’ll get defensive, blame shift to you not trusting him, then go to the bathroom and delete everything off his phone.
You shouldn’t be nervous to talk with your husband about anything. That’s a sign of abuse. I’m sorry, but why do you feel you need to walk on eggshells or he’s go I could turn to my husbands and say “can I see your phone” and without hesitation he’s put it in my hand because he has nothing to hide. I’d do the same for him but we’ve never had to bc neither one of us are sneaking around having secret conversations.
I’m sorry but every single time I’ve seen or heard of someone phone guarding they are cheating. I’m not going to tell you to snoop but I would. If there are enough red flags to warrant it and you’re with a liar, self preservation takes precedence over their feelings. There shouldn’t be this many red flags.
Talk to your brother about it. He will give some perspective and deserves to know what he might face.
Check in with SIL when you can.
I would be hesitant to divorce until you are confident to have more than 50/50 custody.
I howled at the entire thing.
OP writes like the whitest person I’ve ever encountered. Like, I know what this guy looks like.
And his gf is a kook.
This post is chef’s kiss perfect.
Husband said it's different when it is your blood, he doesn't consider OP's brother part of his family, because he isn't blood related to him. Husband can't have it both ways, it's ok to be gay, as long as he doesn't share blood with him.