You’re fear of being left is causing you to be honest with your gf and share your story from your perspective. This will give the potential for her to bear it from someone else, find out you lied to her by omission, which will make it harder to convince her that you’re not guilty of this SA. Then she will leave you.
You see how letting the fear control your actions actually causes the very thing you’re afraid of?
Get ahead of it. Sit her down. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Tell her your story. Including what happens with the last girl and your legit fear and anxiety of it happening again with her.
Then either 2 things happen:
She believes you, learns you are willing to be honest and have uncomfortable conversations with her, which will mean when she hears it from someone else she can set them straight on what happened or ignore them since she trusts you or;
You find out that she is a person that does not trust you and you being open and honest with her means she leaves, which actually means she was clearly the wrong person for you and saves you from inevitable future heart break.
It really sucks this happened to you. And especially that it’s something you’re still dealing with. But hiding it and lying is rarely the way to get away from something. Just like how you best it before and proved your innocence, you just gotta meet this one head on.
I am so glad you are getting help making a decision here. B is a drug addict and will do and say anything to “turn” you against the folks that care about you the most. I wish you all the best OP, good luck with the birth of your baby. 🙂
Yep, honestly sounds so unhealthy.
You’re fear of being left is causing you to be honest with your gf and share your story from your perspective. This will give the potential for her to bear it from someone else, find out you lied to her by omission, which will make it harder to convince her that you’re not guilty of this SA. Then she will leave you.
You see how letting the fear control your actions actually causes the very thing you’re afraid of?
Get ahead of it. Sit her down. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Tell her your story. Including what happens with the last girl and your legit fear and anxiety of it happening again with her.
Then either 2 things happen:
She believes you, learns you are willing to be honest and have uncomfortable conversations with her, which will mean when she hears it from someone else she can set them straight on what happened or ignore them since she trusts you or;
You find out that she is a person that does not trust you and you being open and honest with her means she leaves, which actually means she was clearly the wrong person for you and saves you from inevitable future heart break.
It really sucks this happened to you. And especially that it’s something you’re still dealing with. But hiding it and lying is rarely the way to get away from something. Just like how you best it before and proved your innocence, you just gotta meet this one head on.
The extra crispy channel?
Bud, what’s your next move?
I am so glad you are getting help making a decision here. B is a drug addict and will do and say anything to “turn” you against the folks that care about you the most. I wish you all the best OP, good luck with the birth of your baby. 🙂